January TTC Support Group 💚

A few of us on a similar timeframe! I’m trying to work out is it less upsetting / jarring to start pregnancy testing really early when expecting a negative? I’d love to be someone that waits until a missed period … but I just can’t seem to!

Yeah the premom sticks, so weird! No I couldn’t really be bothered 😂 trying to be relaxed about the whole thing and I’m only CD9, my cycle is normally 24-26 days so I know ovulation is soon and my CM is also staring to look favourable so just not stressing about it all. I’ll test tomorrow around 10am and see where I am. We’ve decided we’re just going to DTD again tonight anyway!

Hello!

so we will find out 13th January if we have been successful first time trying after our miscarriage. Already got two beautiful babies! So confused though as I have ovulation pain but tests say low :/ had a high the other day so did the deed so don’t know I will get pregnant or not!!

Welcome back @Marie1990x Interesting about following your body's signs. I did OPKs and used my digitals this month as I struggled to pinpoint things naturally last month alone. Weirdly, I've had the most obvious signs ever this time, which is really unusual. I very rarely get ovulation pain, EWCM or hormonal, but this time I had loads of bodily signs, sex drive went further through the roof, and distinct ovulation pain on the right side.

My husband returned home this evening and we've made up for lost time. Everything points to today being ovulation day, so that's that. On to the twiddling my thumbs phase.

Ooooh I have everything crossed that’s a good sign 🤞 if it is implantation I think they say HCG shows up 3 days later?

Oh i’m totally with you 😂 I want to test already even though I know I should wait at least 4 more days!

Glad to hear you had a nice Christmas despite the CP. It might have been lovely spending it with your daughter ☺️ I have everything crossed for you this cycle!

Oh that’s really weird… are you using premom sticks? I’ve never known that to happen either! Did you manage to test again later in the day?

Hi ladies. Hope you have all had a wonderful Christmas 😊.

I’ve managed to stay away from OPK’s surprisingly. Just sat down after a busy day and felt slightly crampy and a lot of cm, thought I’d check what CD I was and my app suggests it’s ovulation day 🙌🏼.

When I’ve been using OPK’s I definitely focused more on the line than my natural symptoms, so I think I might just stay away from them from now on!

Haven’t managed to DTD much this week as it’s been hectic, but will tonight to give it a slight shot

Ah no deffo too early at 6DPO then 😂 maybe next week!

Yeah we managed to have a lovely time actually, it was our daughter’s first Xmas so that really helped to take the edge off following the CP. I think I’m going to ovulate bang on schedule, starting to get some bloating and mild cramps which I seem to get in the run up to ovulation. We’re all over DTD this week with my partner being on holiday so at least we know we’re giving it the best chance this time round, will just see what happens.

I went to do a second OPK this afternoon as I reckon ovulation is coming so wanted to see if I’d had a rise. There was a pen mark on the stick right where the test line would come up!! I didn’t notice until I’d dipped it and poured the wee away. Didn’t think it was exactly where the line was so went and had a coffee. Test totally unreadable 🙄 so that’s annoying but I’ll test again tomorrow, not something worth getting annoyed about but never seen that before.

Thank you ☺️ i’m only 6DPO today so unlikely to have any pregnancy symptoms yet (unfortunately 😅) but hoping today will keep me distracted!
Hope you had a lovely Christmas and you’re doing okay x

Think I may have got my peak early on a opk strip test. Cd12 so wasnt expecting it this early, we dtd cd8, cd9 and cd12 (this morning) we will again tomorrow cd13 and cd14. Just hoping that because its early this cycle it's not something to worry about

Hi @PeaceBeStill sorry to read that you have had such a difficult year. I am a year behind you in the fact that I have been trying for a year and I'm 36 in a few weeks.
So I don't feel like I am perhaps qualified to give advice as who knows how I will feel in a year's time. Also it's very easy to give advice but it's never as simple to take it, when emotions and disappointment are running high.
I think I would suggest three things, while acknowledging that sometimes it's just a bit crap.

