TTC No.17 - Heres hoping for a very fertile New Year!

Hi Bella, and although I welcome you back, I won't do it too loudly, firstly, (((((((((hugs)))))) i'm so sorry for u hon. and secondly, I think the important thing is to wait until you are ready in your self. once you are ready you will know and will want to try again. If you decided you are ready, then we'll all continue to walk this road together and hopefully we'll all go mad together and not alone. seriously thou, (and I know it's of no use to you) but you know your own body.

I must agree thou, for a while I was rather worried about hester getting back on the wagon so soon as it were, but things seem to look ok there, and if you feel ready then go for it. Is time of the essance here, or can you relax about it and take things as they happen?

lol @ Cockenzie - it's about as much fun as looking for a corner in a circular room! I thought u had had the 21 day prog tests recently done?

Hi Bella, I've also posted to you on the other thread. So sorry again for your loss, you poor love. I actually didn't wait at all after miscarrying - but it was very early (before six weeks) and I ovulated about 16 days later. So my system wasn't as thrown out as if I'd miscarried later, and the physical impact wasn't as bad either (though still pretty grim; it's horrid, isn't it?). I'm 40, and trying for my first baby, so I didn't feel that waiting was much of an option.

On reflection, though, I wasn't sufficiently recovered to get straight back in there, and emotionally I found it very difficult. I felt completely pregnant the next month - a whole raft of symptoms - and I was devastated when my period came. I think that EITHER I still had a load of pregnancy hormones still washing around my system, and that was why I was convinced I was pg, OR I was just so upset, and desperate to try to snatch back the baby I'd lost, that my mind was playing tricks on me. Either way, it was horrendous - when my period started it felt almost like I was miscarrying again. So maybe I should have waited until I was emotionally stronger. On the other hand, I would probably have tormented myself then with how I could have been pg again by now if only I'd got on with it... I don't know; there's no easy answer; I guess we're all looking for the action that will somehow make it alright again, and only time can do that.

Big hugs to you. Once again, I'm so sorry you're going through this.

I can't urge you enough to read..."Taking Charge of your Fertility" by Toni Weschler. I have been ttc#1 for about 6 months, I have read tons of stuff online and thought I knew everything about cycles. boy was I wrong. This book is a must for everyone ttc

that makes you think!!

wow account manager!! sounds good hehe.the health visitor just told me that ur gp can do a blood test called 'day 21' to test if u ov?
also something called 'maybe baby' (ov test kit)in the shape of a lipstick to test ur saliva.

depends on what mood i'm in! lol (my title is accounts manager/ Credit Controller) but i'm also known to work in the factory on the odd occasion with the girls (glad it's not often, the other girl in the office is out at the mo so i'm also on the front desk for cust. Services at the same time... god the stress, and that bloomin steve whateva his mane has come on again on the radio, have u eva noticed the radios only play the same songs at the same time? (u put rtadio 2 on at 3.30 ish and I bet father and son will be on (hopefully or i'll loook like a right tit now! lol) speak after 4 once the post has gone.

what do u do munzieb?

depends what they are Rudy! thou at the mo i'd rather be doing anything other thatn here!

go on then munnzie - I have exams I'm supposed to be revising for . Fancy sitting them for me?

wow cockenzie that was quick for the results, anyhow, normal is good, it means u have prob OV recnetly and theres nothing to worry about, ur body could ssustain early PG, would type more but am mega late on things at work and am all alone... ooh the stress of it all, any one wanna trade jobs for a few days??

(of couse coming on heres not helpin either)

minnie u are a gem .cheers
can someone help? i just got my blood results and my hormon level is absolutely normal.what does it mean?

(((hugs))) Bella. Sorry to hear about the mc.

cockenzie,
you have a reply below you request on the persona matter.. Go and have a look its 2-3 posts below your lastest one.... Hurry
minnie1

Ooh shopping, been looking forward to that bit! Do you know how the prices compare to over here at all?

Tania - I recently found out that the Crowded House song "4 Seasons in One Day" was written about Melbourne. Is that where you are? My brother just spent Christmas and New Year there and had a great time. He's now on Great Keppel Island which sounds so beautiful

(((Bella))) Really sorry to hear about your loss . I have no experience but think you should be kind to yourself and your body and you will know when you are ready to try again. Whether that is now or later there will always be a ttc thread here waiting for you to join

Runtus sounds great hope you love oz it really is a beautiful place. But i have nothing to compare it to. When you come to Melbourne there is so much to do wether it is hot or cold. And Melbourne Central is meant to be the shopping capital of Australia so i was told.

Been in a similar situation My sister found out she was pg with out ttc while b/f she felt so bad about falling pg while iam having to go through ivf but sadly she m/c the other day. Even though i was extreamly upset that she was pg (she is my best friend and one of the only people around me that wasnt pg and was my rock in this journey) iam more upset that she now has to go through such a heartbreaking thing. She has decided that they are not ready to have another baby and is waiting another year to ttc so now she is going to be more careful.

We are staying with DP's brother in Sydney and he has arranged loads for us to do, including a couple of days in Melbourne I think!

No matter what the weather is, it can't be as crap as it is hre right now........grey/miserable/windy/wet nastiness!

Watch out Oz, here I come!

Yes agree Tania, will make sure we communicate a lot. I think I will just have to be honest and let her know how I feel. Just bloody awful though, life really is unfair sometimes! Sorry - keep having moments of wallowing!

Bella my MIL said she had the same thing with a really good friend of hers they were pg at the same time but MIL m/c and 20 weeks (one of many b4 DH) her friend felt so bad that they never spoke again. Just make sure you dont loose a friend you may be pg again with her soon but if not you may need her for support later on. I know it will be hard but my MIL said she ended up more upset over loosing her best friend when she needed her most.

Runtus its bloody hot here in oz atm. 38 deg here today and tonight i am still up cause its just too hot to sleep where will you be in oz. Melbourne isnt much to go on cause a couple of days ago it was pissing down and very cold. Thats Melbourne for ya!

Thanks Tania. A handful of people knew but my friend phoned them and told them as couldn't face having to. My best friend is pregnant - was a couple of weeks behind me. We were both so excited to go through it together that I am finding it very hard at the moment. I love her lots and am so pleased for her but keep having a nasty green eyed monster that keeps raising its ugly head!

Hello Tania - how's Oz? I'm over your way next Friday and I have to say I CANNOT WAIT!!!!!!!!

RudyDudy its so good to hear when a dr takes us serously. My Dr was the same after only 3 months ttc in his opionion "why wait" cause i had a history of endo also so he refered me straight away so by the time i had my lap done we had been ttc for a year. Best of luck to you.

Welcome pickledonion hope your stay isnt too long

Bella ((((hugs)))) this must be a very hard time for you did many people know you were pg or had you been strong and not told anyone? Its must be hard to now tell people that you m/c. Be good to yourself and i hope things run smoothly for you and your pg again soon.

Nothing to report here but you guys just wait until i start the ivf drugs i may be a mad woman lurking either crying or ranting uncontrolably

no luk yet with persona, noone has come bak to me yet