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hi ladies

BB - sounds awful! I was thinking I might try pre-seed if we don't get pg this month. Might think twice now!

Hope you are not too down about ttc, I have felt the same at various points over the last 4 months. I know you have been ttc a bit longer than that. It WILL happen for you soon I am sure. Keep your chin up . Keep posting on here as we will worry about you if you disappear xx

Hope everyone else is OK and has had a nice weekend!

I am shattered for some reason! (hoping this is a sign!?!?)

CE xx

Hope you are all having a good Sunday

HC - just out of interest, if I conceived this baby on the day I ovulated (which the dates seem to confirm I did) - according to your book, is it more likely to be a boy or a girl?

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DH has just rung to say they have literally just finished the match - I didn't realise cricket games went on till 8.45pm

Willmouse - what a day you have had although I bet DH was more upset about the football than Rosie's washing machine!! BTW, my washing machine is only a year old and it takes 2 hours to do a 40 degree wash - is that a long time?

Have had a lazy day today - went to aerobics this morning then have not left the house since I had a 90-minute nap when DS did this afternoon and then just lounged around watching the football.

Am now waiting for DH to come home - he has been playing cricket today and his journey home is 30 minutes and he hasn't even set off yet fgs! Am fed up of thinking of meals that can be cooked seperately or kept hot as there is no way I can wait until after 9 for my tea.

Anyway, rant over - hope you are all having a good evening

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Oh, meant to say that I understand about the baby gear. I went to a seconds/charity clothing store around here earlier today. I actually went to look for maternity trousers, only to find they didn't have any, but came away with some girl clothes for 9-12 months, even thought I don't know what I am having . If I am having a boy, I will ebat the stuff, but they were too much of a bargain to pass up, but they had no small baby or boy stuff this time. Oh well!

Willmouse, sounds like the sort of thing that would happen to me. I hope your weekend gets better.

CE, I also watched Mr & Mrs and thought about how bad we would be too, lol! Actually, I hardly ever watch weekend tv apart from Dr Who (which we recorded) and I watched Mr & Mrs and am now watching Britains got talent and secretly enjoying it

willmouse - you crack me up! . Sounds like you are having 'one of those days'!!! Hope this evening improves! You seem to have enjoyed the time with your boys though, so that's good!

We have been looking round a few shops today, (I won't say shopping as we didn't buy much!). DP tried on a suit for my sisters wedding, and I nearly dragged him off somewhere he looked soooo sexy! LOL

We are now watching Mr and Mrs, discussing how badly we would do!

I don't think it's odd about your DH's ex stuff still being used, it's just common sense! I lived in this house with my ex, and most of the furniture etc was bought with him. DP is fine about it all now!

I tried to resist the urge to look at baby stuff but it's so hard! There is some very nice kit out there...can't wait to start buying it!

Hope everyone is well
CE xx

Where is everyone today???? It is like the Marie Celeste!!!

I will post even though I am now the only one officially NOT ttc! LOL!

I have survived two days on my own with the boys (which is a good job really considering my next career move). In fact I really enjoyed myself this weekend, I planned what I was going to do and we have had had some real fun (despite the fact that DS1 now has his gameboy and DS2 is sat watching Ceebeebies )

DH is gutted that Cardiff lost the FA cup final. He spoke to me to tell me he was on the way home as they were still handing out the medals aparently he was too disappointed to watch. After three everyone.....ahhhhhhh

Our washing machine is now finally dead . I always call it Rosie's washing machine (Rosie was DH's ex who he bought the washing machine with when they first moved in together) - it is donkeys years old - oh well - I still have Rosie's toaster !!!! Am I weird??

Anyway to cut a long story short I loaded the said machine and went into town. Came back an hour later (damn thing takes 2 hrs to do the 40 degree wash - will be glad to see the back of it!) to hear the most horrendous banging noise. I had to fiddle with the knob (pardon the pun) to unlock the door and then thankfully turned it off at the socket because when I opened the door a load of black smoke came out!!!!!!!! Washing smells a bit dodgy but quite frankly we are going to have to put up with it until I can get another. I am just glad I was only an hour in town, the whole house could have burned down.

Sorry guys, another long post about not much at all really!!! Presumably you are all having a better time than me!

Wow Willmouse, no wonder you are stressed.

I agree with the other, knock #1 on the head, great news about #2 and as for 3 & 4, I think I would go for #3, at least for now as it is more easily achievable and somehow sounds less stressful.

Majormoo, good to hear from you, enjoy your weekend, it sounds like fun!

Thanks all, I feel better already. It is stressful with so many balls in the air but I am sure it will all be worth it.

DH has gone to the cup final so I am on my own with the boys.

Off to have my tea, a glass of wine and watch a chick flick

Willmouse - I can't really add anything that the others haven't already said but the police job does sound like a handy stop-gap and I love the idea of a handover in the carpark

HC/CE - lol at you 2 and your FF. I got so confused when I looked at it I never went anywhere near it again and I hate to think what it would have thought about my mammoth weird cycles!

Majormoo - oooh girly weekend, you lucky thing (shame you can't indulge though - am sure it would be much better with lots of wine )

Right, best go and put DS to bed and then put tea on.

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Hi All I am still here but been busy so by the time I have caught up on the thread no time to post much.

