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TTC after loss part 6

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Figtree11 · 24/10/2024 20:14

Previous thread created is nearly full so starting a new one. Will try and tag names

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Ncl31 · 08/11/2024 17:36

It was taken at 6 minutes. I saw a shadow pretty much instantly but I wasn’t convinced so done a spot of hoovering and then went back and checked again.
only time will tell, I’m probably just torturing myself really.

CadoAvo · 08/11/2024 17:34

Ncl31 · 08/11/2024 17:18

ive got myself obsessed and fallen down a rabbit hole now!
can anyone else see a vvvvfl? 10DPO not FMU.
will do a FMU tomorrow.

I think I can see something. I tried inverting the image for you too and think I can see something there too?

The only thing is the test looks a bit dry so assume it was taken outside the window. Everything crossed for you!

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Ncl31 · 08/11/2024 17:18

ive got myself obsessed and fallen down a rabbit hole now!
can anyone else see a vvvvfl? 10DPO not FMU.
will do a FMU tomorrow.

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Figtree11 · 08/11/2024 15:06

@Ncl31 i’m not sure, I’ve had all sorts of CM through different points of my cycle, so it’s really hard to tell

@moosey89 glad you are feeling ok at the moment. I do hope it’s a good month for you though. Rowing competition sounds great!

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Figtree11 · 08/11/2024 15:04

DonnaWhat · 07/11/2024 20:06

@Figtree11 I'm sorry to see you're going through the mill at the moment. I really do hope that things start getting better and regulated. Is there anything the doctors can do to help regulate that isn't the pill? Next year will be your year. Don't give up, we're all rooting for you.

Thanks. I have a GP appt on Monday to go through some blood test results, and then got my recurrent miscarriage appt with Tommys in 2 weeks so going to ask the question then. I hope next year will be my year 🥹

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moosey89 · 08/11/2024 11:22

@Ncl31 I get this some months - am yet to find any cause or pattern for it! So as with so many "symptoms" it might be something or it might be nothing 🙈 fingers crossed for you though.

I'm back into another 2ww, cycle 6 since my latest loss. I'm actually feeling remarkably calm and "what will be will be" about it this month, think it's because I've got my new job and a rowing competition I'm training for to focus on x

CadoAvo · 08/11/2024 11:06

Ncl31 · 08/11/2024 10:30

I’ve attached and image - sorry if it’s too much.

im 10DPO today and when I went to the toilet just now and wiped. This was on the paper.
I’ve only ever had white cm after ovulation. Nothing like this ever. Does anyone else have any experience? Or am I just hoping and praying?

Yellow tinged cm has always been an indicator of pregnancy for me. Sometimes it's been bright yellow!
I really hope this is good news for you 🤞🏼

Ncl31 · 08/11/2024 10:30

I’ve attached and image - sorry if it’s too much.

im 10DPO today and when I went to the toilet just now and wiped. This was on the paper.
I’ve only ever had white cm after ovulation. Nothing like this ever. Does anyone else have any experience? Or am I just hoping and praying?

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Superscientist · 07/11/2024 20:24

Oh @Ella31 it's an unimaginable situation to be in. Your boys will have a special place in your heart for the rest of time. When you have known great hurt your heart knows the joy of the loved ones you have and soon there will be one more.
My uncle was born with a heart defect he died the day after his 8th birthday so like you, my gran had the double anniversary. For nearly 60 years my grandad bought her flowers that week and I have never known anyone else love as utterly completed as she did. Without question and with the fierce protection of a lioness. There's still great hurt and whilst that might never leave but there will be room for love, happiness and joy from those you can hold and you'll hold them a little tighter and a little longer than most. My uncle died over 25 years before I was born but I feel like I know him. I know his story and I know his name. 50 years from now there will be people dear to you, who are now not even a twinkle in their parents eyes who will know your boys names and will be thinking of you on this day. Knowing your love comes from worst hurt a person can know.
Thinking of you x

MrsS11 · 07/11/2024 20:18

@Ella31, so sorry, I'm dreading our anniversary and furious that I seem to be the only one who remembers when making plans etc. Hope you manage to find something to do that remembers your boys in a positive way.

My bump buddy had her baby yesterday. I had a sudden flashback to a very vivid dream id had when we were both pregnant, of us giving birth in the same room and how we'd laughed about it. My wee girl was due on the 26th November and we thought we'd be doing maternity leave together, and our babies would be friends for each other. I'm relieved to not be exactly jealous of her, just so reminded of what we have lost.

DonnaWhat · 07/11/2024 20:12

@Ella31 I hope that the next few days you feel the love that's surrounds you by your family and friends. Their spirits will always be by you, your husband and beautiful bambino. Lots and lots of love to you ❤️ I saw this poem and thought of you. I've made it a sensitive image just incase it sets a trigger for anyone else. Thoughts are always with you. Xxxx

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DonnaWhat · 07/11/2024 20:06

@Figtree11 I'm sorry to see you're going through the mill at the moment. I really do hope that things start getting better and regulated. Is there anything the doctors can do to help regulate that isn't the pill? Next year will be your year. Don't give up, we're all rooting for you.

