TTC May 2023 💝 Previous MC March 2023 (thread 4)

@Sez281 I'm still all calm haha af ere but it's a alright one this month haha just in time for me to drink loads of wine tomorrow haha.

@Westy22 that's just so so shit the way your not getting any reassurance! As @Supertrooper101 says it's shocking how everyone gets treated differently! Definitely get the bloods done I understand about going in there but bloods might give u the relief you need till your scan xx

@Westy22 what the hell....all of us have had different treatment, told different things....all for thr same things. Why is there no consistancy. And some get help and some dont. Am with @xxcxdonxx , go for the bloods, switch of to what day it is and where you are and focus on why your there. Tell them about the dull ache and yeah, id tell a white lie or two.......

@Westy22 im so frustrated and disappointed on your behalf! So only those who have have two mc’s need reassurance?!
The whole process is so broken and inconsistent.
If you’d rather not wait then take them up on the bloods, albeit it’s not an instant result or tell them a white lie you have been spotting.

I wish I could say something to make you feel a bit better but always here if you need it xx

I'm alright, thank you @Sez281 hope your good. I spoke to EPU earlier they won't do any reassurance scans she was like we only do it after 2 and doesnt know why they said that to me, I was like so basically your telling me have another one before you'll help me? Anyway she said I can go for bloods if I want to but I've decided to wait another week as i felt like i wanted to pass out just thinking about walking in there tomorrow especially on mothers day. They said If I start spotting then call them but other than that couldn't really give me much guidance. I'm going to stick to my plan of a private scan in roughly a week, just difficult as its my OH's birthday next week too and I don't want to ruin it 😩 xx

Keep getting this dull wave of aching lower down like I'm about to have a horrific upset stomach is the only way I can describe it, bowels are fine tho. X

Vent away.... dr's receptionists do my head in. There so unique in a want to rip there head of kind of way... i just stood staring at one in disbelief the other week over somthing with my dd... took alot of effort just to walk away. Thing is, apart from one older one, they are ALWAYS changing the staff. All the time. So i know its not just me over exagerating. There basically just little shits lol i would have maybe seen the gp still, face to face the convo might have gone different. Think @Sez281 paid for hers so thats an option too. I have no idea why i thought it was you on the progesterone. I had it in my head you took it 3dpo lol its one of the above lol when do you think youl be 7wks? If all your symptons go i would phone epu regardless. Sure thats a good enough reason to get bloods surley.

I know thought it was crap of them tbh, they rang back and said the gp will see me but I've said it's totally pointless as they won't do bloods therefore I didn't need an appointment, I'm not sitting there for them to just talk to me about it. I guess time will tell, I don't have any progesterone @Supertrooper101 , they've never identified that I've needed it tbh so I don't think I do, my levels remained high with the last MC. I'm just going to ride it out and see how I go. If I can push to wait till 7 weeks I will. If things change and I start spotting etc I'll phone epu xx glad I've got you guys to vent to 🙈

@Sez281 thats alot of scans 🤣... been ok here, i was seen by midwife the week after calling tbf. No mention of a consultant led this time though. May have to ask 🤔. Well basically come 16 wks..... ur nerves should settle right down! Lol

@Westy22 wow...i agree with @SnookyPook , there is no standard practise,and even in the same gp, it depends who u speak to. The whole process is degrading.. one thing i guess.....at least you already have the progesterone! Do you have online contact requests at your gp? I would be tempted to use that, or e mail a complaint, drs are there for aniexty....bloods will help your anixety...one....and two...you were already told you could have them! I dont know. Just feels like no one cares at the early stage dosent it. Only way you could go to epu/ a&e is if you said you were bleeding/in pain.....whether you want to twist the truth a little or not i ges lol
@Sez281 yours seems to be flying by haha in my head your like 5wks lol all that will go quick. Do you get scans as and when you want being private then?

@Westy22 that's really rubbish. I can't see why they would refuse that. Sorry you're not getting great treatment so far. It really p*sses me off that it's always such a lottery what kind of treatment women get in these situations. X

Docs have refused bloods and said go to hospital if I think somethings wrong, really dissapointed and I gave her that feedback. Said they have nothing for a month 😑 may just wait a week now and then pay for reassurance scan. Xx

Thanks everyone, it’s so amazing to see so many of us on this journey together, supporting each other, we are all in it together almost a year now which is hard to believe. I’m sure like me, most of u have the anniversary of ‘that scan’ coming up this month, I’m dreading the date and then the date of our D&C 10 days later. Sometimes I feel so guilty for feeling so happy that Mollaí is here when it means my other babies aren’t , I’m trying to rationalise those feelings and get through this next month to be honest.

@Sez281 i can’t remember if I seen ur bfp now but huge congrats 🥳 there’s been so much activity on here over the last month, it’s amazing🥰 Molly was my granny’s name and I’m a teacher & had a student a few years ago who’s parents had spelt it that way (we’re in the Gaeltacht so most names have an Irish spelling/twist to them) once I seen that spelling I loved it, a nice wee twist on an older name.

Haha I definitely try to but with varying degrees of success!!