Willmouse sounds like you are really getting things moving.

Have 4 of my friends coming to stay at the weekend, while DH takes the kids to a friend's so really looking forward to a girlie weekend. Then my sister's 20th wedding anniversary party Sunday. So I will catch up properly next week. had tried to escape upstairs while DH got kids ready for bed but can hear DS yelling as he now thinks I have gone out so must go.

oh x-posts willmouse.

Glad that you felt that you could share.

Sounds like your life is really busy at the moment! Sorry to hear that the working for BIl is not going so well, although in someways may be better to get some distance with your SIL.

Fingers crossed about the police job, as sounds like that could bring some money in in the short term.
Will you be able to do the childminding and the nursery preparation at the same time? This would ensure that you still have money coming in whilst you have to pay out during the paperwork - can't beleive that it is so much!

Having all this on your plate at the moment understandably means that ttc has dropped off your radar screen - however they do say as soon as you plan/have something else important in your life you will fall pg so you never know

Ignore all my advice if you want to but wanted to try and be as constructive as I could.

Thanks CE - you have it in a nutshell really.

I am definitely giving up number 1.

Mum is going to cover my hour childcare two days and as DH works for Staffs Police in the same department, the other two days we are going to do a change around on the car park at 4pm!

I think I really want to just do number 3 which is the safe option. I have a gorgeous room which would be ideal and I could employ an assistant and take up to 12 children

4 is turning out to be really stressful. My CM thinks we can rent the property and both childmind out of it until we get approval to cover a bit of the rent.

Still feel like letting out a primal scream though!

Note to Mjob - I took your advice and cut DS2's hair myself (actually my best freind helped by running her clippers over it on the huge setting once I had cut the fringe). It looks fine and saved me a tenner. DS1 wont let me touch his - but I am growing it as a cost saving exercise as he has lovely curls so all I need is someone to cut the fringe!

willmouse - my god! You have got a lot on your plate! Sometimes just writing it all down like you have done, and getting it out, can help, so I hope it has . But thinking nice helpful thoughts for you, OK? As for not wanting to stay on here if not ttc, of course you can!!!! Half us are pg and they stay!

I'm not great with advice, but here goes:

1. Sounds like this is a no brainer. Stop working for them immediately. The £1600 advert is not your problem/fault
2. New job sounds good. Are there any family who might be able to help with childcare?

Bellie/HC - my cycle varies in length, but AF always arrives 14 days after ov! I must be a walking textbook! LOL!

Yes, Angel???? Where is she aswell???

fantastic pictures!

Sorry to hear that you are stressed willmouse - rant away on here (if you can of course!) Or just lurk whatever works for you!

HC/CE my cycle seems to be about the same regardless of when I ov although I don't use ff, I am always confused/perplexed by it all!! When I mentioned it to my gp she looked at me as if I bonkers (no pun intended ) and told me that af always arrives 14 days after ov.

i was wondering about majormoo and bb too. Hope they are both alright - also Angel not been around for a while has she?

Yay it is Friday - american idol and wine night!!

DD at a party tomorrow which was supposed to be bouncy castle in the garden - although the weather is forcast to be raining all day

Problem shared alert then:-

1. I am currently working for my BIL but it is conveyancing, there is no work, hence no money, hence in the financial SH*t. I am dreading telling BIL that I am not going to work for him any more. He told me that he had paid £1,600 for an advert in our local Thompsons which comes out in June. I am not sure whether I believe this. I will feel really relieved to give it up though, as you know I am none to fond of SIL and she makes me feel as if I am in her debt because her husband employs me.

1. DH managed to get me a casual job at Staffs Police phoning up victims of crime to check they were treated property. Great - 4 hours a day 4 days a week probably 4-8pm but could be even more flexible than that if I want. All I have to do now is juggle a bit of childcare between 4-5 a couple of days a week....... and do the training..... Good news is that it will start next month so will sort of cancel out the fact that I will not make any money from job 1.

1. Decided to register as a childminder to make money and spend more time with DS2. DS1 starts school in September so I will be able to look afer up to 2 under 3's and 2 5 and overs - great again - childminder earned £25k last year doing similar. Have got briefing session with council next week and have then got to write a load of policies and check OFSTED regulations etc. This can take up to 12 weeks but possibly less. I was really excited about this in the week as we have a playroom which would be an ideal set up and then.............

1. The nursery thing. We have now found a property which would be ideal (I thought this would take ages - it has taken a week) I am also going on a briefing on setting up a day nursery - basically a bloody nightmare between Ofsted, heath and safety, environmental health, fire safety etc etc. Plus Ofsted take 25 weeks to process your application and during that time we will have to rent a property (which will also require change of use btw at a cost of £265 and the neighbours may complain etc). However, if this works out it will be really profitable.

You may all notice that ttc doesn't come into this at all other than if option 4 is sucessful I will be able to live my dream and have 4 children (subject to the fact that I am only allowed one more c-section). I don't feel I should be here any more on that basis

It is a miracle that I ever sleep.

Sorry its long but you did ask.

All comments/advice greatly appreciated

Don't worry about me.

I am really stressed about all things work related at the moment (of which there are 4 ). I think about it all so much I can't be bothered to talk about it

I am just enjoying reading at the moment - and looking at all the piccies