TTC May 2023 💝 Previous MC March 2023 (thread 4)

Aw @Sez281 you are super aunt! Having two toddlers whilst being pregnant yourself must have been exhausting!
Hope all went well with your appointments today.

@Westy22 I’m picking your brains on supplements if you don’t mind. I’ve started taking 3x coQ10 daily and a high dose vit d, because I live in Scotland 🙈 What dose folic acid did you take and did you take that along side other ones like Pregnacare? Every time I read or listen to something there is another vitamin I convince myself I need!

Ovulation confirmed for tomorrow via LH surge. Had sex today. It's our third cycle ttc, but first really getting the timing right, so fingers crossed.

Wowzers @Westy22 , 17 weeks! Is it the 16 week midwife appointment they first use the Doppler? I can’t remember the timelines 🙁 I do remember the midwife saying that it’s sometimes too early to hear anything so not to panic. So maybe your appointment being a bit later will go in your favour.

Ah sorry to hear AFs arrived @Paws4thought . I’m sure it will just take a while for it to get back to normal.

I’m doing alright, had a nice catch up with some friends and all the kids today which was mayhem but lovely. Ive had quite bad cramps the past few days but seems to be ok today and my bleeding has hopefully
now stopped so its nice to feel a bit more normal.

@Westy22 AF arrived yesterday, I'm not too disappointed just a bit worried something wrong like scarring as last month was only light and this month seems to be too, hopefully just taking a little time to go back to normal tho and I'm over thinking it haha.
Can't believe you're 17 weeks, hope the midwife can do the doppler for you :)

Hope everyone else is doing OK 😀

How are you getting on @Jadeypie @Paws4thought x

@SnookyPook this stage is so weird, I'm 17 weeks tomorrow and because I feel quite normal i get the odd worry of am I even still pregnant, trying to control the urge for a scan though. I'm seeing my midwife next Monday at 18 weeks so I'm going to ask her to try the doppler, my 20 week scan is in 3 weeks...we moved it from the Thursday to Monday as we're hoping to get away for a few days 🌞

I've got one sided jaw pain so think my wisdom tooth has moved slightly....sods law it kicked off the day after I arranged a dentist checkup which isn't until bloody July. Hoping it stops soon as its doing my head in 😫

Hope everyone else is good? @Sez281 @xxcxdonxx @Supertrooper101 xx

@xxcxdonxx thank you for the reassurance that it's normal to feel that way, love this little group :)

I think that’s totally normal to feel that way @Paws4thought , if someone could guarantee if just did x,y,z and it would result in a healthy pregnancy then of course you would do it. It’s just the not knowing and still wanting to have a normal life that difficult to navigate.
A few days to go then and you’ll know then 🤞🏻

@Jadeypie that's fab news keeping everything crossed for you.
@xxcxdonxx I'm glad you've come up with a plan now! My oh has been keen to try to make improvements to help, I think its me that's more reluctant as feel like I'm missing out and getting nothing at the end of it, wrong attitude really 🙈
@Sez281 not long at all until your 20 weeks scan now! Exciting!

I'm 11dpo, I did a cheapy test yesterday which was negative, I don't have any pregnancy or AF symptoms so it'll be a surprise either way haha.

Thanks @SnookyPook , totally guilty of tiptoeing around him when it comes to TTC. I know from my own experience how easy it is to become obsessed with it all, that I don’t want that to spill into the rest of our lives. All about finding a good balance!

Hope you are enjoying a bit of a rest now your DH is home!

It’s a tricky one to manage isn’t it @Sez281 . You have both done amazingly well on giving up smoking! I think we are in agreement now of what the plan is, he knows he needs to make an improvements or trying again is off the cards. This makes him sound like he has some kind of problem 🙈 He doesn’t at all but I just want us to give it a really good go.

How’s the tww going @Paws4thought and @Jadeypie ?

Hi All - I've been AWOL for a couple of days and feel like I've missed loads! Apologies in advance if I don't manage individual replies to all!!

