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Complicated shock conception after infertility

29 replies

BadgerOwl · 09/06/2024 13:58

Hi,

NC as hugely identifying.

I was diagnosed with a triple infertility whammy three years ago: endometriosis, blocked tubes and low egg reserve.

Extremely fortunate that our first round of IVF worked and we have a toddler. Over the last few weeks we started the ball rolling to try and conceive a second DC with IVF. We’ve paid for the round and have the medication all ready to go at home.

I was due to attend the clinic at the beginning of my cycle to hopefully be given the all clear to get started on injections. I had spotting late on Wednesday, my ‘period’ arrived the following morning but was very unusual - only light, and I suffer with heavy periods usually. Friday morning the same, I don’t know what came over me but I took a pregnancy test (expired leftovers from when we had our first IVF round).

An hour before I was meant to get on the way to the clinic I was looking at a positive pregnancy test. Utter shock and disbelief.

The curveballs are that I was told it was impossible for me to get pregnant naturally, but if by some miracle I did, I’d be high risk for ectopic. And the bleeding.

I’ve been seen in the EPAU, pregnancy can’t be found anywhere at the moment. Have had bloods and need to go back in 48 hours for more.

If it’s an ectopic pregnancy and I need medical management we can’t get on with IVF for 3 months and I’ve got time sensitive issues. I really don’t want surgery as I’m awaiting another endo op and worried about more scar tissue and adhesions. Pregnancy tests are getting darker but the bleeding is continuing on/ off so can’t imagine a happy ending.

I just feel so foolish and that I’ve let myself down.

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Elisabeth3468 · 09/06/2024 14:21

You wouldn't see anything on a scan at that stage anyway. I had a scan at 5 weeks (it was an abdominal scan for OHSs but they checked my womb too) and you couldn't see anything. That is my now toddler.
They told us our chances of conceiving are very low because partner has extremely low sperm count and low in every parameter and I have PCOS. First baby IVF and I'm now 10 weeks pregnant naturally by some miracle (or luck). fertility can't always be explained, sometimes it's just random the way it happens.
Also your tubes can clear even if previously blocked.

BadgerOwl · 09/06/2024 14:15

Thank you both. The EPAU did say that it’s not surprising they can’t find anything yet, it’s just going to be a difficult week or two living with the uncertainty.

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sirensong · 09/06/2024 14:03

"High risk of ectopic" doesn't = "this pregnancy is ectopic". It's not strange that they can't see anything on the scan this early.

Very best of luck and wishing you strength to ride out whatever comes.

Commonsense22 · 09/06/2024 14:00

You haven't let yourself down and hoping for you there is a happy ending to this. ❤️