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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC #1 over 35

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Clara202 · 16/12/2024 18:43

As the title suggests, if you’re over 35 and TTC your first, I’d love to hear from you! Would be nice to hear from a few of us in the same boat 🙂

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Clara202 · 21/01/2025 10:59

@thejadestoneandthedragon how long have you been trying and how old are you? I wouldn’t beat yourself up about it. The months fly by very quickly and I always read that it takes most people in our age bracket a year, 8 months being the average. I had that in mind when we started trying but as the months fly by it certainly does begin to feel like it will never happen.
I tend to have a short luteal phase, I will test on Saturday or Sunday if I don’t have my usual pre AF symptoms.

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thejadestoneandthedragon · 21/01/2025 10:52

Clara202 · 21/01/2025 10:28

@thejadestoneandthedragon sounds very positive so far anyway. We’re similar on our cycle days by the sounds of it. This is our 5th cycle, we will wait until the 6th cycle and will pursue testing after that if we haven’t been successful.

Yes I think that's very sensible. I kick myself every day that I waited so long to get checked out. Wish I'd done it sooner and got things going but here we are!
Ooooh we are similar stages in our cycle, are you testing early? My AF isn't due for 13days and I'm going to try and hold out! ❤️

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Clara202 · 21/01/2025 10:44

@EEB1989 I don’t chat about it much in the TWW as we are both exhausted thinking about it during fertile week. This week is usually bad for me hormonally, everyone and everything irritates me prior to AF’s arrival

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EEB1989 · 21/01/2025 10:31

Clara202 · 21/01/2025 10:23

@EEB1989 I'm guilty of going a bit quiet on CD1 for about a week as I recover from another AF appearance! What day do you usually get your peak? It’s only Tuesday so plenty of time between now and when your husband goes away so I wouldn’t rule yourself out just yet 😊

Me too. I try not to look on here or social media in that first week. I hide away and read or binge something on Netflix.

I usually peak late, around 16/17. Still time to reach it before he goes on Sunday night. I’ll have to make the most of him while I can 😂.
I’m grateful that he’s away in the TWW though, I think I drive him mad in the wait… it’s all I talk about 🙈.

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Clara202 · 21/01/2025 10:28

@thejadestoneandthedragon sounds very positive so far anyway. We’re similar on our cycle days by the sounds of it. This is our 5th cycle, we will wait until the 6th cycle and will pursue testing after that if we haven’t been successful.

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thejadestoneandthedragon · 21/01/2025 10:25

Also, I've booked my first IVF consultation for next Monday so I'm feeling pretty hopeful overall ☺️ I hope you're all doing ok ❤️

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Clara202 · 21/01/2025 10:23

@EEB1989 I'm guilty of going a bit quiet on CD1 for about a week as I recover from another AF appearance! What day do you usually get your peak? It’s only Tuesday so plenty of time between now and when your husband goes away so I wouldn’t rule yourself out just yet 😊

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thejadestoneandthedragon · 21/01/2025 10:16

CD16 for me today, I think I ovulated on CD12 or 13 like normal, all my ovulation symptoms were around then and EWCM etc, so I think I'm 3/4dpo now! Used the Ferti-lily conception cup 5 x in fertile week and conceive lubricant too! I'm really hopeful this cycle🤞🏽 nothing to report except lower back pain but that's pretty normal for me at this stage in my cycle. Trying not to symptom spot too much 😅

EEB1989 · 21/01/2025 09:56

Clara202 · 21/01/2025 09:43

How are we all doing?

CD20, 5dpo here. Had zero cm on the days when I was supposedly ovulating, but then had some (not much) maybe 2/3 days after the peak. I thought the cm was supposed to arrive in the days before the peak. 🤷🏼‍♀️
Nothing to report here symptom wise or anything like that. No burning desire to test or anything either.

I was going to ask the same thing earlier. I thought we had all been quiet for a few days.

I am currently CD13, waiting for the peak. I usually get CM before but it’s yet to arrive.
My husband is working away next week so I really hope ovulation happens soon otherwise we’re out this cycle.

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Clara202 · 21/01/2025 09:43

How are we all doing?

CD20, 5dpo here. Had zero cm on the days when I was supposedly ovulating, but then had some (not much) maybe 2/3 days after the peak. I thought the cm was supposed to arrive in the days before the peak. 🤷🏼‍♀️
Nothing to report here symptom wise or anything like that. No burning desire to test or anything either.