@Jadeypie that's all sounding hopeful! Everything crossed for you! Also, 2 stone!! Wow! Well done!

@Westy22 oh 16wks is tough - right in limbo land! Hope your area do the Doppler - I definitely found it reassuring 👍🏼

@Sez281 are you happy to be heading home soon or wishing you could stay on holiday a while longer? Hope you've had a wonderful time! Hope the pillow works for you!

@xxcxdonxx glad you've reached a decision you're both onboard with. It's crazy isn't it how much we tiptoe around our guys sometimes in terms of expectations etc with all we put ourselves through! Definitely think you're warranted to gently bag a little. It is on both of you. Totally relate to feeling mad for putting yourself through it again. I said to my Mum the other day, if this one hadn't just come along when he did I'm not sure when I'd gave felt ready to actively throw myself into it again. It's exhausting. I'm quite glad the decision was taken from me but easy to say from this side of things!

@Paws4thought how are you getting on? Good luck! We've not settled on a name yet .. still mulling!

Morning ladies I'm officially in my tww and I'm feeling hopeful because I think this month timing wise has been the best from all other months haha. My ovulation pain is a sure indecator too i got it from my right side this month normally its my left thats the side of my ectopic so that makes me feel better its from my right this time. Also if by some miracle I actually concieve this month due date would be the same as my ds!! That would be mad.

Hope everyone els is okay xx

No I'm holding off atm @Sez281 as I do tend to sleep on my side and they put me off a bit as there so big and bulky. 🙈 I started prodding last week 🤣 I'm 16 weeks now and desperate for proper movement as I'm at the not feeling pregnant stage, I've definitely got more energy and no symptoms other than the obvious bloat/possible bump. Midwife app is 2 weeks away and I'm hoping she will do the doppler but have read not everywhere does 🙈

That is true @Supertrooper101, it’s a small sacrifice for all the stuff that I need to go through. I think I am actually mad for considering doing this again.
I’ll give the gp a call today and see what they say 🤞🏻

@xxcxdonxx the fing is, for your fella, he only has to chg his ways for a short while then he can do as he pleases, remind him that you, on the otherhand, cant, so its a small sacrifise he has to make tbh lol same as westy with the different gp. My partner said the same as hers and got a form easily.
@Jadeypie 2 stone is huge well.done u ! And its great ur ur bodys being kind to you now 🙂... now put ur effort in timings haha

I'm sure it was like 70% @xxcxdonxx it was mental! Yes we are at different gps so my doctor said he had to ring his gp and explain they were investigating fertility on both sides and they basically issued a form for him to take a sample to the local hospital, it was quite straight forward and minimal questions asked so i can't see why your OH wouldn't be able to.

Think I took 300mg of coq10 and 1000ug of folate in metafolin form after reading up alot about some people not absorbing folic acid well.

Ah good luck @Jadeypie I also think i went months missing the right time and conceived this time from dtd everyday from cd 6 🤣 I was on a mission 🤣🤣

Thanks @Westy22 I watched that documentary too, I think it was saying sperm health had decreased by something like 50% from the 70s? I maybe made those numbers up but remember being shocked by it!
He is taking a male fertility supplement, which does have zinc in it and a lot of other good things so I’m sure that will help too.
Did you get your sperm test through your GP? I’ll phone to ask if they would offer it, it might not make any difference but at least we would have explored it. As much as I wouldn’t want there to be a problem, maybe it coming from a Gp would be better than me.
I’ve been taking a TTC supplement which does have coq10 in it but funnily enough I’ve just bought more of them separately today. I’ve read somewhere that 200mgx3 times a day is ideal. I only bought the 100mg though as I panicked about how expensive it is and then over doing it 🙈

Two stone is amazing @Jadeypie , I’m so impressed and a bit jealous 🤣 I’ve put about 7lbs on over the last few months and I really feel it. I’m very guilty for ‘eating my feelings’ but also know it makes me feel rubbish so I’m back to business tomorrow.
We’ve had a chat about what he is going to do but I’m sure he does feel a bit dictated to. As you say any improvement makes a difference and I need to remember that and find a way of not being on his back but making sure he sticks to it.
Great news on catching your peak, fingers crossed for you!!

