TTC after loss part 5

@Fletchasketch oh this sounds so promising!! When will you test?
I totally get not wanting to know if it’s a chemical though. We had a Chemical in July i didn’t test early we were 3 days late, I wish I hadn’t gotten excited though. I have everything crossed for you!!!

@Ella31 12 weeks already! That’s gone so fast! Wow. Have you had your scan yet? early pregnancy is such a worrying time, sorry it’s a bit rough. oh and with the added pain of your twins birthday! I just can’t imagine :(

@EmTTC2 congratulations! I hope it’s a sticky one!

@CadoAvo exciting! Hope it all goes well, and at least you’re on holiday during the TWW so you have a huge distraction.

@Ncl31 Oh thanks I assumed it would be a long wait because the GP said most couple get pregnancy while waiting for the referral…
im not sure if there’s anything they will actually do for us though as we already have a 3 year old. I just worry that because we have had no pregnancies at all since TTC this time apart from a chemical back in July that’s I am now unable to conceive.

Getting my hopes up a bit here at 2 days before AF is due with a rise in temperature and heart rate increase like last time and twinges but not the usual PMS cramps. I'm determined to wait until I'm late to test, sounds silly but if it's a chemical I think I'd rather not know 🙃.

I've been quiet recently but still checking in on the thread. Had a month off last month and currently in my fertile window, ovulation should hopefully happen this weekend/early next week. Then we are off on a sunny holiday in 2 weeks 🥳

I can't believe you're 12 weeks already, how exciting! Have you had your 12 week scan yet?? I think about you often and hoping you're doing okay 🥰

Congratulations- let’s hope this is a sticky wee bean

@Beanie14 I’m on letrozole. I have PCOS, so I’ve been given 6 months of it to try before we go down the IVF route.
Our fertility referral took a couple of months to get an appointment through, it was a couple of months for the appointment, once we were seen initially they were very quick to get us in for all of our tests though. They scanned me and done bloods at my initial appointment so it felt like we were getting somewhere.
i know exactly how you feel so don’t feel like you’re moaning - it’s frustrating I know.

Hi everyone. Not been on here in a while. Update - I've had two early losses in June & August this year. I got another bfp yesterday. I'm currently 3 weeks & 5 days. Fingers crossed this wee one sticks! 🙏

Thank you ladies! It is comforting to be able to chat with you all knowing we have all felt the same things - although I wish we didn’t all have to know what it feels like!
I’m hoping EPAC, will get the ball rolling quickly for me, I don’t want to have to be scanned and wait a week and be scanned again - I don’t know which route is the best option to take, I feel like the risks with general anaesthetic now I have a little one is a scary thought, but it does mean it’s all over quicker.

I’m sending you all positive thoughts for up and coming cycles/TWW

@Ncl31 ah thank you. It does add so much more stress when you’re testing and it has to be NOW etc!
What meds are you on?
I always ovulate within my fertile week normall y days 14-16 so it’s almost a waste of money to do OPKs tbh.
When I spoke to the GP she told me that just having regular sex especially around my fertile week was enough and that timing sex to a specific day is probably just adding stress and is clearly not helping me conceive. She has referred me to the fertility clinic though, any ideas how long the referral process takes? I’m guessing months.. sigh.
I don’t mean to whinge, sorry girls but it’s just nice to speak to people going through it too.
Although still bummed I am going into this next cycle with a different outlook and just gonna have sex when we feel like it rather than forcing it because im in my ovulation window and with all the romance gone like it has been lately. I’m also on annual leave for the next 2 weeks so I’m hoping as I’m more relaxed and not permanently tired from working nights that my body might not hate me as much.

@Ella31 how far along are you now? Xx

@Beanie14 so sorry you’re feeling down. It’s so difficult I know.
I’ve not done any OPKs this cycle, it’s also an entirely unmedicated cycle because I left my meds at home when I was away early September so I’ve had no ovulation induction.
I had good signs of it with EWCM so only time will tell. Estimated myself at around 8-10DPO if I go from those symptoms.

Oh @Bellabubble welcome, im so sorry to hear you’re going through this though. Sending hugs to you.

It's good you have recognised that the testing was adding to the stress. @Beanie14
I'm cd11 and I was a lot less optimistic a week ago!

