Two week wait anyone?

@Elisabeth3468 thank you - I read something the other day that was all about being tired of being strong, and not wanting to have to be strong any more and it really resonated.

I'm a firm believer that your feelings are valid, no matter how "big" your problems may be when compared to others. Someone else having bigger struggles doesn't invalidate anyone else's, after all that just starts a race to the bottom when effectively only one person in the whole world is ever allowed to be down as they have the worst problems.

I had a friend say to me she didn't feel she could talk about her secondary infertility when she knew I was struggling with TTC number one, and I shut her down so fast! I made it super clear that I'm just as much there to support what she needs as she is for me and she can talk to me anytime about how she's feeling. We all have struggles and life is that little less heavy when we're all supporting each other.

I absolutely love the gym - I'm currently training for an indoor rowing competition and it's so good to have a focus. The endorphins are ace too! I started exercising properly for the first time in 2019 - I'm not skinny or look that sporty, but it's my happy place 😁

I feel like AF is going to arrive for me a whole week early. I’m 9dpo but have all the PMS symptoms. Maybe next month 🤞🏻

@JumpinJellyfish Yes it literally gets relentless after a few months I find. There have been a couple of months where my partner works away as well and it falls on ovulation and you then feel like you've wasted a whole month!
Hope you have a nice day on Saturday. Personally I wouldn't test and just enjoy the day. Because if it's negative you will be down but if it's positive that's all that's going to be on your mind. Xxx

@moosey89 you sound like you've got a great attitude towards it though and like a very strong person. It's not easy. Sometimes I let it get on top of me but I then I remember things could be worse and to live life.
I'm a nurse and look after lots of very sick people and it brings everything into perspective. That's not to say my feelings or struggles aren't valid though! It just helps me stop getting down and appreciate my life more.
I've recently taken up the gym and I'm loving it as well and the release of endorphins from the exercise really helps. (And trust me I've never been a gym person !)
I love these forums, it makes me feel less alone in this ❤️

Sorry for those of you who have struggled. It’s so unfair and the process starts to get really relentless really quickly! I remember thinking that lots of sex would be so fun and romantic but I’ve found ttc every time the opposite experience.

Ill also be 11dpo on Sunday (if my ovulation guess is right). I’ve always had faint lines at 10dpo with previous pregnancies but DC1 turns 6 on Saturday and I’m not sure I want the disappointment to give me a downer on his birthday…on the other hand I don’t want to be thinking about it all day so might actually test. My husband is away with work so also need to try to make it an extra special day with him!

@Elisabeth3468 ah thank you! It's been so difficult and some months are still so hard. I can't imagine having a baby now it's been so long! Hopefully one day it'll happen but we've also started talking about "what if" so we can get our options lined up. I do wish we were told more about how it's not easy or quick for everyone when we were younger!

For your situation, I've heard from lots of people that they enjoyed a slightly bigger age gap, yes it can be a feeling of having to re do a lot of stages and that van be tiring, but all my friends and family with 2 under 2 are permanently exhausted! So I think it's a case of both options having pros and cons. I hope you get your BFP soon, and sorry about your loss. It's heartbreaking 💔

@Optimistic66 It's so hard isn't it. Well my little one will be 3 at the end of this year and I wanted them close together but that doesn't seem like it's going to happen which saddens me. But I do keep reading the benefits of larger age gaps and then I see people with 2 under 2 and it does look pretty hard and stressful.
Ttc the first time was rough. We ended up having IVF after 18 months ttc. I didn't really have periods though because of PCOS so was difficult to "try" , partner also has low sperm count despite being extremely healthy.
There are some changes this time round, one being that I have regular periods and I'm also about 2 stone lighter so my PCOS is more well controlled. We had an early miscarriage/more like a chemical in October. Pretty heart breaking but I can't just give up yet.

How was ttc first time for you?

@moosey89 wow you've been through so much. It's so hard , why do some of us have it so tough? It really is unfair. Praying you will get your positive soon xx

@Elisabeth3468 TTC no.1. was trying with my ex for 2.5 years, got pregnant but ended in MMC at 11 weeks.

With my current partner it was 6 months TTC, ended in MMC at 10 weeks. This is month 9 since surgical management of that miscarriage, so 15 cycles total so far with my partner now, part of nearly 4 years of total trying (with a gap when I split with my ex of about 3 years). It's no wonder I've given up on testing really!

@Elisabeth3468 we're also trying for our second and for nearly 18m and this always pinches the worst. People who have two kids after me... how was TTC the first time around for you??

My son is 4 this year and I genuinely imagined i would have a baby by now...

@hopeful117 - i've been TTC for 18 months and testing for a year but I dont always ovulate. However your cycle does look promising.

TBH i have no but i definitely wouldnt be able to wait until you come back - i'd constantly be thinking about it.

11dpo Sunday as well! Planning to test Friday (with a good test) and then just using cheap ones until BFP / aunt flow! Hope you get a BFP!! Keep me updated 🥰

Hi all AF arrived today a day early! At least I've not been sat about waiting or waste too many tests! Taking a break this month then back at it in May. In the kindest possible way I hope to no's see many of you about in other threads!!

@moosey89 how long have you been trying ? Is it your first?
Some months I don't test early as can't bare the heart break. It's best just to wait for a missed period. My cousin told me she was pregnant the other day and it hit hard because we've been trying for a second child for nearly a year and she's pregnant with her second already! Her baby is only 3 months old.
Although I certainly don't envy that age gap lol xx

@Elisabeth3468 ah sometimes it's just all a bit much and you can't help it! I haven't tested early except when I was due AF on new year's day so I took a test new year's eve so that I could have drinks without worrying 😄

@moosey89 yes think I'll just wait for my period this month. I tested today but only 7dpo so obviously going to be negative! Not sure why I did it lol,

@Elisabeth3468 as 11dpo won't give you a 100% definite answer I'd wait x

I'm planning on testing Sunday which is 11dpo. I go away then on holiday from Monday to Friday so if it's negative I can just get on with my holiday instead of wondering.
Or would you just wait for period and live in blissful ignorance ?

@Optimistic66 I tested on Monday, 11dpo (I think) and stark white negative not even a hint of a line. So I've assumed I'm out. When did you test? If I continue to rise tomorrow I will test. I'm quite new to temping this is my second cycle, have you been temping for a while? Thanks for looking at my chart x

Have you tested yet? your chart has the triasphaic where it jumps up again.

Baby dust! its so hard as well when your chart builds you up.

did a test and a stark white BFN.

@Optimistic66 your chart looks good! This is mine today I think I am 13dpo, it's rising but I know it means nothing like you say and I do feel AF will be here tomorrow for me sadly x

It is so early and you can implant any day up to 10 so you are definitely not out. How many days LP do you have? I usually have 12 so going try and resist testing today at 9dpo.

Do you BBT? what's your chart looking like? Mine went up again today - although i know it means nothing.