@xxcxdonxx I do believe health kicks do work wonders for our bodies!! I give my partner vitimins because I take them ha. Maybe let him decide what type of health kick to go on so he feels like he's made the decision? (Any health kick will give positive impact on our bodies) I feel like since being on mine I'm nearly two stone down now has helped me hormone wise xx

@Sez281 just caught my peak today two months in a row for ovulation!! Whooo is this woman hahsha xx

I actually think I'm missing my timing for concieveing lately because our sex lives have been abit hit and miss with sickness bad family news but mu hormones ate definitely sorting themselves out so Al be grateful for that xx

@xxcxdonxx I think it's right to look at lifestyle etc and although in moderation things are all OK, my OH did limit his sugar intake (we love sweets etc) and drank alcohol rarely after I watched a sperm count documentary which spoke about the negative impact they both have on sperm 🙈 maybe spin it that you both have an overhaul so he doesn't think your getting at him. My OH also took Zinc daily which is ment to be good for male fertility so drop that into convo. If it's something you both want then surely he'll be on board ❤️ are you taking any supplements? I really do recommend coq10 for egg health, I took it daily after my MC aswell as extra folate. Can't you maybe say your GP has recommended? Would they offer a sperm test or not? We had one due to age as I'm 37 and he's 39, swear he hates me for making him do that as we conceived not long after 🤣

My workplace are okay, I've yet to have a risk assessment but my boss asks if I'm OK regularly. Xx

It’s ballsy isn’t it when people ask when it’s not a clear baby bump! @Westy22 My bloat was always just kind of replaced with a bump so it never really left, just kind of became more solid.

Id agree with sez and super, you can feel a bit awkward and even a bit guilty but at some point you do just need to follow advice and rest up. How have your work been so far?

Aw @Sez281 you just have got a fright. You are right and your bump can totally change depending on where the baby is lying, what you have eaten etc. She will be fine and nicely cushioned in there but if it makes you feel better then arrange another scan.

I’m after a bit of advice from you all and I know this is a safe space to ask. We’ve been having a talk about having one last attempt, it would really need to be the final go. So while I assume I’d be on the same plan with progesterone etc I’m really trying to do everything to get us in the best health wise possible. My Oh is going to cut down on how much alcohol he drinks and I’ve started making smoothies for breakfast etc. My concern is that what he is doing is not enough. He’s not had a sperm check, I think based on the fact we have kids and are getting pregnant it’s not been on anyone’s agenda but I do worry his unhealthy lifestyle could be causing an issue. I’m finding it hard to talk to him about it without first of all sounding obsessive like he needs to be 100% clean living and also to not come across like I am blaming him, it’s not helpful and we honestly don’t know where the problem lies. Is everything in moderation an ok approach or am I right to push it more? I think in truth I am becoming a bit obsessed and it’s clouding my judgement. He doesn’t smoke or anything so it really is just the alcohol that’s the worry for me.

@Paws4thought are you an early tester or do u have control lol
@Westy22 well, i suppose some discomfort had to come at some point lol but you defo need to put urself first soon at work. Have you spoke to the gp about the stomach issues, bloating can be really bloody uncomfy and painful. Love to say it goes away butttttt........ 🤷‍♀️ lol those strange feelings i wiuld say if its different to anything you have felt b4 then its defo him moving. Can happen as early as 14wks 🙂
@Sez281 ive had a couple of occasions like that, just without the tears lol and rammed the trolly handle in me the other week which freaked me out. Least when your back you have triage but if you have the money for another scan while your there, do it lol no ones business to judge 🙂.. is it your 20wk end of the mth? The heavy feeling coud be her rolling in there or a growth spurt.. keep prodding ur belly and see if she reacts lol