TTC #1 over 35

Sorry to hear it @thejadestoneandthedragon. Time for a nice hot bath and some chocolate.

It can be really hard hearing others' experiences wherever you go @HollyGolightly4 I've had three pregnancies, one up to half way through the pregnancy, and still no living children. I'm sure every time I've had a positive there has been someone who wished it was them and had the very normal feelings of 'why not me?' Despite having been pregnant three times, I have the same thoughts every time I see someone trying for baby number 2,3,4, etc. I end up thinking, other people can have any many as they like, but I can't even have one? I think even those trying for baby 4,5,6 have likely had scary or upsetting times along the way.

Conceiving and pregnancy have this outward glow to everyone in society until you actually step into this world and realise what a struggle it is. I learn new things all the time here and am so grateful.

How are you doing and what CD/DPO?

Just to say thank you for starting this thread! I'm really struggling on some of the others where people are starting to talk about how they're struggling with child number 365 (exaggerated 😅) it just feels like a safe space.

Sorry @thejadestoneandthedragon 💐 be nice to yourself.

1DPO here
Had the most uncomfortable ovulation pain for a few days, which built up to just before midnight and then it was awful for about 30-40mins and then just stopped! Nothing at all today.
so I’m taking that as ovulation, lol

BUT I’m very grateful to have ovulated and hopefully be back on track post coil

AF arrived for me this morning 😒
I had so many 'symptoms' this month - like every month! I'm going to try not to symptom spot this cycle but it's so hard! Good luck to everyone approaching their testing window! Fingers crossed for a BFP on this thread soon 🤞🏽❤️

Hi @BabyTin2025, ah yes, very similar dates. It's always nice to have people to pass the time with :).

My last message should have said the cramping was unusual* for me, not usual, but it's not amounted to anything.

I'm either 8 or 9DPO today (I suspect fertility friend has my ovulation out by a day), but did a test this morning just in case I am 9DPO. BFN, and I've had all my previous positives at 9DPO. Maybe FF is wrong, I'll test again tomorrow. I never really get boob pain, but have noticed they feel a tiny bit tender this morning. Otherwise, beyond the cramps two days ago, I've had no symptoms to spot, really.

@BabyTin2025 I am even though I’m trying so hard not to - I’ve got this feeling in the back of my head that I’ll find it difficult to conceive so trying to mentally prepare myself by being negative…but at the same time I genuinely feel so weird! 7DPO (I think - it’s my first time using OPKs so wasn’t 100% sure) and I’ve got weird sensations in my uterus, pre-AF backache, and strong sense of taste/smell that’s knocking me a bit sick.

I know it’s probably all in my head but driving me crazy! Maybe I’ll lighten up a bit after this first cycle…

How are you doing?

Hi @KittyFantastica
also 7dpo now so we’ll likely be due on (or hopefully not!) at the same time! :-)

I’ve had nothing to report until tonight when I’ve had an abundance of sticky (but not stretchy) clear CM, which is unusual for me after ovulating. I’m hoping it’s a decent sign but time will tell!

How are tou feeling now? Hopefully not too much discomfort from the cramps!

is anyone else guilty of sympt spotting?

xx

Welcome @binacoffee hope you find lots of support here. It really does help to have others to journey with.

I'm 7DPO now and have painful cramps on and off all day. This is pretty usual for me, it feels like AF. I'm still 5 days away from being due AF, but it's unnerving anyway.

Welcome @binacoffee! I’m on my first try too. Fingers crossed for you!

Almost the same as me! I’m 42 next week. I’ve finally got a high OPK post mirena removal, so I’m more positive than I was.
fingers crossed for you!

Hi I'm joining the thread! I'm 43, we agreed in December to try this year so I'm on my first cycle. Excited but aware that it might not happen. Started off chilled, a week later I got ovulation tests, 2 different pregnancy tests, 2 periods apps... 😆Anyway good luck to us all and it's nice to hear about others in the same boat.