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Clara202 · 18/01/2025 19:56

@Toppstileslover things are bad when you’re the oldest person in a group called The Dinos eh?😂 Welcome! I have been keeping an eye and on Dinos and thinking of you all. It’s understandable to feel the way you’re feeling but I have no doubt that you’ll be absolutely fine and will have no issues going forward.
I am on CD 17 and 2DPO so I’m into the TWW. I don’t think I’ll even bother testing this time, I’ll just forget about it, wait for AF and save the tests. In the grand scheme of things I’ve not been trying that long but I feel like I’m flying through cycles.

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Toppstileslover · 18/01/2025 17:16

Hey @Clara202 i have been thinking of you from dinos (only these are true dinos 😂) ❤️

im 37 and ttc number one, had my first ever pregnancy after being very lucky in month two and now have a mmc on week 9. Tried MVA yesterday but found out I have a narrow cervix so have to have surgery under general to remove. I was fine about it until yesterday now in a world of ttc paranoia already.

Just want my cycle and to get back ttc. Sending love and baby dust to all - there is so much additional pressure with age too. Though literally every single doctor I have spoken to (I always say I’m old) has said I’m not so I’m trying to be positive.

May this be your month ✨✨✨

HollyGolightly4 · 17/01/2025 13:30

💐💐 @Screenburn terrible isn't it?!

Screenburn · 17/01/2025 09:37

HollyGolightly4 · 15/01/2025 19:55

Think my period has arrived. I only say think, because of the one time I was pregnant and had a period. Feel totally bereft. The entire world around me is pregnant (not much of an exaggeration!) Trying to stay strong. I'm doing dry Jan so also trying not to turn to drink 🤣.

Sorry to hear this @HollyGolightly4. I am also out for this month - AF arrived this morning. So all my ‘symptoms’ were in my head…has definitely been a good cautionary tale for me not to get too excited going into next cycle.

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Clara202 · 16/01/2025 09:14

It would drive you mad! I got a flashing but then obviously hours passed before I took the second test, which was static. So for all I know the static could have appeared sooner had I tested earlier etc, which would have started the 12-48 hour window sooner. I know people hate the TWW but I think fertile week aka guessing game week is worse 😅
No cm at all really which doesn’t bode well but I had some cramps over the last few days.

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KittyFantastica · 15/01/2025 23:22

It's only the surge that's supersonic @Clara202, not the ovulation. Ovulation takes place 12-48 hours after the surge no matter how quickly it happens. As long as you identify the surge, you've got time.

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Clara202 · 15/01/2025 22:55

KittyFantastica · 15/01/2025 19:48

Welcome to the supersonic surge club! 🥳

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I wonder if the supersonic surge disappears just as quickly?! I’m wondering if I already missed the boat if it’s as quick as the progression from empty to static was! DTD Monday, skipped yesterday, DTD today and will repeat tomorrow and Friday.

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HollyGolightly4 · 15/01/2025 19:55

Think my period has arrived. I only say think, because of the one time I was pregnant and had a period. Feel totally bereft. The entire world around me is pregnant (not much of an exaggeration!) Trying to stay strong. I'm doing dry Jan so also trying not to turn to drink 🤣.

KittyFantastica · 15/01/2025 19:48

Clara202 · 15/01/2025 18:55

CD14, flashing smiley this morning at around 7am - there was nothing there yesterday around 5pm. Got home from work and tested again and now I have a static. So in the space of 24 hours I’ve had empty, flashing, static 🤯

Welcome to the supersonic surge club! 🥳

binacoffee · 15/01/2025 19:08

8dpo for me and v low chance of success this month because we only tried in the evening 1dpo (I think 1dpo!!). Was still getting my head around it then with ovulation tests. I have regular periods so hoping that plus knowing how the tests work will help despite my 43yr self!!

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Clara202 · 15/01/2025 18:55

CD14, flashing smiley this morning at around 7am - there was nothing there yesterday around 5pm. Got home from work and tested again and now I have a static. So in the space of 24 hours I’ve had empty, flashing, static 🤯

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Daisyinthegrass · 14/01/2025 22:43

Thanks everyone.

I dont really know where I am in my cycle as they're irregular. I don't know if I'm imagining symptoms or just aware of them but my breasts are tender, I'm peeing more and my vaginal discharge has changed (never really paid attention to it before though so maybe it hasn'!). Honestly, I think my period is going to arrive soon but I'm crossing my fingers these are early symptoms - tested negative a few days ago though so not optimistic.

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Clara202 · 14/01/2025 19:01

CD13 here, waiting on a smiley!

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carolinep3 · 14/01/2025 16:52

Cd4,
Plodding along, waiting for af to stop!

MrsH26 · 14/01/2025 16:08

9DPO for me and I’ve managed to resist testing so far!
Not feeling optimistic though for some reason.

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