1. Focus on the positives. I know that this is particularly tricky as you have had a shocker of a year. For me my positives are that I feel like my life is stable enough to bring a child into the world. My relationship is stable, my housing and finances are stable, I'm healthy etc. This is all true and continues to be true without a child, and I feel very fortunate.
2. Have other goals. For you this might be healing from the effects of the crash, or managing your autoimmune disease, or a work goal or taking up a hobby. Have TTC just be one thing of an array of things that you are working towards, so you can have progress/successes in other areas.
3. Feel all the feelings, and ride the highs and lows of your cycle. Allow yourself to be excited during the fertile window. Hopeful in the TWW and mourn when it's 13dpo and the pregnancy test is negative. Hope 2025 is better for you in many many ways.

Happy birthday @Kateb149 what DPO are you? Hope you have a lovely stress free day and don’t feel unwell (unless it’s v early pregnancy related ofc!)

Thank you and thank you @CoolSummer89 and @Matildahoney too ☺️ birthdays in your 30s aren’t quite as eventful but I was happy with my tea in bed and gifts this morning!

Haha i’m pretty much the same, just feeling sluggish. I woke up in the night feeling nauseous, but I know it’s too early to put that down to anything! Xx

Context: TTC For 2 years, 37yo both reproductively heathy and under fertility clinic consultant

Ladies, I am tired of TTC and don’t know if I can cope with the constant disappointment.

I have had a terrible year between being in a car crash, multiple new diagnosis’ with autoimmune diseases (don’t affect fertility) and stress at work.

But most of all, the pain and cycle of grief every month when I realised my body has failed me and my husband again.

I am really tired. How do you find hope and perseverance with TTC? Everyone around me is pregnant and having babies and I just keep failing…

Happy birthday @Kateb149 hope you enjoy it

Happy birthday @Kateb149 I hope it's a good one!

Thinking of all of you in the TWW! I'm only on CD6 and already this month feels so long!

Snap 😅 i’ll be 6DPO tomorrow too. It’s definitely helped having the holidays… I feel like I haven’t analysed my symptoms very much so far. How are you feeling?

It’s my birthday tomorrow so that should help me forget about implantation a little bit longer🤞

Hi, I had 31 day cycles when we conceived DS1, but I'd ovulated before day 11 of my cycle! That being said if you're DTD EOD then you should be fine.
I've had 4 loop procedures, only 3 prior to DS, he was 8 days early, I had fortnightly scans to measure my cervix length. I ended up with a EMCS as he didn't want to come out, gynaecologist has since said the cervix can also work in reverse as such making labour more difficult if you've had a loop.
Oh and I was 40 when we conceived.

If you’re DTD every second day you’ll be covered. The month I conceived my daughter I’m pretty sure we only had sex 3 days before my ovulation because I’d been away with work but I also wasn’t tracking with OPKs so not 100% sure. I was very surprised I was pregnant that month, put it that way 😂

Sorry I can’t answer your other Qs but best of luck! I conceived on my second cycle after stopping the pill.

Hi all, I've been a reader for a while but first time posting.

A little bit of background about me, been on the pill 22 years and came off in Nov. This is first time trying for #1 and I've just turned 39. Did my first withdrawal bleed and DH and I, decided the next month we'd not actively try but if it happened then it happened. Cycle seemed to last 31 days. Decided I'd start to check my OPK and now on CD14 but no surges yet. Prenom thinks it may occur CD17 which I think ties in with a 31 day cycle?

A bit of a question though, if you DTD every couple of days, does it matter if you miss the peak? Also has anyone had a loop biopsy? Did it effect labour or make it premature? I run a fair bit and read that I may need to give up on that closer to the time? Sorry for all the questions - all new and exciting but also lots of info out there which I had no idea about a month ago!

As far as I know, it's pretty normal. Something like 40% of people have rapid surges from my reading about it. I believe we ovulate just the same and it happens 24-36 hours after the peak of the surge. It just makes pinpointing the actual peak moment a bit more difficult if you can't sit there repeatedly testing (and peeing every 30 minutes!) on peak day!