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TTC A YEAR AFTER MMC LOOSING HOPE

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Hollie257 · 04/10/2024 13:07

hi I had a MMC in October 2023 I have now been trying again and am on my 7th cycle and starting to loose hope, my periods have been abit all over the place ranging from 31-37 days long, I have been doing OPK’s and getting my peak each month- does anyone have any success stories for trying for their first baby after MMC and it taking a while….any advice appreciated! X

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Hollie257 · 07/10/2024 14:00

Taviton · 07/10/2024 13:45

@Hollie257 same, it makes the not getting pregnant now seem even worse I think when it happened so easily before

Yes deffo I just don’t understand it then panic something could be wrong as why isn’t it happening again xx

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Taviton · 07/10/2024 13:45

@Hollie257 same, it makes the not getting pregnant now seem even worse I think when it happened so easily before

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Hollie257 · 07/10/2024 13:07

Taviton · 07/10/2024 12:54

@Hollie257 very scary, but given that we've managed to get pregnant before, I think if there is an issue it's more likely to be something that can be fixed/improved. Were you trying long before?

That’s very true! I’m trying to think positive- we were very lucky and got pregnant first time without really trying which is the crazy thing!! Now trying and no luck- typical xx

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Taviton · 07/10/2024 12:54

@Hollie257 very scary, but given that we've managed to get pregnant before, I think if there is an issue it's more likely to be something that can be fixed/improved. Were you trying long before?

Snowdrops17 · 07/10/2024 12:09

Hi @BussiBop23 I did a post down below on what we did if you have any more questions though ask away x

BussiBop23 · 07/10/2024 12:07

Hi @Snowdrops17 👋 hope you don't mind me jumping on here and asking what you did to help improve your partners sperm morphology?

We are now 18 months on from a miscarriage, TTC baby number 1. So far, all our testing has been OK apart from 3% morphology. Would love to know what you did to help that?

Also, OP, I can totally relate to the feeling of losing hope, but you're still less than a year trying! Wishing you all the best x

Thanks!

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Hollie257 · 06/10/2024 20:42

Snowdrops17 · 06/10/2024 19:21

@Hollie257 I'm in Ireland but we had tried for a year and then go referred us to a clinic it's all private here not like NHS. I also had a Hycosy so I don't know if that helped they said there was no blockage

Thankyou for the advice just hoping something works soon xx

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Snowdrops17 · 06/10/2024 19:22

@Pennyroses I'm so sorry about your loses but I do personally think the sperm play a huge role in miscarriage there is more and more research to support that . It took my partner just under 3 months to fix his morphology x

Snowdrops17 · 06/10/2024 19:21

@Hollie257 I'm in Ireland but we had tried for a year and then go referred us to a clinic it's all private here not like NHS. I also had a Hycosy so I don't know if that helped they said there was no blockage

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Hollie257 · 06/10/2024 19:17

Snowdrops17 · 06/10/2024 16:31

I tried for 2 years after my MC turned out my partner had extremely low sperm motility once we knew we were able to fix it relatively quickly and eventually fell pregnant with DD

How long did you have to wait for tests on the NHS? Or did you go private xx

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Pennyroses · 06/10/2024 19:14

Snowdrops17 · 06/10/2024 18:38

@Pennyroses we basically did what they did in the video below but also he cut out all caffeine as he drank huge amounts of coffee and cut out alcohol as well. We also got rid of as much plastic as possible so lunch boxes for work we bought metal and the same with coffee cups.

Thankyou for sharing that, will watch it now. My partner has a low count, I have got pregnant twice now but unfortunately miscarried. Looking to do anything we can now to improve the chances of a successful pregnancy! 🤞

Snowdrops17 · 06/10/2024 18:38

@Pennyroses we basically did what they did in the video below but also he cut out all caffeine as he drank huge amounts of coffee and cut out alcohol as well. We also got rid of as much plastic as possible so lunch boxes for work we bought metal and the same with coffee cups.