@Westy22 your midwife can arrange the councilling omce your booked in, but they wont do hcg levels. They do stuff like iron sti's full blood count. Ring your gp back and say what the previous one said and get some booked in. They offered, i would take it lol i dont know why they dont state that trapped gas and constipation is THE main sympton lol it is soooo uncomfatable lol is this how ur oh normally is on other situations too? I know how you feel, i felt alone in all of this too. Probably why ive seeked extra appointments etc just to keep me sane and talk to someone lol

Well I spoke to the receptionist who was kind but said I need to register with midwife 😩 who will then be able to look at getting me some support to deal with anxiety and maybe bloods however she said If I don't feel like I get anywhere with them to ring back and they will book me in with gp to arrange bloods. She tried to congratulate me and i was like "please dont im not at that point" 🙈 I feel calmer this evening but I do feel like my breast pain has subsided with just some sensitivity left. I guess only time will tell, felt really uncomfortable before but think I was full of gas 🙈 @Supertrooper101

I guess I can't control it, I need to mentally prepare myself for the worst and try and hope for the best. OH knows I've had a very bad anxious day as I messaged him but I've come home and he's literally not mentioned it 🙈 want to strangle him 🤣

Hope your feeling more positive to reach 12 weeks 💗 it's a massive milestone!!.

@Westy22 we may sound postive at times..... but there we were having bloods and scans lol so easy to say it...another level telling yourself to it tho. Do what works for you, what at ur drs like? If you think they will do bloods easy enough then i dont see the problem. Tell them your aniexty and they may well refer you for an early scan too. Its so hard after a mmc.. has your fella come round a little?
@Sez281 i think over here those scans are done between 11&14 wks so yours should be fine. Do you think that will be your dating one though, or just one extra as you have gone private? How do you feel about her doing it? Is it next week you have that nipt?
@SnookyPook thanks for that, you do have some kind words of wisdom....but do you ever follow your own advise??? Haha

Thank you for the thread @Sez281 - I can't believe it is March already. So much has happened in the past year. Sending everyone lots of love ❤️

Thank you guys ❤️ I've cried twice in work but feel alright now maybe theres something in the air @SnookyPook 🙈 I'm debating ringing my gp and arranging bloods so I can atleast get some clarity on what's happening either way @Sez281 I can't control anything but not knowing isn't helping me at all.

I should take some positivity from you guys really ❤️

@DmcinT 17+3! Can't believe it! @Supertrooper101 I think I've felt some movements occasionally but nothing conclusive or regular yet. With my son I was 19wks before I was sure that's what it was so hopefully all good!

@Supertrooper101 12wks!! That's amazing! And hopefully the official 12wk scan next week will help it to sink in a bit. I'm so sorry that you're still feeling anxious about it all. Have you considered asking for a bit of support from perinatal MH team? I still have moments myself but it is definitely reassuring having a more visible bump now and also thinking there are the beginnings of movements. Just think, you've already got this far. You just have to keep going one day at a time as you have been doing and those weeks will keep moving on forwards. 💕 You're doing so well.

Not sure if it's pregnancy hormones, time of year, both etc but I've been crying about last year's loss today! It just hit me fresh all over again. If anyone wants a proper weep (sometimes cathartic eh?) I've only just come across Taylor Swift's 'Bigger than the whole sky' and my goodness if it isn't about miscarriage then I don't know what it's about. So beautifully poignant. I feel so lucky to be into the second trimester with this little one but the grief for the one I lost just got me hard today. And I was thinking if all had gone to plan I'd have been cuddling a 4 month old and already onto the next phase. And then I felt guilty because if that had worked out, I wouldn't be pregnant with this little one, who I'm sure, once they are here, I won't be able to imagine being without. Anyway... just rambling because I can. I know you guys get it 🙃

Love to you all xxx

@Jadeypie so a calm postive attitude and a 28day cycle, i would say things are definatley looking up for you! About time 🙂
@Westy22 ive been exactly the same the last two days. I cant help but think the worse and that its just a trick or sad game. I just cant shift my mood. Its getting worse the further akong i go. Madness!
Went ok today. Approx 12wks. Got discharged which am abit nervous about. Bleed keeps pissing around....changing each week. Hopefully get some sensible answers or solutions nxt week on the main appointment.
@SnookyPook any movements yet 🙂🙂🙂

Thanks so much girls🎀💕

@Westy22 oh I’m so happy for u and ur bfp 🥳🎉 what lovely news to see❤️ and believe me everything ur feeling is totally normal, I found it so hard to relax and believe it was good news the whole way through, as u say it’s so sad that MC takes that innocent happiness away. How far along are u now and how are u feeling, any symptoms yet?

@Paws4thought I’m so sorry to read what u have been through💔 how are u feeling about everything now? Will the hospital/gp do some testing for u?

@SnookyPook haha initially I’d thought any other day but VD but now I actually love it and as u say shell Always have something to celebrate and get cards 😅 how far along are u now and how’s the form?

@Jadeypie great to have that calm, all the relaxing hormones are bound to only be good thing ❤️🌈

i can’t seem to tag Hank? But just wanted to say hi over here, time is flying by, I hope u and LO are doing well?