STEP AWAY FROM THE FIRST RESPONSE..... March/April 2ww

LL I agree with you on the testing, it is a bit of an addiction and it doesn't help. I'm often guilty of early testing and have had false positives which are devastating. I have come to realise in the last couple of months that the only benefit from it is money in other peoples pockets when you pay for the tests . I was much better this month (this thread helped) and am not testing at all next month, I'm not even going to buy any so there is no temptation.

Oh disenchanted, I know how you feel. I've just been through it myself and it's cack isn't it?

I told myself I wasn't going to knicker-check, symptom spot this time around but we do don't we?

It will happen, probably when you least expect it too. We do all need to step away from the tests, it just causes heartache.

Disenchanted I know its hard, been there myself this week, but you have to try and stay positive. If you let TTC get you down too much you won't conceive anyway iyswim, just try to relax and do normal stuff and let TTC be a side-issue if you can - and believe me I know that is hard.

Sorky We weren't sure about no.2 until recently, I think you have to put your sensible rather than broody head on and decide if it is right for you. I am crazily broody and have been for about 6 months, but its only in the last 3 months that I know that it is right for us to try again. Before that we would have been at breaking point with me pg and DD at the stage she was at with everything else that is going on in our lives. Now DD is walking and we are over a few crises with various things I think we can cope. Sounds like you think you can cope too I am not looking forward to the pregnancy either, but this time I'll know exactly why it is worth it

Dh is not entirely convinced it's a great idea for us to have another, but is willing if it's what I want.
He said that about no.3 though and he absolutely adores him.

It's the tiredness and with 3 to look after as well. We hE so there will be no respite too. Plus the eldest will be nearly 7 and Dh thinks this will impact on their education as we effectively put our lives on hold for another 2years until the youngest has some degree on independence.
I get his point, think it's a valid one even.

I can't get it out of my head though that the pg will only be 9mo, not a lifetime to put up with really, then it's the first year that's very time consuming isn't it? If I decide not to go ahed and stick with 3 then i KNOW I will regret it later when I am too old and the gap in ages will be too big.

Short term pain and all that. I think I'll allow myself 6 months, if I'm not properly pg in that time I'll give up.

I feel like Im never going to get pregnant

I really thought I was at first, I feel so shite

I tested again with a 1st response, i thought it was going to be a BFP as a shadow line appeared at the test line immediatly but when I went back 3 mins later it was just shadow no pink at all, i think i just have fantastic vision as i always see the control line.

So BFN at CD28 with a FR - Im taking that as it now, and just waitng for that bitch to show up

Am gutted .... again.

Sorky, I quite like being pg myself although now i think of it had various minor ailments all through the last one - dh says i was v moany...The thing that worries me about 4 is the early days with 3 other dcs to keep happy and in routine - remember that being hard. Plus I will be so, so old by the time they all grow up!!

thanks sorky and good luck

Thanks RF!
Yes it's no.4 for us, though having some second thoughts tbh, I don't relish being pg again, but want a fourth child. Hopefully it's just hormones talking and in a week or so I'll be back to normal.

Tink I would wait until you have 3 consistently higher temps, it doesn't seem absolutely clear from your chart whether you O'd yet. It's not too late though, maybe just a longer cycle.

hope you had a great one le

Don't know anything about temping and am pissed so not going to look right now sorry Tinkerbell - will look once hungover in the morning! (It is my birthday!)Roquefort -same happened here with TTC no.2, we weren't sure until a couple of months ago we had an 'accident' and when I got a BFN at the end of the month we were devastated and realised we both wanted another baby. Funny how things work out isn't it!

my interesting chart what do you ladies thinkwww.fertilityfriend.com/home/1f3edd

nj pleased that your tummy is back to normal and you can fit into jeans now

It is going down thanks Tink, it is pretty much back to normal in the day, still get's a big bigger towards the end of the day, but have got my jeans back on, so I am happy

Roque, we were pretty similar, I had a MC in January (unplanned) and that led to us deciding to TTC again! I should think a lot of people are in similar boats.

Congrats Jackstini!! Sorry it's not worked out this month Sorky - similar thing happened to me in Feb altho it was unplanned so slightly different. It's good in a way tho to have the uncertainy over and be able to move on I think - in my case moving on to ttc no.4 (have I read somewhere it will be no. 4 for you too?) even tho we had said before 3 was enough. Am v glad we have chnaged our minds now and don't think we wld have without the unplanned cp so it did me a favour in a way. Sorry this has become long and rambly

hi nj sorry to hear about your af arriving how is the tummy?
cd19 for me

Good morning all

Huge congrats Jackstini!!!! great news

Sorky, what's going on chick? Did your period actually come?

Sorry to all who have got their period as well, such a bummer isn't it?!

Next month will be a good BFP month, I can feel it in my waters