TTC #1 over 35

@KittyFantastica thats great news, so far! Everything crossed for you!
Have they told you about getting the cervical suture to help prevent pre-term birth?

I’m 13wks tomorrow. Dating scan done and NT very normal. Screening was 5 days ago now, I’m hoping I don’t hear anything today or Monday and then I should be low risk on screening!

Thank you @Clara202 @Nosejug @MrsH26I think of all all often and do check in now and again, but I know it can be triggering to hear from pregnant people, so I don’t like to jump in a lot as I don’t want to hurt anyone.

I’m doing okay, thus far, thank you. I’ve been very quiet on here since my positive as I’m just so scared. Making it through the first trimester has been a big step (I’m 14 weeks today), but the second trimester is our even bigger danger zone now, so the fear and stress is very difficult. There have been many panics and upsets already. We are under a specialist and having some investigations, hopefully) to see if we can prevent what happened last time from happening again. We just don’t know what will happen, and it’s horrifying.

But baby (fingers crossed) seems to be doing well, so that’s what we hold onto.

@KittyFantastica i’ve also been wondering how are! I’ve not seen you about recently and was hoping you’re ok and everything is going smoothly for you!

@KittyFantasticathanks so much for sharing that, it’s good to know it won’t necessarily mean there’s an issue with mine being short :) I hope everything’s going as smoothly as possible for you and that you’re able to enjoy this time.

Hello, just wanted to come and check in on you all and say I’m thinking of you. This thread is so lovely, and I’m so, so hopeful for you all.

i wanted to say, @Nosejug, my luteal phase got super short at one point (though it’s never been longer than 12 days). When I conceived my son (who we lost at 19 weeks in Sept last year), I wasn’t even having proper periods. I’d had a D&C eight weeks previously and I was having intermittent bleeds every 18 days or so, so assumed I wasn’t even ovulating. Imagine my surprise when I felt weird and had a positive test just 18 days after the last bleed. Having worked it out, I must have ovulated on CD9 (and I was still bleeding on CD8!), and had the positive at 9DPO. When I called up the EPU to tell them, she told me it was impossible and I must have my dates wrong. A scan two weeks later proved my dates were bang on. She couldn’t believe it. So that was a 9 day luteal phase!

Ok, it could be possible that the fluctuation isn’t bad news, and pms symptoms are concurrent with pregnancy, but either way, it’s like Clara said, it’s a great hurdle to have crossed no matter what. Especially so soon after starting trying. I’ll be thinking of you and wishing for the best.

Thanks @Nosejug. I’m not optimistic as I started having PMS symptoms yesterday and the line got darker yesterday but is a bit lighter today. So don’t think it’s stuck. :(

@Screenburnoch I didn’t have high hopes this time, and ivf will be upon me again soon so I don’t feel too rubbish this cycle. Thanks for your kind words though :) I hope your line is coming along nicely!

Not sure about the luteal phase @Nosejug but I’m sorry AF arrived for you. Hope you get some answers soon.

@Clara202ive read anything from 11 can be normal. My only pregnancy was from a weird extended cycle post failed ivf, but im hoping that’s not anything to do with it. I know what you mean about your consultant appointment. I’m grateful I have the next ivf semi lined up so I’ll have someone/something helping my body out. I just want out of this hellish waiting!

Period has come early again. Is a 10 day luteal phase something to worry about? I honestly can’t remember if it was the case pre-ivf. Please god don’t let it mean I’m going into meno :(

I had my first at 35. and only after ttc for 2 years. My advice would be go and see someone asap after a few months if no results. The sooner the experts get involved the better your options will be. Get your FSH levels tested. I went through menopause as soon as I had DS which my Dr said explained why it probably took so long to conceive.

Obvs not trying to panic anyone here and i wish you all luck. But if you get experts involved soon you have more choices,

Thank you @Nosejug and you are totally right of course - thank you for the words of wisdom and crossed fingers! Will keep things crossed for another pregnancy for you to cherish too.

Just realised I got your name wrong earlier @Clara202 sorry - my brain is all over the place!

This will be only be our third cycle so will have been incredibly lucky if it’s real - DH has had testicular issues in the recent past, and I was warned one of my ovaries might not work after having radiotherapy near to it a couple of years ago. So really expected it would take us a v long time if it was even possible at all.

I think that is affecting my ability to believe it and to let myself be cautiously excited. But you’re totally right - it is another step forward regardless so def something to celebrate. Thank you so much for the encouragement!

I’ve had indents before @Screenburn but you wouldn’t get 5 indents in a row within the test frame. My dp also didn’t believe my faint test (during my only pregnancy, not this cycle) and it took getting a digital to convince him. I treat them like covid tests in my mind, a faint positive is still positive. Fingers crossed for a darker line each day!! Enjoy every moment of this, I still treasure all the days I was pregnancy x

Ah thanks @Nosejug! Yes my first ever. Trying not to get my hopes up though as I’ve seen people with indents that look a bit similar.

Have also just realised that MN does something with the photos to make it look blurrier?! I promise it’s more visible on the photo I actually took!😂

FRER looks like this…

DH can see it too but he is not convinced it’s real as it’s so faint. Had to tell him that my tests before now have been stark white with no hint of any line and he was slightly less skeptical then, but I’ve a feeling he won’t believe it (and maybe I won’t either!) unless it’s dark…

Thanks for your eager line eyes @Clara202 and @Nosejug! Crossing fingers for you to see something soon @Nosejug.

I did another cheapie this morning which was still v faint but the FRERs have arrived so going to give those a go…

Oh yes @Screenburni see it too! All the way through those tests. And at 9dpo you’d expect it to be faint. I’ve had horrible disappointments with clear blue (and no other brand has done that to me). I’m 9dpo today too but very white test heh. I’d be delighted with your results. Looking forward to updates :)