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BFP after first failed IVF? What the actual F

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GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 09:20

Helloo - husband (38) and I (31) TTC for 2+ years with not a single positive. Laparoscopy diagnosed twisted tubes, stage II Endo and low AMH (8). Both always been healthy, fit, no illnesses etc. So, obviously been feeling very angry with the situation.
Last cycle was our first round of IVF and a fresh transfer (22 eggs, 14 fertilised, 1 grade A embryo put in, with 5 in the freezer)- it failed with no answers. Now, the first cycle after the IVF, I find myself with faint lines at 15DPO, which seems rather late. Ovulated CD19/20 (definitely). I usually have 10/11 day luteal phases and no AF has shown, just spotting. Could these be evap lines?
I’m obviously in total denial because we were told it just probably won’t happen naturally for us. Scared of ectopic as well. Absolutely mind blown. Any words of advice? I don’t know what to think.

BFP after first failed IVF? What the actual F
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scarfonthestairs · 01/04/2024 19:18

We tried for a baby for 5 years. Had fertility treatment (not ivf) and it failed 3 times. We adopted, having a toddler barely had sex....twice in 4 months and the second time I got pregnant.
It can happen, your tests show at this time you are pregnant and that is amazing! Send you congratulations 🎊

GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 19:14

@Gcsunnyside23 Seems that way.. let’s just hope they are here to stay! 🙏🏼

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Gcsunnyside23 · 01/04/2024 19:12

Oh they are def positive. I've fingers/everything crossed for you 🤞

GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 19:11

@ShoNuff Wow - that’s amazing. Must have felt like a real miracle. So happy to hear this story.

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ShoNuff · 01/04/2024 19:08

This happened to my friend after her third and final failed round of IVF at 41. She was pregnant the following month, after giving up all hope. She had a gorgeous little boy 🥰

GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 19:06

@Maireas I guess even if things don’t quite work out this time round… I should find comfort in that my body DID PART OF IT.. finally!

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Maireas · 01/04/2024 19:05

Thank you! It took a while. Then things decided to function properly! Never say never x

GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 19:03

@Maireas It’s mind-blowing. I do keep thinking maybe the IVF kicked my tubes into gear. (I had a high egg yield despite low AMH - and ovaries were huge). Tubes were described as very slow/lazy by my surgeon. Never ever had a BFP until now.
So happy that you found your hope and had your lovely children!

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Maireas · 01/04/2024 19:00

I remember he wrote about one pregnancy and he couldn't work out which of the woman's damaged tubes had decided to co-operate! That book gave me enormous hope...plus I have two adult DC now 😊

GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 18:57

@Maireas It’s fascinating. Pretty sure my consultant will be totally perplexed when I let the clinic know tomorrow (provided the test confirms officially officially). Just got to keep everything crossed that the embryo made it through my twisted tubes. 🤞🏻😳

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Maireas · 01/04/2024 18:54

GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 18:04

@Danioyellow I wonder what the digital will bring me tomorrow morning… 🥴

Fingers crossed!
I remember reading Sir Robert Winston's book about getting pregnant, and even he can't really account for some pregnancies nor explain some infertility. Good luck.

GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 18:15

@LeedsZebra90 Fertility can obviously be a real mystery. It still does not make sense in my head. So happy for your friends and their little boy.

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LeedsZebra90 · 01/04/2024 18:14

This situation, really similar details, happened to my friends. Their little boy is now 3. Fingers crossed for you.

GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 18:13

@KomodoOhno Haha - I don’t think I’m even in the good kind of shock yet. I’m high risk of ectopic, so I’m obviously preoccupied with those worries! Huge face palm!

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KomodoOhno · 01/04/2024 18:09

GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 18:05

@KomodoOhno its so incredibly shocking… especially as I’m still in that come down after my failed IVF transfer last month. Best friend announced she was pregnant last week, and I’ve been feeling so jealous/sad/angry.. but now what’s happened?!? Totally totally crazy.

I am so happy for you! It is the best kind of shock. If you want to save the digital test though just now after about 6 months it turns blank. Yes I saved every test and the receipt from the store.

GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 18:05

@KomodoOhno its so incredibly shocking… especially as I’m still in that come down after my failed IVF transfer last month. Best friend announced she was pregnant last week, and I’ve been feeling so jealous/sad/angry.. but now what’s happened?!? Totally totally crazy.

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KomodoOhno · 01/04/2024 18:04

I understand completely. I had an ivf appointment when low and behold I was pregnant. I'm still in disbelief and she's 13. 4 test cannot be a mistake. Congratulations!

GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 18:04

@Danioyellow I wonder what the digital will bring me tomorrow morning… 🥴

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GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 18:03

@Twdfn123 Fingers crossed…..!

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GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 18:03

@VariantHela Yes - I definitely am filled with worry. Oh how lovely it would be to just feel excitement over a positive test on a whim!! I’m already looking at what’s going to go wrong next…
I may ask about the pessaries when I phone the clinic tomorrow! Sending love back x

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Danioyellow · 01/04/2024 18:03

Following for tomorrow. 4 clear positives there though 😀

EatCrow · 01/04/2024 18:01

Good luck!

VariantHela · 01/04/2024 17:55

GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 16:17

I’ve been tempted to take the progesterone pessaries leftover from my failed IVF cycle as well. Has anyone done this?

I actually did, yes. I was like you I think, trying hard to conceive and when you finally see those lines the wonderful surprise is quickly replaced with worry l think did over 20 tests (two per day) each day to make sure it was still positive. Sending you much love x

Twdfn123 · 01/04/2024 17:47

Those tests are extremely reliable and now 4 tests is no coincidence. Congratulations!!!!!! :) xxx

GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 17:17

@Westiegirl3 Thank you - fingers crossed that it all progresses positively..!

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