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Long time trying club

81 replies

Stillwinston · 13/08/2024 07:06

Welcome to the club that nobody wants to be a member of....just looking for others who are in a similar boat to me and fancy a safe space to moan and get some support.

For my part, we're currently TTC no.2 but have now been trying for 3 years, I had a MC in August 2022 but haven't had even a whisper of a line since then. Even though every month I know my tests are going to be negative I still stupidly get my hopes up and then feel crushed all over again - I'm the personification of that quote about insanity, doing the same thing over and over but expecting a different result 😂 we had a chat with a fertility clinic last week so are likely starting treatment in the next couple of months though I'm hoping beyond hope that we can conceive before then as it's so crazy expensive!!

Anyway, hopefully there are some others out there that can relate and understand the pain of the never ending 2WW 😩

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Stillwinston · 13/08/2024 08:49

Where are you both in your cycles - I'm CD23 so imminently anticipating AF. Obviously tested this morning and got a BFN, you'd have thought I'd have learnt by this point 😂

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Stillwinston · 13/08/2024 08:45

Hi @Fairy0708 and @Leaht23 - thanks for your messages! There's no quantifying time for 'long time' so you're more than welcome here 😄

Our first turns 4 in 2.5 weeks - when we started trying I was dead set on a small age gap and now it's looking like it'll be a minimum of 5 years at this rate!

@Fairy0708 so pleased to hear that your LO is doing much better now, that must have been so scary. My son had surgery at 9 weeks so I know a bit of how scary it is but it sounds like your LO had a tough year, I'm so pleased that you're on the other side of that now ❤️

@Leaht23 it's so tough when it doesn't happen straight away, especially when it's your first. It took us 2 years to conceive our son and so I completely understand your frustration each month. Sending you lots of baby dust for this cycle 💐

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Leaht23 · 13/08/2024 08:36

Hi! That sounds so difficult, I’m sorry. I don’t know if I can join as I’ve only been TTC number 1 for 10 months. But I feel you on the never ending 2ww. Every month I’m convinced it will be our time, but it just hasn't happened.

Fairy0708 · 13/08/2024 08:16

Hey!

3 years sounds very tough, sorry 🌺. How old is your first?

We've been TTC baby 2. On cycle 12, AF due this weekend. First was concieved on cycle 1 but he has had his share of health issues and surgeries but all good now 😊

Stillwinston · 13/08/2024 07:12

I'm 38 so time is unfortunately not on my side either 😩

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Mrsphilmiller · 13/08/2024 07:08

How old are you OP?