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Is 33 too old?

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BunnyLover92 · 23/05/2024 14:12

I'm 31, my husband is 34. We've been married for two years but together for 12. We've always known we want a family one day but never set a timeframe. We're both pretty sure we just want one child.

I now feel ready but he wants a couple more years so we can do one more big holiday and he can tick off some other goals, so I'll be 33 when we start trying. Is this too late? It seems like everyone around me has been having babies and I feel really left behind 💔

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QuirkyJadeSwan · 24/05/2024 18:52

I'm 33 and just started on ttc. Plus my mom was 30 when she had me and 33 when she had my sister.

GLC789 · 24/05/2024 18:40

Currently nursing my first baby (5 weeks old) . Who was born 2 weeks before my 35th birthday. Hubby is 37.

I'm so glad we did all we wanted to do before this. As I've not washed my hair in over a week, or had time to even do skin care for 5 weeks now. Let alone a holiday 😂😂😂

You're absolutely fine OP x

PrincessHoneysuckle · 24/05/2024 18:31

I was 2 months off 34 when had ds.

veryblunt · 24/05/2024 18:30

Ciderlout · 24/05/2024 18:27

Last word Annie 😂

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Bless ya.

SarahB88 · 24/05/2024 18:29

Absolutely not too old. I’m 36 and just had my first a week ago. My partner is 34, we were extremely lucky to fall pregnant on our second month trying. Had a fairly straight forward pregnancy but got extra growth scans as apparently over 35 is higher chance of having a small baby. I did indeed have a small baby but not sure if that has anything to do with my age really as our families don’t produce big babies anyway.

We will try for a second in a couple of years. I found I’m either the youngest or similar ages to others who I’ve met through pregnancy groups near me, most seem to be 38 and first time mums in my local circle.

Ciderlout · 24/05/2024 18:27

veryblunt · 24/05/2024 18:25

Im not bothered if posters question it it is a public site.
By for now👋.

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Last word Annie 😂

veryblunt · 24/05/2024 18:25

Ciderlout · 24/05/2024 18:21

You can, but don’t be surprised if someone questions it with it being a public site and all.

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Im not bothered if posters question it it is a public site.
By for now👋.

Ciderlout · 24/05/2024 18:21

veryblunt · 24/05/2024 18:10

I can mention what i please too.
Thank you for your input have a good evening.

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You can, but don’t be surprised if someone questions it with it being a public site and all.

mondaytosunday · 24/05/2024 18:14

I think the average age of first time mums is now 31. I had mine at 41 and 43, and have several friends who had at least one child in their 40s, one at 45, the other 46! All conceived naturally.

veryblunt · 24/05/2024 18:10

Ciderlout · 24/05/2024 18:06

Yea but it’s pointless to mention it AT ALL as it’s so unusual for it to happen! The amount of 50 year olds that get pregnant with their own eggs naturally is minuscule. You’re first post used it as an example as if it could happen….. yeah for about 1/10000 women maybe!

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I can mention what i please too.
Thank you for your input have a good evening.

Ciderlout · 24/05/2024 18:06

veryblunt · 24/05/2024 15:15

I didnt say it was usual.

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Yea but it’s pointless to mention it AT ALL as it’s so unusual for it to happen! The amount of 50 year olds that get pregnant with their own eggs naturally is minuscule. You’re first post used it as an example as if it could happen….. yeah for about 1/10000 women maybe!

BritishDesiGirl · 24/05/2024 15:16

@BunnyLover92 l had my first at 33 .5 and second a month shy of 37.

veryblunt · 24/05/2024 15:15

Ciderlout · 24/05/2024 15:12

Has been known…… but it’s not usual at all!

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I didnt say it was usual.

Ciderlout · 24/05/2024 15:12

veryblunt · 24/05/2024 12:27

It has been known that some women have had a baby at 50 naturally conceived.

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Has been known…… but it’s not usual at all!

veryblunt · 24/05/2024 12:27

Ciderlout · 24/05/2024 08:22

99.9% of women wouldn’t be able to have a baby at 50 unless they used a donor egg. You’ve described it as if it’s quite the thing and it’s absolutely not at all.

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It has been known that some women have had a baby at 50 naturally conceived.

crostini · 24/05/2024 08:28

No if you want a family and you're over 30, it would be unwise to wait.

DownWithThisKindOfThing · 24/05/2024 08:25

You’re going to be 33, not 43. Of course it isn’t too old. I had my first at 32 and second at 35.

Sarah2891 · 24/05/2024 08:22

Peonies12 · 24/05/2024 08:03

What a rude thing to say. Not everything in life is about having children. And it’s ‘adding’ to their family, not starting. They are a family already

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Come on, starting a family is a very common term used for having kids.

OP, you are not too old but I would try as soon as you can if having a child is very important to you. Good luck!

Ciderlout · 24/05/2024 08:22

veryblunt · 23/05/2024 17:08

Your still young.
Mums have babies right in to their 40s now some 50.
My cut off point was 35 but had one at 18 he`s 20 soon.

99.9% of women wouldn’t be able to have a baby at 50 unless they used a donor egg. You’ve described it as if it’s quite the thing and it’s absolutely not at all.

Underpressure91 · 24/05/2024 08:19

Its not too late but I wouldn’t want to put it off either, there’s never really a ‘right’ time to have a baby in my opinion, especially if you’re financially secure and married. There’s no guarantee on your fertility or how long it might take. I just had my first baby at 34 and it took us a year to conceive.

WoodBurningStov · 24/05/2024 08:14

It's not late, and might be considered normal, but the older you get the more difficult conceiving will be, and fertility is a strange beast, nothing is ever guaranteed.

I was 33 when I had my first dd, at 35 we started trying again and were never able to have a second. We had all the tests and nothing was wrong, it simply didn't happen and the gp said it was likely age related. By 40 we decide to stop trying.

Peonies12 · 24/05/2024 08:03

Aquamarine1029 · 23/05/2024 17:24

I absolutely agree. I wouldn't wait either. You have everything in place to start a family. I would not put it off for some dumb trip.

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What a rude thing to say. Not everything in life is about having children. And it’s ‘adding’ to their family, not starting. They are a family already

Pinkfluffypencilcase · 23/05/2024 19:54

I think if you want more time too then that’s ok. I’d just be concerned it’s an ever moving timeframe.

Sounds like you have been through a lot.

TwoThreeOrNotTwoThree · 23/05/2024 19:30

It's not too old, especially if you just want one child. But I'd be worried he will keep pushing it back for "one more trip". I'd really try to pin it down to a specific time frame. I said we needed to start TTC the month I turned 32 😅 We discussed it for a year beforehand and it became a set in stone date. I have a friend who was strung along by her boyfriend, saying he'd be ready when they got married, then strung along further and further. She's now 43 and it's too late. Are you sure he wants children? There will always be more things someone wants to do before having kids, if having kids isn't a priority to them 🤍

elliejjtiny · 23/05/2024 19:24

I think 33 is fine if you just want to have 1 child but I wouldn't want to leave it much longer.