I’m 48 and want to have a baby

My question would be why are you ‘desperate’ for a baby in your particular circumstances.

It's less. You conceived at 46; the OP is already 48. That means lower chances of conceiving at all again and higher miscarriage rates.

Two years doesn't matter at thirty. It matters for quite a few people at forty. It matters a whole fucking lot at 46.

You would be one in 10,000 if you could I think, though a friend did manage it by mistake at 47

Anyway, you are likely just having a mid life crisis or a hormone thing. Do you really want to be 60 when your kid starts secondary.

I'd get a kitten. And poss HRT.

And more importantly design a mid life that celebrates being free of little kids

I know someine who conceived naturally at 52. First and very wanted child. Im not sure I would like to do it all again though!

I am 61 and DS is 15. I have no regrets, managed the baby and toddler stages just fine in my late 40s, not tired at all, and I don't feel "too old" for him now (no-one has ever in my hearing labelled me as the granny, although it doesn't mean they haven't!). I wouldn't have had another any later though.

It’s a truly dreadful idea when you already have two children. Why the need for a baby at 48? New man?
Enjoy the next few years now your children are grown. Menopause is a bitch, you don’t want a baby in the middle of that. Also birth deformities etc - I wouldn’t risk a disabled child at that age. You’re too old . Get a puppy if you want to look after something 24/7

It's highly ulikely you will conceive. And even if you do the chances of miscarriage are probably 40/50%. And chances of abnormalities in the baby high as well. I wouldn't take the risk.

My friend was born to a 48 year old mother - all was well and I worked with a woman who was 50 and had a surprise pregnancy. I left that job so no idea how it worked out. I'd say go for it but don't be surprised if it doesn't happen.

You'd need IVF and egg donation. And you'd be busy with a baby just as your 14 year old is coming into the crucial years of their education. Personally think it's an awful idea, but each to their own. What does your partner think - no mention of him in your post.

Wow baby at 44!

The odds are exactly 1%…I had my daughter just after my 47th birthday, coming up for 7yrs ago.

When on the delivery suite in Labour with her, word got out to the lead fertility consultant who paid us (my partner and I) a visit in the delivery room to have a chat and confirm it was indeed our own work 😀. He told us we were 1 percenters!

My friends mum was around 47 when he was born. My friend said his own cutoff to be a dad was 40 as he is now a carer for his elderly mother and he wouldn’t do that to his children. Obviously all families are different but I couldn’t do it. My children are grown now and I enjoy my life as it is. The thought of going back to sleepless nights, Nappies, Stressing over finances and School places. I couldn’t go back! Just my opinion though.

Maybe you could wait a few years and then you might become a grandmother
I mean only if your 22 year old meets someone and wants a family, there’s no guarantee but if he does then it’s all the fun but you can hand them back!

I was 21 when my mum had my brother at 48 years old. My dad was 49. Straight forward pregnancy no complications and a quick labour and delivery.

He is about to turn 13 and we have a wonderful relationship despite the age gap. My brother has kept my parents very young and active

You just never ever know xx

@Aberentian statistically the happiest people are single, childfree women 😊

We scanned a woman aged 54 who became pregnant naturally. The baby was a Down's child but the pregnancy otherwise uncomplicated. The mum had a natural birth against advice. He was her first/only child.

The mum was fit and well supported by family but passed away when her boy was 12. She'd never used contraception with her first husband so assumed she couldn't conceive.

It isn't impossible but needs a lot of considered thought for both you and any future child.

I’m actually shocked at the amount of women who think it isn’t possible in your late 40’s - I hope you haven’t given up on contraception otherwise you might be in for a little surprise- if you still have periods, it’s still possible

Well
As long as you haven't started menopause
But you need to really think about why
Is it because you feel lonely or want someone to depend on you?
Bare in mind that by the time you have the child you will be 49. And when the child is 5 you will be 54 and menopausal.
Menopause is a bugger.
At 57 your child will be 8 and when they start high school you will 60.
Can you raise a child on a pensioners salary.
I understand if you have zero kids and it's something you desperately want.
Are periods regular?

Register as a foster Carer?

Why would you even want to! I’m that age with 4 yr old plus their adult siblings and there’s barely a day when I don’t think how my life could have been like now without having had another child. I love them dearly but it is hard work at this age.

I think 45+ is too old to get pregnant tbh OP.

Suppose you have a child with complex needs or twins?
Do you really want to be dealing with s teen in your 60’s?
This is your hormones talking. 100% a bad idea.

I think some women on here are being super harsh and quite frankly rude. If you are still having periods then of course it’s still possible- have fun trying, if it happens then good on you, if it doesn’t then it wasn’t meant to be. When I was 18 my best friends mum had an affair (she was 52) with an 18 year old and got herself pregnant, the lad is a healthy 20 year old now and had much more relaxed upbringing than my friend - my friends mum ran off with and married the 18 year old - I don’t recommend that, he was a waster. But you be you.

Most of the advice will be from the adviser's perspective. Only you know if you can cope.

Don't do it. I'm 48 and have a toddler grandson, when I've looked after him for a weekend I feel like I need to sleep for a week to recover. Love him to bits but it's nice to hand him back.