TTC #1 over 35

Fingers crossed 🤞 @Nosejug

Thanks so much for your replies and support @Clara202 , I really appreciate it.

@Clara202 he was just like, its sort of not possible and to get bloods done. Someone on another thread pointed out that surely an embryo wouldn’t implant any earlier just cause it’s in the tube, as it’s got to get to blast stage before it’s ready. That gave me some hope. I called the gp but they said to call epu who won’t be open till Monday (and I bet they send me back to gp).

no symptoms of ectopic though, no pain or anything, some mild cramping but I’ve had cramping for every reason under the sun!

Hm well it’s already being potentially robbed of me as the fertility doctor is concerned it’s ectopic after such an early positive.

Apologies, I meant wed/thurs. I’ve been asking chat gpt for help on understanding why it could have happened. It (a robot not a doctor) said it’s highly unlikely I ovulated before the surge, but that there are a few reasons like (rare) early implantation and (!) more than one embryo. Or that I had a “mini surge” that wasn’t detected. Though I did test regularly and they were very faint before.

Honestly @Clara202im so confused. Here is a photo of my peak test, that was wed evening. I don’t usually get such a clear cut sign, but maybe I just miss it. It fell a little but stayed fairly strong since then. We dtd sat (CD 6) then tues, wed, thurs. A much better run for us than usual as it’s difficult with DP under pressure. Interpreting this is like trying to read runes. Those tests are Tuesday am, Tuesday pm, then Wednesday 7am, 12pm, 6pm.

@Clara202exactly. I absolutely can’t understand how it could be positive this early. Reason I tested so early was that after my surge my lh wasn’t dropping like it did last month (and after my mc my ovulation sticks were strong positive for ages). I took two cheap tests and then remembered I had saved a digital test from ages ago and it confirmed. Evening urine as well?! I didn’t drink enough water (well not my usually guzzling) so maybe it was v concentrated, or maybe something about lh surge and when I ovulate is off. I had 2 days of light pink/brown spotting two/three days after surge too, but I just thought here we go again with all the spotting before my period. A part of me is like… maybe it’s false?! I very much hope not. I know this early it could end quickly too, but I happy to know I seem to still have a chance. Without letting myself believe it at all yet, if it does work out, the nhs app says I’d be due on my 40th birthday…!

I hope that message didn’t come across as insensitive, I can’t think straight. I’m just a bit in shock.

Oh goodness, I can’t believe I get to write this again, but I just had a positive test..! We are literally two days away from making a 10k down payment on further treatment. I don’t even know how to feel, like I’m shocked! (And obviously trying to keep my head on straight as my only other pregnancy was a mmc).

whatever happens, it’s added hope that it is possible. I feel like I’m gonna wake up tomorrow and it’s not true. I only had my lh surge last Thursday?!

to give anyone else hope, this is after 3.5 years ttc and being 39.

Sending lots of love to everyone 💕. I'm in the tww and battling on. On the waiting list for IVF, trying to lose weight for that. Thinking of you all.

Hi ladies, tentatively coming back here as we will ttc again this month after my mmc and D&C at 9 weeks in February. I’m 37 as is husband.

everything has changed: moved house, started new role and I really want it to happen and already feel apprehensive that it won’t. I am doing every positive affirmation going!

sending so much love to everyone and sending lots of luck for test results and good news for everyone xx

@Clara202 when do you get your results (or is the date ambiguous?) I’m looking forward to knowing about further blood testing. Getting some repeat bloods tomorrow just before starting ivf again as the nhs are taking a while releasing my records to me.

We’ve been recommended to get pgta testing on any embryos by the clinic, I’m guessing not everyone here has ivf knowledge, but if anyone has opinions on that kind of testing I’d like to hear them. It’s not genetic markers right? But just checks to see if the embryos are viable? It feels a bit strange to me as I’d want to give the embryos a chance even if their chances were very small. Sorry I know this isn’t an ivf group so no worries if no answers!

@SquadGoalzi just ovulated (according to lh surge) about two days ago. Partner poor morphology and my age are our factors, though I was 36 when I began. Docs were not worried about either for us at the start either. Partner got varicoseal (sp?) surgery to help morphology and will be doing a further semen analysis shortly so we’ll find out if that helped. We’ve had 1 spontaneous pregnancy (mmc) in about 3.5 years, but I’m older than and have diminished ovarian reserve you so you’ll have better odds with your eggs! I hope you don’t have to wait too much longer.

@Clara202
I’ve everything crossed you get some answers and a positive outcome

@KittyFantastica
my screening coordinator called me yesterday afternoon, I work within the department, so she let me know as soon as they came in.
1 in less than 5000 for Edwards and Patau’s and 1:230 for Downs. Which given my age (42), I’m pleased with.
normal NT at 1.3mm and very good Papp-A at 0.96

It must be so difficult for you, have you a rainbow clinic where you are? It’s easier said then done, but try and take joy in the small moments where you can

Happy 13 weeks @MrsH26I didn’t realise we are within just a week of each other! It took 10 days for our screening letter to arrive, but they said we’d have a phone call 3-5 days after if there was any concern, so you should be fine now.

And thank you @Clara202 @Nosejug I felt the same. Even in due date groups, I often feel a bit odd as the older person still with no living children when most of the others my age are on kid 2/3/4.

it certainly is terrifying, and I don’t think there will be a moment I relax at all, but one day at a time is what we’re doing.

If I can ever do anything to help anyone, please do reach out. We’ve been so lucky with falling pregnant, but desperately unlucky in keeping them, so it’s a terrible balance really. But I remember the anxiety of the 2 week wait so well - I never made it last 10 days!

I agree with Clara! It gives me hope to hear of other women in a similar position moving forwards. Glad things are going well so far @KittyFantastica and it’s good that you’re under specialist care. I so hope there’s a point soon where you’ll get to enjoy being pregnant. I can only imagine how scary this stage must be for you.