TTC after loss part 5

Thanks @Superscientist sorry to see your update also. I remember you were one of the first people I spoke to on here when I got a positive - I feel very naive thinking back to that time!

I don’t like the pressure of having to dtd, and also I often wish my husband would just get on with it which isn’t ideal 😬.

Oh @Superscientist @Joleyjojo I’m so sorry about your MC, so hard to just carry on as normal.
@Joleyjojo its so good that you’re having such a positive outlook. I’m sorry about the trip out with mamas and papas shop. Totally understandable though, it’s still so raw and I have no advice only to just take one day at a time and look after yourself. I find mindfulness helpful.
@ConfusedCrab im sorry AF arrive, I predict I’ll be joining you in a day or so xx

We were very relaxed when started TTC. Now having had the chemical followed by the MMC it has made me a bit obsessed to get pregnant ASAP. Only because it prompted googling and all the stuff about my age has sent me a bit crazy. I just don’t have time n my side.

The romance has gone and it is BD for one reason. However once I have ovulated the sex after is so much better. 😂😂 so it’s like 10 days of being hard work then the holiday after 😂

For us TTC makes up for the drought that comes from early pregnancy and with my daughter late pregnancy and first year! Between getting the positive test and my daughter turning 1 I think we dtd 3 or 4 times only!

Sounds like a good plan, I'm trying to avoid ovulation tracking as I'm an obsessive type so want to save that for later. I think I might do the every other day from day 8 and then try more frequent later in the week. My partner is away next week so we need the swimmers in there before he leaves in case of late ovulation, based on typical ovulation for my period length we should be ok. I don't know why but I feel quite awkward about raising the idea of sex for conception.

this was my first AF since MC. I was upset obviously and then I found myself trying to be positive. Diet started, exercise started, manifesting (I know not everyone’s thing), booked my hair appointment, nails, reiki. Am decorating the house and finding out I was pregnant was a huge kick up the arse to finish the house. Following MC I didn’t want to do anything but yesterday B&Q etc. walked into next and there is a big mamas and papas attached I just broke down. Literally inconsolable this feeling has stuck and I can’t shake it. How can I get positive / excited for this cycle feeling like this. 40 in January and having a huge panic about my fertility. Then I feel like if I get too positive it’s a harder fall.

Anyway I know you all understand and get it, and yes @Superscientist we can do this together. I am going to SMEP this cycle , use my CB monitor and OvuSense to confirm ovulation. Because BF will defo want a rest after 😂

Sorry you got a negative too @ConfusedCrab. I have just had my first proper cycle after miscarriage too. It's ok for your heart to sink with AF even if that is what you were expecting. My period was shorter than normal which was some relief. Once the bleeding stopped I switched from disappointment to cautious optimism. For me that was the point when the feelings from the last cycle waned and the hope for the next started. Be kind to yourself over the next few days and then you can start looking forward again x

Its ok to step away if you need @Beanie14. I'm sorry that you were finding the bfps a bit much, it's a natural response but that doesn't make it any easier. I have 2 women at work expecting too. It's hard.

Try to put the tests away for a couple of days. X

I'm day 8 and about to enter my fertile week. My other half is in a bit of a defeatist mood which is tricky. We have been trying to decide on Christmas plans. Stay at home or go to his parents a 4+h drive away. If expecting I would want to be at home. I think we will be at home now for other reasons but he didn't want to be making plans around something that might not happen. I struggle so much with sickness even if it's a slim chance of happening I want home comforts. The pregnancy sickness with my daughter started on the 23rd Dec and I spent all of Christmas at his parents try to not be obvious that I was struggling to eat.

I'm sorry you got a negative test result @Joleyjojo you can join me this month. Hopefully it will be a good month for both of us x

period started for me today also after being a couple of days late, first proper cycle after miscarriage. I didn’t feel pregnant so I didn’t test, still gutting though.

Hi everybody, I’ve been off this group for the last month or so because I was finding all the BFP on this chat really triggering. I got really upset today, I found out a girl from work is 18weeks along and wasn’t even trying and knew you girls would understand why it made me so sad! Like I’m happy for her but sad for me.
I’m around 10dpo today BFN this morning, I know it was too early to test but couldnt help myself. I’m trying to have the it’ll happen when it happens attitude but mentally I just feel sad and stressed about it.

I’m sorry you’re feeling down about it. It’s very challenging I know.

BFN at 11dpo. Gutted but just want AF here to start again. I hope everyone is holding up ok , I am feeling a bit sad about it today tbh. Sending lots of positive vibes xxxx

@Mummysparrow that’s great, sounds like things are regulating.

I am CD25 and have been having ewcm most days since CD11. My ovulation tests this week are very low. Didn’t test last week while on holiday, but I doubt ovulation has happened based on the 50 day cycle last month.
Anyone ever experienced this?

@Superscientist really sorry to hear that your period has started.
I am cd12 and had loads of ewcm yesterday and today so I am expecting a LH peak tomorrow. It means that I should ovulate a whole 8 days earlier then last month. Who knows if it is due to the vitamins or not but I believe that they must have helped. Which means I should have a 28 or 29 cycle which will be amazing after last cycle being 36 days.

@Ncl31 i’m sorry you’ve experienced similar, soul destroying is definitely the word to describe it. Feeling very frustrated with it

@Superscientist oh i am so sorry AF has arrived 😔 it’s really gutting

Oh no. How frustrating. I’m so sorry.

I got another test. My period started during the 3 minute wait. Unsurprisingly negative. Maybe next month!

@Superscientist finegrs crossed you get your BFP.
@Figtree11 i used to have cycles that were 100days long, it’s soul destroying looking for positive OPK

Sorry it was negative @Superscientist but hopefully it’s just too early & you’ll get a BFP soon

@Figtree11 I had another negative test this morning. I thought my period was meant to be tomorrow but it's actually Tuesday. I'm in the office tomorrow and I think I might pop into the boots in the station.

@Ncl31 that sounds a lot easier than having to do regular ovulation tests. Fingers crossed ovulation is close for you 🤞🏻

So I’m back from holiday & starting the ovulation tests. They are all really low. But now I’m wondering if there is any point, as I’m CD22. But last month I ovulated around CD40, so maybe I should do the tests so I can pinpoint when it will be. Just feels a hard slog testing for so many days!

@Figtree11 ive not done any OPKs this cycle.
move been wearing my OvuSense nightly though.
this is my first cycle without medication for a while.
I have a big dip in temp this morning and then had a big glob of EWCM this afternoon. When I’ve looked back on my charts it’s often how it is the day before ovulation so hopefully im successful without medication.

@Ladyinpink1 i find not tracking a lot less stressful, but then it can be frustrating! I am CD22 and don’t know if I have ovulated, or if it’s still to come in the next 10-15 days. I hope you enjoyed the event you went to last night

@Joleyjojo i hope it’s a positive month for you. But I like that idea of a positive mindset regardless

How are you getting on @Superscientist have you done another test this weekend?

@worldwidetravel2017 good luck with the tube flush

Hey all

I have my private tube flush very soon

( with foam - rather than dye )

Nervous
But its a step forward

@Ladyinpink1 see if this code still works NWLAEKVif not let me know as I have another one. It is pricey but the reviews are amazing 🤩
@Superscientist hopefully your BFP comes in the next few days

I'm definitely a bit hormonal - I started tearing up last night reading Thomas the tank engine as some of the passengers might not make it home for Christmas day (spoiler alert they did).
Hopefully it will mean that in the next few days I get an answer one way or the other.

@Babydust99 and @Joleyjojo sounds like positive outlooks to have. Hoping for the best for both of you!