TTC after loss part 6

You’re probably right. 🤞🏻 it happens soon xx

So sorry you find yourself here again.

I had a TFMR at the end of June last year. I had a bleed which was very like a period about a month later however I then had a 17 day cycle so suspect this wasn’t a proper cycle. So I would say 2 months to get back to a normal regular cycle.

We have only just started trying again from January. We both needed a bit of time to recover mentally. My partner found it especially difficult as this was his first experience of pregnancy. I thought I would want to try again straight away but I wasn’t ready. I still find it hard to think or talk about now. I hope you have some good support around you and wish you all the luck on your TTC journey.

Also regarding genetic testing. We got our final results in October. That included us both having to go for testing too

id personally wait until the HPT is negative. But that’s my thought process

I did… it’s still positive 😩

With my first miscarriage I conceived after 3 months, I miscarried that pregnancy and conceived straight away without a period. It looks like I ovulated after 3-4 weeks. I just had my dating scan which is further than I got with the previous two pregnancies.

Hi,

I’ve posted before on this thread but unfortunately I’ve found myself back here again. I’ve had 3 recurrent miscarriages, and I’ve just had a TFMR at 16 weeks after getting pregnant again in December. It was a chromosome problem so we have been referred back to genetics, but there’s only a small chance it was genetic it’s more likely it was random. They’ve said genetics referral can take a long time but if we get pregnant again beforehand it will speed it up. This is the first time I was on aspirin and progesterone and the first time I carried this far.

I’m feeling so conflicted because I miss our little girl so much, but we want to try again soon. Just wondering if anyone else gets this? I’m back to taking my vitamins (proceive, coq-10, omega 3, vitamin D, high dose folic acid), I kept up with the necessary ones through pregnancy but I struggled to stomach more than that due to the sickness, and partner also takes the male version of proceive.
We are both keeping up with not drinking this time, leading up to last pregnancy that’s one thing we didn’t do and was drinking 2-3 alcoholic drinks on a Friday and Saturday night.

We have decided to wait at least until my first period and probably ttc that cycle. Every time I’ve been pregnant I’ve conceived first cycle so I don’t think my body knows how to reject the abnormal embryos.

I’m just wondering how long others periods took to come back and if it’s true you’re more fertile after a loss? I’ve always had a break between losses so I’ve never tried this out.

I have used them throughout - I find them really simple to use and also use the free premom app aswell. As it gets darker and the app logs it as high, I do 2 tests a day to catch my peak. I have had success in the conceiving with these, it is progressing in pregnancy that seems to be my issue. I did find after my last pregnancy loss, that while I still had positive pregnancy test (even when they were feint) I was getting high opks. Definitely double check your hcg, if that is negative then the dark opk sounds like it is a good sign!

@curliegirlie I would keep testing definitely. My last loss back in Oct, I was reading fairly high on opks and also still had hcg in my system. I was a bit different as it was my 3rd loss and my cycle didn’t come back for about 11weeks, but I did do opks and spotted my peak. I just chose not to ttc that time as we were in the middle of a sick bug in the house. I’m now back to my regular cycle where I ovulate between days 14-16, so you might catch this one if you keep testing, but if not hopefully you are back to your regular super quick 🤞🏻 x

I hate this first cycle after a loss. I MC Sunday before last at just shy of 6 weeks. I got my negative test on a One Step a couple of days ago.

OPKs are driving me crazy. First of all they never got in any way dark when I was actually pregnant, which in retrospect may have been a warning that things weren't going too well. Then they were darker than usual for early in my cycle earlier this week (0.2ish). Now this morning my OPK was really faint again. So looks like I won't be having another early ovulation cycle this time (currently CD12) but I'm hoping I might at least have my usual CD15 or 16 🤞🤞

It possibly can, have you done a HPT to check that it’s negative?
i had a surgical management on 5th March so taking that as day 1.
very light line on OPK yesterday. I got my negative HPT on day 7, well that’s when I tested

Thank you!
I’m CD 14 (counting mc as day1) and the test was quite dark. Can any left over HCG mess with this do you know?