So sorry to see this @Sleepypixxie My loss at 6 weeks was similar to a chemical. My tests got lighter and I woke up at 01:30am to mild contractions. The next morning, light bleeding started. It never got particularly heavy, in fact it was mostly clear fluid with slightly larger clots than usual and a bit of red blood, which is apparently usual. For some, I believe chemicals can be just like a regular period.

I conceived 14 days after my 6 week loss, so it doesn't always affect things at all. Sadly, that pregnancy turned into a MMC at 9 weeks, but ovulation and fertilisation happened as normal. Sorry you're going through it.

Sorry @Sleepypixxie xxx

I'm sorry @Sleepypixxie 💐

Oh @Sleepypixxie I’m so sorry, that’s awful. I’ve no direct experience but from everything I’ve read a chemical doesn’t affect your ability to conceive next cycle. Hope you are being well looked after and have lots of love around you.

Hello everyone, just thought I’d give you a bit of an update from me.

I got my first bfp a week ago on Friday at 11dpo, period was due last Monday. Since 14dpo, my tests have gotten lighter. This morning’s is now very faint & the cb digi said ‘not pregnant’ so I think I’m in the midst of a chemical pregnancy, sadly. I’ve had no cramps or bleeding & still have sore boobs, but apart from that I no longer feel pregnant & all other symptoms have vanished (nausea, extreme thirst, tiredness, hunger etc). I have a doc appointment on Monday as I’ve asked them to check my bloods.

Just wondering if anyone else has experienced similar? I just want to bleed now but I’ve read it can mess your cycles up. Really hoping not as I already feel like time is slipping away, just one of those things I guess.

hope you’re all doing good ❤️

Yes, it can be a bit of a ball ache with a digital thermometer. I have a smart watch that takes my temp automatically every morning. I set it for 5am and it buzzed gently, I hit stop and go back to sleep, and it takes my skin temp immediately. I also have a digital thermometer and I've used both simultaneously with very little variation, so I trust my watch. I do have to wear it with the sensor against the inside of my wrist rather than on the outside though as it's more accurate that way for some reason!

I don't track temps because I find it too confusing all these graphs etc😅 plus I just know it's another thing I'd obsess over and I just cant do it..
I've not tested since 9/10 dpo and that was my last test, I've not bought any more. Today I'm 13/14dpo and had a bit of brown CM and headache so I've no doubt my AF is on the way! 😮‍💨

I have not started tracking BBT yet @KittyFantastica but I’m thinking about doing it from next month as so many seem to find it helpful.

Sorry you are feeling so disheartened - it must be hard not to compare to what you experienced before. It seems like there is a lot of variation between conceptions though, so not necessarily a sign you’re out for this month - will keep fingers crossed for you. Where are you in your cycle, have you much longer to wait?

Does anyone else do BBT? I had a huge dip today and am feeling very disheartened. I didn't have a dip like this when we conceived our little boy, so it's making me think it won't happen this month. Still angers until AF shows up, and I know I shouldn't compare, but it's hard not to.

Thank you @KittyFantastica that is very helpful 💐

@BabyS2025 @HollyGolightly4 @Clara202 I bought these ones from Amazon back in May. You get five in a pack. I'd had a D&C after my missed miscarriage and my cycle was all over the place. I got them to try and confirm I was actually ovulating as my BBT was all over the place too. I did ovulate at the end of May, confirmed by these, and I got a positive pregnancy test early June.

You take one five days after suspected ovulation, I believe this is to allow enough of it to build up to be detectable in the test. Unlike other strip tests, two lines of any strength means totally negative and only one line visible (the control line) means positive. Proov do them too, but they're more expensive and they tell you to test three or our times, but I only use one of the Wondfos to confirm.

Me three! Ditto where to buy and do you use them to basically check you've ovulated?

Me neither! Where is best to buy them?