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BFP after first failed IVF? What the actual F

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GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 09:20

Helloo - husband (38) and I (31) TTC for 2+ years with not a single positive. Laparoscopy diagnosed twisted tubes, stage II Endo and low AMH (8). Both always been healthy, fit, no illnesses etc. So, obviously been feeling very angry with the situation.
Last cycle was our first round of IVF and a fresh transfer (22 eggs, 14 fertilised, 1 grade A embryo put in, with 5 in the freezer)- it failed with no answers. Now, the first cycle after the IVF, I find myself with faint lines at 15DPO, which seems rather late. Ovulated CD19/20 (definitely). I usually have 10/11 day luteal phases and no AF has shown, just spotting. Could these be evap lines?
I’m obviously in total denial because we were told it just probably won’t happen naturally for us. Scared of ectopic as well. Absolutely mind blown. Any words of advice? I don’t know what to think.

BFP after first failed IVF? What the actual F
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Westiegirl3 · 01/04/2024 16:41

Congrats lovely, looks like a positive to me

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GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 16:17

I’ve been tempted to take the progesterone pessaries leftover from my failed IVF cycle as well. Has anyone done this?

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GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 16:12

@FlowerBarrow I guess it’s just a waiting game now. (The thing I’m worst at). 🤞🏻

@Clearinguptheclutter Thank you 🥹 fingers crossed this actually ends up being that unexpected miracle.

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Clearinguptheclutter · 01/04/2024 16:07

Well having had numerous evaps they are most definitely positive tests.
wishing you all the best.

FlowerBarrow · 01/04/2024 16:04

It’s really ok for 15dpo as they can vary, but I hear you about chemical and ectopic disappointments

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GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 16:02

@Hibye23289 I think I’m just in denial. I’ve become quite glass half empty during our TTC journey.. so I’m hunting for the negatives. I guess it’s self protection. Concerned it’s a tad light for 15DPO and I’m high risk for ectopic.

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Noyesnoyesok · 01/04/2024 16:01

Tentative congratulations 🙌

Hibye23289 · 01/04/2024 15:59

You've got full on positive pregnancy tests. I don't see how it could be negative and also the period symptoms etc well I had them soo much when pregnant

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GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 15:56

@VariantHela Ahh that’s reassuring to hear - thank you for sharing. 😄

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GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 15:36

Did another cheap test this afternoon - this one was done 10 mins ago. Also experiencing dull AF cramps now and still brown spotting. This is not a fun waiting game at all. (15DPO)

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VariantHela · 01/04/2024 15:11

I didnt get lines that dark until about 18 dpo and that little line is currently sat on my knee eating a bowl of dried cheerios. Tentative congratulations

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GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 13:38

@overthinkersanonnymus @Hibye23289 You guys 😂😂😂 I cannot deal with a negative this afternoon.. it’ll have to be tomorrow morning!

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Runningupthecurtains · 01/04/2024 13:27

GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 13:13

@Runningupthecurtains Thank you so much for sharing - and about your friends, too. It’s so hard to have faith when all you’ve known is negative. I think I’ll be in denial until I see something on a screen.. I’m more concerned due to the lateness of the test result tbh. Time will tell 😳

Obviously I know other couples who didn't get their miracle, some are childless, others got there via IVF or other treatments but very very unlikely to conceive naturally doesn't mean it's impossible.

overthinkersanonnymus · 01/04/2024 13:21

Hibye23289 · 01/04/2024 13:20

Selfishly please do another test today. I can't wait until tomorrow 🤣

Me neither 😂

Hibye23289 · 01/04/2024 13:20

Selfishly please do another test today. I can't wait until tomorrow 🤣

forgivingfiggy · 01/04/2024 13:16

Not ivf related at all, but I never got a line until my period was late. 15dpo for those lines doesn't seem out of the question.

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GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 13:13

@Runningupthecurtains Thank you so much for sharing - and about your friends, too. It’s so hard to have faith when all you’ve known is negative. I think I’ll be in denial until I see something on a screen.. I’m more concerned due to the lateness of the test result tbh. Time will tell 😳

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Runningupthecurtains · 01/04/2024 13:10

My fertility was 'unexplained' - no reason could be found why we couldn't conceive. 20 years of unprotected sex, 6 rounds of IUI and 3 of IVF and I had one 'natural' pregnancy that resulted in miscarriage and one baby via IVF.
I have 3 pairs of friends that were told they were very, very unlikely to have an unassisted pregnancy - they have 2, 2 and 3 naturally conceived children. Miracles do happen. 🤞for you.

violetcuriosity · 01/04/2024 13:09

Good luck OP! A digital should show up in the middle of the day with lines that dark xx

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GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 13:02

@Beamur Totally bizarre isn’t it. Thank you! I’m crossing everything right now.

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Beamur · 01/04/2024 12:52

I know quite a few women who conceived naturally after IVF.
Fingers crossed for you.

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GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 12:49

@RockStarship What a great story - thank you for sharing. Isn’t it crazy how the body works (or doesn’t work!)? I can’t quite get my head around it - I had totally totally written off natural conception. Obviously concerned about ectopic at this stage… I guess time will tell.
It does make a nice change though.. if the positive is true - my body finally did it!! What a ridiculous April Fools it’s been today 😂

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RockStarship · 01/04/2024 12:43

Ah huge congratulations!!! That's absolutely amazing and I wish you all the luck in the world!

My dd was conceived in similar circumstances. Spent years trying for a baby with no luck. Then had a round of IVF which failed. We paid to have private tests done to try and determine the cause of my infertility and the specialist saw what he thought was a chocolate cyst on my ovary and advised having it removed as he said it could be affecting my ability to get pregnant. I decided to book the op in for the following month and then would have round two of IVF shortly after. A few weeks later my af didn't start but I couldn't bring myself to test straight away after years of negative tests and slightly irregular cycles. Then that week I had a number of weird fleeting waves of light headedness which was unusual for me. So once I was a week late for my af I decided to test just to rule it out, not expecting two lines...and there they were! My dd is now almost 11.

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GoldenRetriever1 · 01/04/2024 12:31

@Aydel my brain never allowed me to believe these miracle stories.. it just does not compute. Perhaps IVF can kickstart the system sometimes (or in my case, the tubes). Who knows!

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Aydel · 01/04/2024 12:29

Not me, but the same thing happened to a friend. Failed ivf and a month later she was pregnant naturally.

Congratulations!

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