Long time trying club

Thanks @Stillwinston and you too. I don't know about fertility plans - sorry. Hopefully someone else does. 15k though!! Ooof. I hate that ivf is something that some people can afford without batting an eyelid and others just simply can't or have to scrape everything together for. It seems very unfair.

If we started ivf it would whenever my next cycle is but at the moment I'm not sure we will. Thinking about other options too - like adoption, although that would be something to think through very carefully to ensure we could be a good home for a child who needed it.

What about you in terms of timing?

Hey OP

I'm in a very similar boat to you. First child took three years to conceive and surgery to clear endometriosis. Very high risk/physically difficult pregnancy and birth. My LO is now three, and we've been TTC basically for two years. Like you been told Icsi would be only route due to endo, one of my ovaries has no more eggs and the tube is totally blocked, and my DH bad sperm. Im also 40 so obviously that doesn't help. Basically the shittest of fertility hands!

At the point where I just don't know what we do. one round of ICSI would pretty much drain our savings (8k where we are) with less than 20% chance. I was told they aren't sure they could harvest eggs from me due to distortion on my ovary from endo and scars. It's a lot of money to throw on something that is likely to fail. Agh!

Same boat as you!! Ttc for 3 years now also for a second! My dd is 5, secondary infertility is so tough 😫 2 failed ivf rounds aswell, upped my doses of ubiquinol and mnm in hopes I'll fall pregnant naturally before we go off and spend the last of our savings on round 3..
How old is your 1st?

@Stillwinston I'm so sorry re the spotting, it's rubbish isn't it? Sending a big hug your way and lots of luck to everyone here 💕

Please can I join too? Also secondary infertility.

Trying for 18 months. I'm 36 and DS has just turned 3. He was conceived naturally but took almost a year.

Have recently found out DH has a low sperm count and poor morphology so waiting to find out if the recommendation is go straight to ICSI or we can do some other things first.

I know its not the same as Primary but Secondary infertility is so hard. I constantly stress about the age gap/ him being lonely when he's older!

Also my period is 3 days late but I've had horrible cramping so sure it's just my body playing up.

Hello, hoping I can join too 🙂 ttc #3 for 2 years next month, had 2 mmc in that time, am currently 6dpo on cycle 13 since the last loss. I am 3, find it funny typing my real age because in real life I have been telling everyone i'm 26... been 26 for a long time now must change it to 27 soon 😂)

Still very hopeful all the time but also have a feeling of "after so long, could it ever really happen" x

Hi OP! I am 38 too and have a history of unexplained infertility. We were TTC 7 years before doing 2 unsuccessful and 1 successful IVF rounds.

We are thinking about TTC no.2 now too and I am excited, anxious and slightly terrified as 1st pregnancy took a massive toll on my mental and physical health. So before we can actually start, I need a health MOT, better food and rest and build up some strength. Anyone else here have a toddler with broken sleep & have fatigue from it??

@Stillwinston sorry to hear spotting has started. I hope you had lots of wine! I think I'm 10DPO and I have all my usual AF symptoms plus burning up so pretty sure I'll be joining you on the wine soon!

@Stillwinston

In terms of relaxation I found it to be the same as having like 10 massages. However it could simply be just having 30 mins lying on a bed with no one expecting anything from me. I'm on my 3rd cycle since starting it now.
I don't believe in it much either but it's feeling like I'm doing something. Also as I'm 99% sure my issue is physical rather than egg quality or hormones it probably wouldn't make a difference whereas IVF certainly will.

@Stillwinston thank you for the welcome!
i feel so silly, i said to my best friend this time last year that we would be starting to try and by this time next year i could be preggo or even have a baba. I didn’t say, maybe if he loosing my mind day by day. it’s such a drain. And every month I swear I’m going to play it cool and just take it as it comes. Aim to focus on my good health and working towards being even more healthy and yet the second we get to 6/8dpo boom!!! 💥 I’m right back in the emotions.

Sending love to all you on here. It’s a rough road to walk x

Hi, took me 7 years to conceive my second which I finally did at 41. Wishing you all the luck.

Hey ladies!! Can I join? I’m a mum of a 13yr girl. Swore I didn’t want anymore as it was so traumatic in various ways and I had to do it all alone.
then last year things started going weird and I got scared I was going into early perimenopause. so we decided to start trying. No answers from the docs on anything "because I’m only 33 and of course I could not be" also used to have a copper coil that I had for combined time of 12 years. Been trying a year without even a sniff of a line.
always had super heavy periods and now next to nothing since having coil removed. OH sperm count is low and I’m not sure there is enough of a lining in me for anything to implant anyway. Feeling lost, alone and a wreck. This has been harder than anything I had imagined.
currently 8dpo but feel already out as I think we missed the window due to ill health. Got one heart in on estimated O day but I think by then it would be too late.
worry for all the Info 🙈 good to get it all out you know

I had Hycosy, AMH and SA back in April, everything was normal, other than my ovary. AMH 11 which a little low but seems normal for my age (38).

I've also been having acupuncture in the meantime, so far no results but it has definitely helped me with stress and plan to continue with it through IVF.