TTC May 2023 💝 Previous MC March 2023 (thread 4)

Morning everyone, hope your all well 🥰

How did you get on Friday @SnookyPook ❤️

How are you? @xxcxdonxx we still haven't really purchased anything 🤣 think once my 20 week scan is out the way on Monday I'll go mental and start ordering 🙈 my sis has 9 kids with her youngest being 1 so she's giving me quite a few nice things (she's got expensive taste so I'm happy to take the freebies lol) she's offered me her bugaboo pram, I was in two minds but then I was going to purchase a bugaboo anyway so feel like I'd be stupid not to?! Considering there about a grand 😱

How's everyone @Sez281 @Jadeypie @Paws4thought

Can't believe I'm 19 weeks pregnant, feels so surreal, belly has well and truly popped out now, booking a last min holiday for next week well hopefully..OH is recovering from gastroenteritis 😱 thankfully I'm fine so think its something he's eaten without me 🙈

That’s good. As you say, every day/week counts and nice to have the regular check ins. Mad to think he could be here in a matter of weeks!

I’m not sure if we would try this cycle or not, we haven’t actually really agreed on it. I am nervous to try again as I know that if I do get pregnant then it’s the last time regardless of the outcome. I would just like to know what is going on at this point!

@xxcxdonxx thanks for asking - it's the other checks tomorrow so just a check in on his health more broadly. The growth one will be next week when we'll get more idea of if he needs out asap or not..!

Hope you're doing ok. That's frustrating with the opks. Are you hoping to try this cycle? X

Oh lovely @Sez281 , so nice to be at the stage to start buying some bits and pieces.
Did you decide to get checked over?

How are you other ladies getting on with your baby shopping?

Is it your growth scan tomorrow @SnookyPook or the other checks they are doing? Let us know how you get on.

No real updates from me for now. I was sure I was gearing up to ovulation and have been using opks just to check but they are whiter than white. Had a bit of random spotting and cramping too so I’m really not sure what is happening. Time will tell!

Lovely to hear from your @DmcinT and that your little lady is doing so well xx

@Livingmydream25 welcome to MN ☺️ You might get better help with starting your own thread on this. We've all been chatting on this thread for over a year following previous losses so probably not the best thread for a newbie 😊

It does sound though like your first TTC cycle hasn't resulted in pregnancy - extremely common! It can take 6 months to a year so don't worry. With my first I was lucky to get pregnant on our 4th cycle tracking ovulation - we'd been trying a few months before that but obviously hadn't been timing things optimally. Once you get into cycle tracking etc it can become very consuming so if you're not in a major hurry I'd maybe enjoy a couple more cycles of just 'winging it' - basically DTD (do the deed) as and when you feel like it and enjoy connecting with your hubby.

Do you know your own cycles quite well and are you regular etc? That helps. If you get impatient and not getting that BFP (big fat positive!) then opks (ovulation predictor kits) are great for timing things better. You'll find lots of threads explaining how to use them etc if you use the search bar. Using them enables you to know your peak fertile days when you're most likely to conceive. Alternatively, if you have the inclination and energy, a good approach is to DTD every other day from end of your period until the next pretty much! Good luck!

Hi,
I new to mumsnet and new to TTC! Came off of the pill beginning of May.
I'm looking for general advice and guidance through this as I don't really have anyone to talk to about it!
I experienced lots of nausea, fatigue, cramping and frequent urination this cycle and managed to convince myself I was pregnant (which I wasn't expecting before a natural period).
I tested at 11dpo and it was negative. I then got spotting and thought this could be implantation.
This turned into a very light bleed, so light I only needed one pad per day and then it ended after 2 days without getting heavier. Someone at work told me this sounds like implantation so I took a test 16dpo, also negative.
I'm assuming that cycle was unsuccessful (my husband calls it our practice round), but wanted to get some advice.
If unsuccessful I'm on cycle day 6, ready to try again x

@DmcinT how funny - you popped into my head earlier! So lovely to hear from you and to hear that little one is doing well 🥰 Oh wow, yep it's weird when you start wondering about TTC again! In my case AF never reappeared while I was BF so that delayed things! Enjoy the next few months then before you get into the stick peeing etc all over again! Haha. My Hubby has already been saying he wouldn't be averse to another (!!!) I'm like "let's just get this one here safely first eh?!" I'm really not sure I've got it in me to go again... I thought I did before the losses and then all this faff with added worries etc this time but now I'm just thinking it might be nice to just enjoy what we've got!!!