And yes the price of Clearblue is ridiculous… and the fact you can’t buy the sticks separately 🤯

I use the easy@home strips.
I usually rest in the morning with SMU and if it’s getting darker I test again in the afternoon to try and catch the peak.

i used to use the clear blue ones but I switched because they are so expensive

Hello, I was just wondering if anyone had any helpful tips for using the easy@home LH strips?
I usually use the Clearblue but as I’m not sure about my cycles after the miscarriage I’ve gone for a cheaper option! Any help would be very appreciated ❤️

You'll be in my thoughts on this hard journey and reach out anytime. I found great support in people who had been through similar at the time. And please don't worry about the trying again, in good time, you'll feel that confidence again. X

That has crossed my mind to be honest. Just taking it one day at a time for now. We have been very well supported through family/friends/hospital.

your rainbow will be here soon, and there will be a whole different type of worry. But it will be worth every minute & they will be here safely soon 🩷

our boy was our second, we already have our toddler at home who has kept us busy, and maybe pulled us through it quicker than if we hadn’t had her xx

@Peanutbutterjelly123 I tried again way too soon tbh. And as you know burying a child is extremely traumatic, I had difficulty separating the want for my twin boys back and the desire for another baby. They were our first so, even now at 35 weeks, the anxiety is horrible waiting for it to work out. It took a good while to conceive again which I put down to grief.

I lost my sons at Christmas 23, and I conceived this baby Autumn 24. I went back trying after a few weeks after my emergency c-section. Total madness and not a good idea but I was traumatised and desperate for what I lost. What followed was 7 months of grief and anger. I didn't process my babies deaths but I had to face it eventually.

January is so recent for you as I said, I was where you were a year and a bit ago. So be easy on yourself and kind to yourself. I hope you are getting the support you need as well.

@Ella31
Im so sorry for your losses also. It’s the most terrible thing, nobody should ever have to go through.

We really debated whether I wait or not, but I’m fully expecting it to be an emotional rollercoaster TTC and I don’t want to spend months healing then get thrown right back again.
congratulations on your rainbow 🌈

@Peanutbutterjelly123 I havent been on here much lately but i was on the original thread 1 up until the last one. I wabted to let you know, you arent alone. my twin son was born sleeping a year and 3 months ago and his twin brother died in my arms 4 days later in the NICU. I'm here to talk if you need any reassurance. IIts a life long journey that loss but it does get more bearable. I've also struggled with the trying again journey but happiy I'm actually due our rainbow very soon so if you need to ever chat, im happy to. Trying again after losing my sons was the hardest thing I've ever encountered. So sorry for your loss.

Hey to all of the new members, I'm so sorry to read about your losses, but glad you’ve found this thread as I’ve found it helps so much to be surrounded by people who have been through similar storms.

@Superscientist I’m sorry to read of your job, but congratulations on the positive, hope you are feeling well x

@Ncl31 I’m so sorry to read of your missed miscarriage, recurrent miscarriage is unbelievably hard and as you say, only gets more difficult. Sending love x

@Melusina123Thank you! I have an ultrasound tomorrow so hopefully any issues will be picked up on that & awaiting blood tests from my GP ❤️

So so sorry you find yourself here too. Seen being you lots of strength

Hey, I have been tentatively following this threat and finally feel able to comment and join :)
we are not trying not preventing after our boy was stillborn on the 5th January.
so sorry we’re all in this boat 🩷

I’m so sorry to hear your news. I know only too well how devastating it is. I hope you’re managing okay x

Hey @EmilyF88 , so sorry to hear that. 💔

In terms of investigations I made some suggestions in my post above --

"I think it is worth seeing if your doctor will run any blood tests (e.g. thyroid function, iron, Vitamin D, Vitamin B12, antiphospholipid antibodies (primary care often can't do this one alas)) or refer you for a pelvic ultrasound just to check things out."

Hello, I’m currently having my second miscarriage. I’ve had a full blood count & thyroid function test… can anyone recommend anything else before ttc again?