Pennyroses · 06/10/2024 17:16

Snowdrops17 · 06/10/2024 16:31

I tried for 2 years after my MC turned out my partner had extremely low sperm motility once we knew we were able to fix it relatively quickly and eventually fell pregnant with DD

How did you fix it if you don't mind me asking?

Snowdrops17 · 06/10/2024 16:31

I tried for 2 years after my MC turned out my partner had extremely low sperm motility once we knew we were able to fix it relatively quickly and eventually fell pregnant with DD

worldwidetravel2017 · 06/10/2024 15:31

Hollie257 · 06/10/2024 15:29

Did you go for this privately? X

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Yep

515 gbp

Glad i did
Even tho result wasnt what i wanted

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Hollie257 · 06/10/2024 15:29

worldwidetravel2017 · 06/10/2024 11:29

Tube flush could help

I wish id done that earlier but have to look forwards

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Did you go for this privately? X

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worldwidetravel2017 · 06/10/2024 11:29

Hollie257 · 06/10/2024 09:29

Yes it is and I’m now worrying somethings wrong as haven’t go pregnant quickly xx

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Tube flush could help

I wish id done that earlier but have to look forwards

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Hollie257 · 06/10/2024 09:30

Sunnydays12340987 · 06/10/2024 00:07

I had a mmc in January, it was then really tough as I felt it affected our relationship. I thought we would never get there and we decided to take a break from trying last month..then found out I was pregnant a week ago when we had sex twice and definitely thought that was out of my fertile window, so it can happen even when you despair and lose hope. Xx

Congratulations that is great news!! Xx

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Hollie257 · 06/10/2024 09:29

PeachPombear · 06/10/2024 00:01

I know exactly what you mean! The hospital made it seem like I would just be pregnant straight away but that hasn’t been the case. It is so draining to have to start the process over xxx

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Yes it is and I’m now worrying somethings wrong as haven’t go pregnant quickly xx

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Sunnydays12340987 · 06/10/2024 00:07

I had a mmc in January, it was then really tough as I felt it affected our relationship. I thought we would never get there and we decided to take a break from trying last month..then found out I was pregnant a week ago when we had sex twice and definitely thought that was out of my fertile window, so it can happen even when you despair and lose hope. Xx

PeachPombear · 06/10/2024 00:01

Hollie257 · 05/10/2024 22:27

So sorry to hear this! It is nice to know someone has been through similar experience though as all I seem to read is people falling pregnant again quickly after miscarriage- the whole process is so draining xx

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I know exactly what you mean! The hospital made it seem like I would just be pregnant straight away but that hasn’t been the case. It is so draining to have to start the process over xxx

worldwidetravel2017 · 05/10/2024 23:14

My advice would be to get your tubes flushed privately if you can

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Hollie257 · 05/10/2024 22:30

moosey89 · 05/10/2024 14:59

No advice I'm afraid - after my 2 most recent MMCs it took 6 cycles and then 9 cycles to conceive again. I'm now on cycle 5 of trying again. Had 3 MMCs total but didn't try again after the first as my relationship with my then partner (now ex!) broke down off the back of it.

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so sorry to hear this don’t know how you have survived 3 MMC you are amazing xx

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Hollie257 · 05/10/2024 22:27

PeachPombear · 04/10/2024 20:57

Sorry no help but just want success stories too! I had a late miscarriage Nov 23 and I am currently 8 months of trying and still nothing. Hopefully we all catch soon

So sorry to hear this! It is nice to know someone has been through similar experience though as all I seem to read is people falling pregnant again quickly after miscarriage- the whole process is so draining xx

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Hollie257 · 05/10/2024 22:26

Taviton · 04/10/2024 21:44

@Hollie257 yes I'm trying for my first. It's an awful situation isn't it. I'm thinking I'll wait until January and then get some fertility tests done and go from there x

Yes me too it’s a scary thought isn’t it about having to go for testing xx

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