TTC after loss part 6

thank you. Just so bloody down. I just want AF to come if it’s coming.
I have an appointment on 5th March at Tommys. So I am hoping for some answers. I have my party sat night and just am not feeling it. Xx

Hi I feel for you. I'm similar. I had 2 losses in 6 months last year. A loss in August, I am think I remember you from that time, sorry I'm rubbish with names then I had another loss in December.
I'm in the wait for my period to return/ symptoms of pregnancy to start as we have been trying. I can't bring myself to test so in limbo.

I've been reading it starts with an egg and have their recipe book. I'm trying to make a few changes that might help with egg quality. My daughters has allergies so my diet has been limited by that and have realised that my diet could be better. For example she has egg and fish allergies and both are meant to be beneficial. I've tried to make changes to my breakfast and lunches when she's in school based on nutritions that are meant to be beneficial. I'm just making a few simple sensible swaps right now rather than a dramatic overhaul. It can't hurt right and it feels like it's something I could do to make myself feel healthier and have more faith in my body. I was feeling pretty run down during my second loss.

Sorry I've struggled to keep up with new / returning faces this week. Welcome/welcome back

Thank you for this @Bellabubble and sorry to hear about all your losses. I think this will be my timeframe too. Thanks for sharing I love these age stories and I truly wish you so much luck in the coming cycles 💫✨💫

Feeling a little apprehensive about my D&C on Wednesday but so glad I’ll be asleep. I will only have GA for anything moving forwards I clearly can’t handle it!

sending you love too @Joleyjojo - can you not go to the GP and get referred? Just say you have been trying for two years. I am relatively clued up but genuinely thought egg quality only affected getting pregnant. Bless you and don’t give up.

I have been eating absolute crap (I am mortified to say I even bought poptarts 😂) since my MMC. I am usually incredibly healthy so that’s a job for next week when I’m back to health.

Hi everyone I’m back. After my MMC in august I just stopped the forum. I have now been pregnant 3 times in 9 months. Chemical in May, got pregnant again in June went for a scan at 10 weeks baby had stopped growing at 9. I had a D&C Periods came back normally and started TTC October.
found out I was pregnant on my 40th birthday last week. But tests have continued to stay light no progression in 5 days. So I am waiting to loose this one as another chemical.

I am absolutely devastated. The MMC was confirmed that baby had edwards syndrome. I can’t understand why this keeps happening. Maybe because my eggs are just not of a good quality, my luteul phase is 12 days, I’m 40 and maybe it’s just not going to happen.

I am just sat waiting to bleed , no one can help. GP and EPU will just say the tests are positive only time will tell. I just want the test to either be dark or AF to come. This waiting is heartbreaking. The BF just keeps thinking that because AF isn’t here it’s all fine.

at a loss with it all don’t know where to start who to see yo get some answers or advice .

but I will be on the TTC train again as soon as this has finished xxxx

Hey girlies, I had a chemical last month. It was my first month using OPKs and I got my first positive opk test on CD18 but I'm currently on CD22 and my OPKs are just everywhere! So up and down, I'm starting to get really disheartened now 😔 has anyone else had weird OPKs after a chemical?

back after a bit of a half hearted couple of months. Jan / Feb are my last shots at this I feel like. Hope everyone is doing ok

@DaringlyDizzy welcome! Do you have a diagnosis of anti-phospholipid antibodies, or is the heparin more just for general purposes?

Had to google Tilly Blooms as I'd never heard of it. We use period cups sometimes if we're struggling to find time around ovulation between work, toddler etc as I'm keen to maximise our chances

Hi all
Resuming TTC after 6 months off from most recent loss
Have an entire regimen of heparin, cyclogest and aspirin to hand.
Also has anyone done ICI or used Tilly Blooms?

Good luck @Mummysparrow!

I'm heading in tomorrow for a follicle scan to see how my clomid is working. Finding it all so draining

I’m a operating theatre manager in Newcastle

@Ncl31 oh that's really good to know. Fingers crossed mine goes well then. Where do you work?