DonnaWhat · 07/11/2024 20:05

@Superscientist congratulations on your bfp!!

Ncl31 · 07/11/2024 20:03

@Ella31 thinking of you at what I can only imagine is a very difficult and heartbreaking time.
I hope you and DH are doing something to comfort each other and celebrate your twins.
hopefully you will get your long awaited BFP again soon xx

Figtree11 · 07/11/2024 17:57

Thinking of you @Ella31 it is so cruel & devastating that this happened to you and your DH. Even in times of deep grief you have helped us all on this thread, which I am very grateful to you for. Sending you so much love for tomorrow. I am sure your baby will know all about their big brothers ❤️ who will live forever in your hearts x

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Ella31 · 07/11/2024 17:40

@ThelastRolo20 @CadoAvo @moosey89 thank you all so much. It's been a nightmare year but so grateful to be still standing.

CadoAvo · 07/11/2024 13:30

@ella31 sending you so much love and strength during this time. I think about you often and wonder how you're getting on. I hope your consultant is taking good care of you and before you know it your rainbow baby will here. They won't replace your boys but hopefully your heart will start to heal a bit ❤️

moosey89 · 07/11/2024 12:29

@Ella31 thinking of you and sending all the love. 😔 Xxx

ThelastRolo20 · 07/11/2024 11:45

@Ella31 thinking of you lovely, your boys will always be a big part of yours, and their sibling's lives ❤️ I hope you spend tomorrow thinking about the love you have for them. Milestones such as a year on are such hard ones to get through, you've shown extraordinary strength over the last 12 months xx

Ella31 · 07/11/2024 11:09

Hey ladies, as many of the original posters from the first thread know, I joined this thread many threads ago last year a day after I lost my twins. Last night, we should have been been getting decorations ready and birthday presents wrapped for today. A year ago last night, we drove to hospital with no idea that life would change forever. Being told our first little baby twin was gone and then 4 agonising days in the neonatal unit fighting for his beautiful twin brother who we had to also let go age 4 days old.

Tomorrow is your 1st birthday. In the early hours of tomorrow a year ago at 00.30 and 00.31 you made us proud parents. Although there will be no cuddles or birthday candles , we think about you and miss you every single day. Love you both so much.

We are expecting again but this time is filled with so much dread and fear. Just wanted to share this update with you all and hope you are all doing well.

Figtree11 · 06/11/2024 19:48

Thank you @Ladyinpink1 I’m sorry you have some tough anniversaries too. Feel free to inbox me anytime if you want a chat x
Yeah I am struggling with pregnant women at work at the moment. There is one sat near me who keeps talking about it, and about finding out the gender etc. Instead of feeling upset I just feel annoyed that I can’t escape it at work. Someone else came in with the baby the other week, and I’m embarrassed to say I just dodged around the office avoiding/ hiding from her!

@worldwidetravel2017 i had 1 session with a gynaecology counsellor but I didn’t like it much. I hope you have a better session.
And sorry about the blocked tube, hopefully it’s something quick they can fix for you

@Joleyjojo i’m sorry, it’s so difficult. Last cycle I didn’t think I was pregnant, but was so upset when AF arrived. I felt low for a good 4/5 days

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Joleyjojo · 06/11/2024 19:42

moosey89 · 06/11/2024 14:53

@Joleyjojo I'm sorry, it's so hard when you're sure you're pregnant, it's even more of a let down and feeling like your body is failing again by tricking you. You're not out yet, but I know what it's like to get a negative 10dpo, feels super unlikely to turn positive. I've also not been one of the lucky ones, and it feels even harder when people say stuff like "you're more fertile for the 3 months after a miscarriage" and then it doesn't happen. Sending hugs xx

I honestly feel devastated, I genuinely thought the test would definitely be positive. I know people will say 10dpo is early but I just can’t see that changing. It’s heartbreaking isn’t it xxx

worldwidetravel2017 · 06/11/2024 17:02

I have miscarriage history , yet now apparently my tubes are blocked

I highly recommend going for a private hyfosy to anyone whos been trying a while

moosey89 · 06/11/2024 14:53

@Joleyjojo I'm sorry, it's so hard when you're sure you're pregnant, it's even more of a let down and feeling like your body is failing again by tricking you. You're not out yet, but I know what it's like to get a negative 10dpo, feels super unlikely to turn positive. I've also not been one of the lucky ones, and it feels even harder when people say stuff like "you're more fertile for the 3 months after a miscarriage" and then it doesn't happen. Sending hugs xx

Joleyjojo · 06/11/2024 11:14

I had convinced myself I was pregnant this month. To the point I was excited to test as was convinced it would be a positive, 10dpo and massive BFN. My moods are all over the place , tearful, aggy, stomach ache so I know AF is on its way. My LP is 12 days so AF will show soon. Feeling so down about it atm. I am coming up to 40 and feel like time is running out. Need to pick myself up but can’t seem to shake it. 2 cycles since MMC and defo not one of the lucky ones to conceive straight away . Feeling pretty shitty today x

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