TTC after loss part 6

@Figtree11 im so sorry this is so rubbish and so unfair!
I totally get all of these thoughts too. It really is great being able to vent to people who feel the same but it still feels so utterly lonely.
Sending you big hugs and hope this cycle is better and not quite as long.

@Figtree11 oh I'm so sorry you're struggling. I understand all of your bullet points and have felt so many of them myself. I don't have any answers but wanted to say you're not alone. Sending you all the love and just be kind to yourself and take time to do things you enjoy xx

@Figtree11 I’m so sorry you’re feeling so low. TTC is so difficult and it’s just made worse when some of us have to experience loss within it. I know exactly how you feel, I felt like that in August approaching my due date. I now often feel a pang of what should have been, how old would they have been now etc….
I’m dreading Christmas too - I miscarried on Christmas Day. So I know that is going to be difficult, the only thing that would make it any easier is if I was pregnant by then again.

im always here if you feel the need try talk or vent. But like others have said - a can have good and bad experiences of counsellors, it might be worth having a chat with someone.

Sending you lots of strength.

@Superscientist congratulations, that’s awesome news. Here’s to a happy and healthy 9 months.

@Figtree11 I’m so sorry - that sounds so tough for you right now! I have been you - it was a little over a year between first falling pregnant (and having a mmc), having a second miscarriage and finally falling with our pregnancy that went full term. It was a tough tough year, I did find once I got passed the “milestone” dates things felt easier a bit - but ttc, why we were/were not successful consumed a lot of my daily thoughts. I found using my calm and headspace app helped - but I just wanted to say my heart goes out to you and I really hope you get your turn soon xx

@Figtree11 I understand some of those feelings, especially the not understanding why it is taking so long when it happened so quickly before, I think it is so super frustrating because it feels so out of our control.
I'm sorry your cycles are so long, i'm sure that adds to the frustration and sadness too.
As pp said, I also have no words of wisdom or advice except to say I have felt alot of these feelings and still do at times, and that I hope so much you have success very soon xxxx

I'm sorry @Figtree11 the whole thing is utterly unfair. Your body and hormones have gone through so much, it's probably why it's taking longer. I understand the frustration so it won't make you feel better but it might explain it ❤️ your time will come I'm sure.

You're absolutely entitled to be feeling crap about it all, you wouldn't be human if you didn't. Give yourself the grace and space to feel down ❤️

@Ncl31 its stopped now so maybe? My boobs are super sore too!! But I feel like
its too early to be pregnancy symptoms.

@Superscientist its stopped so deffo not my period. It’s weird how you think you know your cycle and it just randomly does something weird like this though.
omg congratulations this is amazing news!!!!!! Eek!

I've definitely have had helpful and unhelpful counselling/therapy it's so person and therapy dependent.

I do understand, my worst periods of mental health have been when the solution is something external finishing or starting. Usually already pressured situations that then just became more pressured. Finding people that understand the circumstances helped. One of the times was towards the end of my PhD, writing 80000 words broke me! My counsellor and dsa mentor meant well but didn't help. My consultant psychiatrist got it so much more and was helpful even though I only saw her every 3-4 months.

@Figtree11 sorry you’re struggling. I sympathise completely.

I have been really struggling during AF recently as well and not even just because it’s the reminder that it hasn’t worked that month but I’ve been crying over literally nothing. Last week it was because I had to go away for work and stay over for one night and I was crying to DH about being away from him. That’s just not me, usually I relish a night without his snoring 😅 every little thing just seems to be amplified when TTC for me at least.

Also understand the feeling of why hasn’t it happened since my last loss, like you I conceived quickly the first time which was an early loss and then very quickly again which resulted in the MMC. It’s just so frustrating and disheartening.

Sounds like you’ve been through a lot and I’m sorry I have no advice, just sympathy for you in this shit time 🤍

Oh @Figtree11 it's a lot to have in your head. Do you think it's worth speaking to someone about how you are feeling and to process the last year or two. There's a lot of back to back trauma and it's understandable that it's hard to sit with. I know that doesn't make it any easier.

@Superscientist congratulations 🎉 x

@Superscientist ahhh congratulations 😍

Thanks. Not really. Late period and aside from a day when I was windy and had a gurgly stomach I had no cramps or twinges. When I conceived in June I had the same my stomach was peaceful on the day and days after my period was due

I would have held off a bit longer but there's a lurghie in the house and I wanted to know which meds I could take for my snotty nose and sore throat!

I think the running has helped me relax a bit and escape from the relentless of life. Maybe that helped.

Oh my goodness, congratulations! well I am definitely going to give the exercise a go now! 😄 I'm sure you can't believe it right now... Did you have any signs this month before your bfp? x

Sorry forgot to tag you @Superscientist

@Ladyinpink1 I had to start walking otherwise I would never have done, with parking there's probably not a lot in it time wise. The upside off being late means it's often a brisk walk rather than a leisurely stroll! My car has been off the road for the last 3 weeks so that had meant more walking to. I'm telling myself I'll keep it up when it's fixed but I'm not sure if this is likely!

Well I waited until this morning and got my positive test! Eek!

@Beanie14 when I was trying for my daughter I had a cycle where AF turned up a week early and was light and brown. I thought it might have been implantation or something but all the tests were negative. The next cycle was normal and the cycle after that I conceived

I’ve not personally had it but I’ve read a few people do get it with implantation. Some get pink discharge , some get brown, some get none.
Hopefully it’s a positive sign for you.

also, no need to apologise for not being able to keep up. Sometimes life keeps us busy and I think that’s a good thing sometimes so we don’t obsess constantly over TTC.

Let us know how you get on, fingers crossed for a BFP for you.

Also I’ve been trying to catch up but there’s so much! Sorry girls

Thanks for invite to new thread.
Quick question AF isn’t due for 9 days and I have brown discharge/spotting and cramps belly like AF is on the way. Anyone had this?

Champagne sounds lovely, we had some champagne this weekend too... hoping that it makes us both relaxed and so a good chance this month 🙂

My OPK was super light just now. But I have had some champagne so been going to the bathroom every 45 minutes or so.
I’ve had EWCM so I’m not going to bother testing anymore today, if I test in the morning and it’s light then today will be peak I guess.
hopefully get to dtd again tomorrow to cover bases and have the best chance.
fingers crossed for you too.