@Bellabubble I'm sorry you are going through miscarriage again. It still hurts even if you have a little one at home. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks in August but they think I most probably lost the pregnancy earlier. The crippling all day nausea went at 8 weeks. I was still needing antiemetics until after the miscarriage though. It took a bit of time to feel ready for intimacy. I got my first period after 4 weeks and that was when I felt like I had processed and was ready to start again.
Take your time and look after yourself x

I am so sorry to hear this, all miscarriages are awful, but I think there is something particularly harsh about a missed miscarriage. I had my own in August at 8 weeks and wouldn't wish it on anyone. You are amongst friends here though and I hope the next few days and weeks go as well as they can. Sending big hugs.

Hello everyone - just wondering if I can join? I had an early scan at 7weeks which showed everything was all ok, but went back today at 10weeks and there was no progression from a few days after the last scan, and no heartbeat.
i am very lucky to have a LO already (I had 2 losses before our LO came along - one a missed miscarriage and one an anembryonic pregnancy) but still feel gutted, even though I am typically very pragmatic about these things (my way of coping I think!)
I’m currently waiting on a call from EPAC, to decide the next route, but know that I will want to ttc fairly quickly again as age is not on my side sadly. My heart goes out to everyone here - I know my journey is more positive in comparison to others, but I feel for anyone who has experienced a loss/losses X ❤️

@Superscientist thank you! It’s just so hard. It’s making me feel like there must be something wrong with me! I wish I had your optimism. I’ve stopped OPKs ant BBT as of last month as I just feel like it makes things more stressful xx

Oh @Beanie14 I'm sorry AF has arrived. It's ok to feel defeated. Process the end of this cycle and take some time for yourself. In a few days hopefully some optimism about the next cycle will appear. All feelings are valid feelings, just take some time.

@hicketypickety Gosh what a journey you’ve been through! I’m so sorry! Hope you get answers soon and this TWW goes quickly.

As suspected AF arrived bang on time yesterday. I’m really thinking it’s never going to happen!

Hey @hicketypickety welcome! Sorry you've been through a lot TTC. I've also had 3 miscarriage (all missed miscarriages), all the tests and everything showing as "normal"! It's infuriating, I want something to be there to fix, you know? Me and my partner had the genetic bloods done too as tissue from my third loss showed trisomy 15, should get the results in a couple of weeks hopefully. If that's normal, I don't really know where to go next.... We're in cycle 5 of trying again since the most recent loss, first 2 pregnancies (with him, the other loss was with my ex before!) took 6 months and 9 months to conceive so I'm sort of headed to my hopeful stage, but trying not to get hopes up too much.

@hicketypickety welcome, I'm sorry you have had such a difficult journey TTC your second.

Hello all please can I join? Long old story for me.

2017 - DS born, easier than I thought it would be to conceive, relatively easy pregnancy (of course I was only 27 then...)

Put off trying for DC2 for a while, various reasons.

• Sept 2022 - start trying again, fell PG first cycle, early MC at six weeks
• Feb 2023 - BFP again, scanned at 8 weeks privately and wasn't good news, they referred me to EPU who said it could be a molar pregnancy, post surgical analysis confirmed it was a complete molar and put on a TTC ban
• Dec 2023 - TTC ban lifted, fell PG straight away and early MC again at 6 weeks
• February 2024 - fell PG again and was having regular scans at EPU, at 8 weeks they confirmed that growth was far too slow and prepare for MC. That never happened and I ended up with more surgery for MMC - karyotyping of embryo showed it had trisomy 23. DH and I tested genetically for trisomy in May and still waiting on results.

In the meantime I've had a bazillion blood tests etc. and nothing has shown up as bind a concern but been given progesterone to take post ov for 3 months (to continue to 14 weeks if I see a BFP). Just coming to the end of the first TWW after starting to try again and I'm losing my effing mind (again). How do you ladies stay sane?

I feel the tick of time too @Joleyjojo it's over a year since we started discussing a second but it took me 8 months to change meds to suitable ones to ttc due to my bipolar.

I've been doing a lot of colouring in the evening to stop the Google rabbit hole. It keeps my hands busy and my brain quiet!

For something that "should" be magic and romantic the nuts and bolts of conception are far from that narrative for many people!

Really? @ConfusedCrab I'm sorry we have ended up in the same place. I come from a family that has never shyed away from talking about pregnancy. My nan had a miscarriage between my 2 uncles, my mum lost my sisters twin, one sister had an ectopic followed by a miscarriage and my other sister had a termination for medical reasons. It's not a club I wanted to join and it hurts that I am. I haven't spoken to family about it but have spoken to people at work.