TTC after loss part 5

@CadoAvo Oh really? I read somewhere that fertility is higher afterward and there is more chance of conceiving. Well will have to watch this space lol

@Figtree11 thank you, really hoping you get some positive news soon too 🤞🏼

@superscientist thanks! When are you testing? I'm a poas addict, was going to test on Wednesday however I absolutely will be testing later when I next need a pee as this is so unusual for me. I'm usually okay at now overthinking things such as a funny feeling in my stomach or when I "crave" ready salted crisps (just means I'm hungry, not pregnant lol) however this feeling in my boobs is very unusual and I can't not notice it sitting at my desk, wfh means I've already spent a lot of time this morning groping myself and looking at them in the mirror lol

Hi @CadoAvo I'm about 8dpo too. I'm trying not to symptom check... I had done tender boobs last month that turned out to be nothing. My stomach is a bit gurgly and feels funny but probably just gas!
I feel into early tests last month which is not my usual habit so trying not to overthink this month.

I hope the sensitive boobs are a positive for you!

@CadoAvo have everything crossed for you those are positive signs!
I’m 10dpo but not really any symptoms. Every now & then I have mild stomach ache but that’s it. Just waiting for AF to show by end of the week

@Jologi I am so sorry for your loss, it’s heartbreaking. Completely normal to take a while to regulate, I’ve not had the same length cycle each time yet

@Jologi so sorry for your loss. It's completely normal for cycles to take some time to regulate after a loss so don't panic and just take things day by day. ❤️

Hi all

I was 13 weeks when we found out our baby had DS with a serious heart condition, we were advise to terminate at 15 weeks which broke our hearts. I have two children from a previous relationship and this would have been my husbands first. However our dream was shattered.
I had the termination the on the 12th August and my first cycle was on 21st September. We wanted to start trying again and monitored my ovulation date varied on the FLO and prenom apps, so we did the deed on both. It’s been 31 days no AF and I have had two negative pregnancy, is anyone in the same situation? Is it normal for your cycle to differ after a loss?

Morning all. 7dpo today (or maybe 8 🤷🏼‍♀️) and my boobs feel very sensitive this morning! The only time I felt this before was my first pregnancy (but not till about 12dpo) however never noticed it at all in my second...

Hoping it's a positive sign 🤞🏼

How's everyone getting on?

@Blueskies4 it feels like catch 22 doesn’t it. Don’t want any issues to be found, but at the same time if an issue is found, hopefully something positive can then be done. Fingers crossed for a good cycle in November for you.
I’m ok thank you - still not got a regular cycle after my last loss in May. But I’m 9dpo today and not feeling remotely hopeful. But I have my recurrent miscarriage appt in 5 weeks time

@Figtree11 well in the sense that they found things to be working on, but equally that’s frustrating including the pausing TTC when all you want to do is crack on.. I have issues with my immune system/NK cells and I’m trying to address them through diet and lifestyle changes.

How're you doing xx

Hi @Blueskies4 how did the private tests go? Hope it’s helped to give a bit of a plan of action for you

Hey ladies, hope you’re all doing ok?

I haven’t been on here in months, took a bit of a break from TTC as ended up having quite a few tests privately and there’s lots of things to work on.

Im due on anytime now and going to start TTC again in November xx

Yeah you’re right. Sometimes I have hope or a good feeling that I try & squash down. But at the moment I just don’t.

Today I had some blood tests ahead of my Tommys miscarriage clinic appt next month

Thanks @jellyfish2.