I hope all goes well with your surgery. We do that type of surgery and I love hearing the positive stories from the consultant when he sends people back in clinic and they’re expecting. Hopefully it works out for you

I hope everyone is well it as well as they can be.
I am having surgery in a little over a week's time to remove any adenomyosis and endometriosis as well as repairing my c section niche. It feels weird to not be TTC at the moment. I am hoping this will be the answer to everything x

@Toppstileslover I’m sorry you have found yourself here - but there is comfort in being able to talk about it all with those of us who have also experienced it!
If it helps at all had my first MMC when I was 35, we fell pregnant first try, and then I started spotting at 8 weeks but scans showed nothing had developed after 5 weeks. It then took 7 cycles before our next bfp (I was 36 then) but that was anembryonic pregnancy that I went under general for, and then we fell pregnant 2 cycles after that with my now 3 year old. I was just about to turn 37 :) hopefully you will get your sticky bean soon! I’m currently 40 (soon to be 41) and trying for our second. Sadly I had another MMC - thisbtime my period took 10.5 weeks to come back, but I think that is more that I have had multiple losses.

The first time my period came back after 4 weeks, the next was 5 - so hopefully you won’t have to wait to long 🤞🏻 x

So sorry to hear your news. Keep your spirits high, luck isn’t out yet. Fingers crossed you feel ready to try again soon x

Just stumbled across this thread in the midst of a MMC. I am 9 weeks tomorrow and it stopped growing at 6 weeks (we were told then but had to wait 2 weeks). Went for my MVA yesterday but they couldn’t do it as I have a narrow cervix. Have to go back and have it under general on Wednesday.

I am 37 and so worried. It was our first pregnancy ever and We were very lucky to get pregnant second month, but I’m so worried luck is already out.

sending love to all, it is so tough! I was actually pretty stoic until they stopped my procedure and called the consultant yesterday and I’ve just been a mess since and so worried about periods coming back.

Hi everyone,

Joining this thread as I had a second trimester miscarriage in November 23 and have had nothing since.

I think we might have to start testing as I can’t understand why we aren’t pregnant again.

Hoping for some success this year!

My daughter is 4 too. I'm now looking at a 5 year gap and the new year means there's going to be another school year between them.
I am trying not to think about it too much. There's 4 and 7 years between me and my sisters I'm in the middle so there's 11 years between them. We have always been really close, closer my partner and his brother and they have 3 years between them. Temperament of the children is key age gap can't predict that!

It's hard giving yourself emotional space to recover but at the same time feeling the tick of time. I have had my birthday recently and although I know I'm only a few months older than when we were TTC last the change in age feels huge. I flip flop between omg I'm 37 I'm so old it's never going to happen and I'm only 37 there's time

I had medical management so I counted from the second tablet which brought on the bleeding. To be honest it'd nearly have been better if mine took longer to come back. Still feel mentally and physically knackered but don't want to delay any more. I took an 18 month break a few months after the first loss as I couldn't cope and now I just feel like I'm running out of time as my son is 4...

@Bellabubble thanks our bodies do like to keep us in our toes don't they!

The optimist in me is saying it will give the dietary changes I'm trying to make a chance to make a difference and also that my body needs time to recover from two from the sickness, it was harder on me the second time even though the sickness was worse with the first pregnancy.

I just wish it was easier!

@Superscientist It took me 10.5 weeks to get AF post MVA - I had that Oct 17th and didn’t get my period until after Christmas. This was my 3rd loss (I had 2 before my daughter was born)
I was doing opk’s as much as possible and didn’t ovulate until 2 weeks before AF (due to sickness in the household we never got to dtd) so my body just must have taken a while to recover. I won’t lie - I briefly considered that my body had just decided to start menopause lol!

Thanks both of you x. I got a negative pregnancy test at 3 weeks after bleeding started both times. Both times the bleeding was at 9-10 weeks. I know the second didn't make it past 6 weeks and was very similar to the first so I expect that it was lost at a similar gestation.

I guess that's the other question, when do you date from? I've been counting from when I physically lost the pregnancy although the pregnancy had ended prior to that.

@Superscientist it took slightly longer for me the second time too. I also have a pal on her third and again it's taken longer this time. I think it may also depend how ll g it takes for the hormone levels to come down. I found this time worse in pretty much every way as I did have an embryo in there, even if it wasn't viable. The previous time was a blighted ovum so less hormones and everything was easier... I'm sorry I know the waiting is tough!