@Figtree11 I think we've learned to lessen our expectations so we feel less hurt when it's not good news x

@Figtree11 It is so hard, I hope you are doing ok (as you can do in these times, it becomes a bit all thoughts consuming as the months tick by) I remember the feeling well - after the second, I said to my husband “well if I have another loss, at least it will start some investigations” which was my only way to cope I think - knowing I could potentially find some answers. I know for some women that isn’t the case and answers may not be found, but I was so frustrated that we could fall pregnant and I couldn’t make them stick. We call our little one “third time lucky” (just between us) but I think if we happen to fall pregnant again, I will do what I did with my third - I was taking b12 and b6 before as I had read that had been linked to recurring losses, and I also took a low dose asprin (I think 75mg from memory) for 12 weeks too. An ex midwife at one of my private scans mentioned both of those to me too. I know it might not have made any difference, but I feel now like I need to do it again.

@Bellabubble i’m glad you are feeling better. It’s so hard isn’t it when you want something so badly, but not sure how much heartache you can take. I don’t have any kids yet, and feel like I have a long road ahead of me with potential more losses. But I try take each day at a time, as when I think too far ahead I spiral. I hope you continue to recover & get some good news soon

@Figtree11 I’m currently recovering from my MVA - I weirdly feel better than I have in a while! It’s like, I feel instantly back in good health (I was feeling pretty ropey as the weeks went by) and I also think this has been the best form of management (for want of a better word) out of all 3 losses.

I have said to my husband I want to try again soon, but that I don’t knkw how many more losses I can go through. I had 2 before my LO so this is only my third, but I still sit there and think I have been pregnant now 4 times - with only 1 child I can physically hold. I do want a another, but I worry time is nkt on my side - I’m 40, and also started my periods at 10, so I feel like I’m probably near then end of “good eggs”

@Superscientist @moosey89 we’re not a very optimistic bunch are we 😂

@jellyfish2 thank you 💓 hope you are doing good xx

Thanks @Figtree11

I'm approx 5 days po only based on predictions not testing. Also not optimistic!

@moosey89 don't give up hope, I didn't expect to be pregnant at all when I found out! 🩷

I'm still lingering on this thread and hoping I see everyone get a BFP especially you and @Figtree11 as I've followed your journeys on this thread since I experienced my MMC 💕

@Figtree11 I'm 8dpo and I know already in my heart I'm not pregnant this month. I've always just known when I was pregnant before. And this month ain't it! 😂

@Superscientist i hope it goes better for you next week with the mental health nurse

@Mummysparrow sounds a good idea to speak to the GP, even just for some peace of mind

How is everyone? I’m 6dpo and don’t feel hopeful at all. I don’t even have the inclination to do any early testing next week

I am definitely out this month as I had a LH increase this morning which happens on 12dpo when my period is on it way. Period should be here on Saturday.
I had my last counselling session last night and she suggested I speak to my GP as my levels are clearly not quite back to normal with the bleeding I have had this week. I am 35 as well so I only have to try for 6 months before they start investigations and I have been trying 5 months since loss so another month and I can speak to the GP about the next step.

Thanks @Figtree11 and @Fletchasketch I did expect it to come up especially as I had been referred to the perinatal team so wouldn't have needed the appointment if I was still pregnant. I just didn't expect it to be handled so tactlessly.
I was having a rough time with sickness last time to the point the consultant (not her) told me I should have cancelled the video appointment. I told her I had been sick upwards of 10 times a day and then she was surprised when I said I'd lost 4kg whilst pregnant. I'm seeing my mental health nurse next week. I also last saw her when pregnant but she has accessed to my GP records so I'm hoping she has read the update before the appointment! She knew I was pregnant before telling her as she saw my midwife referral and that I had an appointment with the gp later that day because of the nausea. I thought after 10 weeks I had got through all of the "oh I had a miscarriage" moments.

Just unreal that a trained psychiatrist reacted like this- awful, I'm sorry you had that experience. People are morons sometimes. Shocking insensitivity.

@DaringlyDizzy @LP2020 I’m sorry for your losses. It’s such a hard road to navigate. I was desperate to conceive (still am) but also when I think about being pregnant it fills me with such anxiety. It’s cruel we’ve been robbed of that happiness

@Superscientist oh wow that sounds so insensitive. And what a weird way of going about asking, surely there would have been a more tactful way