Hello girls, it feels like forever since I’ve been on here but ye popped into my head earlier in the week and I thought I must come on and see how everyone is. Wow it’s lovely to see so many nearing due dates, 20 week scans etc..
I hope anyone still waiting for their bfp is doing ok, I’m sure it’s not easy to be following others progress when ur still waiting to start that journey❤️ sending love

no major updates here, my little lady is 4 months and time is flying by, she’s a wee scoot of a thing and still in 0-3 clothes but getting bigger and doing great, she’s a lot of fun now and chats and giggles away. My mind has started to shift to TTC again, not for a while, but maybe around the end of the year/start of 2025, it’s mad to think of starting it all off again, peeing on sticks etc..

anyways I just wanted to say a little hello and that I’m always thinking and hoping things are going well for everyone on here 🥰 I can’t wait to see the new arrival updates over the next few months x

@Sez281 i was gona say same as snooky, yiu should have a number for the m/w 24/7... they will check you out if anything plays on your mind..... a deposit on a pushchair my days, how much was it lol

@SnookyPook thats defo the right attitude about every day, week... he might suprise you and stay in there another mth or so quite happily lol

@Sez281 thanks lovely! Thankfully we're not too far from the hospital! Had the first of the bi-weekly ones yesterday afternoon and all looking good. Wasn't a growth one but just checking the uterine arteries, amniotic fluid etc and little man was looking happy in there. Next one on Friday. Feeling a lot more hopeful. Also asked on the childbirth board and have had a couple of reassuring stories about babies born at the 33-34 wk mark with low birth weight so if worst case scenario goes ahead I'm feeling more confident he will be ok. ☺️ At this point, every day/week things are getting better 🙏🏼

Aw bless you those little worries still creep in don't they. The wee/discharge/fluid debate is a tough one, especially as discharge definitely increases again from mid-pregnancy I'd say! If ever in doubt though, don't feel bad about getting checked out. It's a very easy check at the hospital and they'd always rather err on the side of caution.

@Supertrooper101 gp said they haven't had the results yet so I've emailed the fertility people back, hopefully they'll be helpful 🤞
@Westy22 that must have been a relief hearing the heart beat straight away then :)

@Westy22 that’s lovely, such a special moment to hear the heartbeat 🥰

@Supertrooper101 when are you due? I feel like your pregnancy has been sneaking along under the radar!

@Westy22 iv had loads of head fk moments with pains aches tightness lol learn to move very slowly in bed or standing or basically no sudden movements lol some reasurring stuff online for once tbh lol
@xxcxdonxx i did the hall stairs landing and ceilings the other year. Hated every minute so dont envy you at all lol
@Paws4thought have you had any look speaking to a dr re the bloods? If its flagged then surely they need to have a plan lol
@Sez281 did amything ever come of your hesrt rate being monitored or did the holiday fix it 🙂

Had my appointment 😍 she did the doppler and found the heartbeat straight away so that was reassuring, as I woke up in the night with some light cramps and felt like my abdomen was tight...which she's putting down to it stretching and wasn't concerned 🙈

@Westy22 aw lovely news about your friend 🥰

@Paws4thought thank you! Ah that's good there's nothing major flagged up for you. Intriguing about the thyroid and possible connection to MC... Hopefully the GP will be able to clarify for you and let you know if there is anything else you could be doing to help your chances next time.

@xxcxdonxx hope you're doing ok 💗

Awww I’d have loved an old house but it never quite worked out for us. Good for you, I’m envious of people who can get stuck in on their diy. I’m sure you’ll have it looking fab in no time x

@Paws4thought 20 week scan is on the 17th xx see my midwife tomorrow tho x Glad bloods came back okay, definitely ask your GP for more detail and advice though.

@xxcxdonxx ermm we have hall, stairs and landing and nursery which are a must do...then bathroom will come a bit later as that's fine atm. The house is over a 100 years old and hasn't had any work other than new bathroom so it's taking alot of effort and plaster 🤣🙈

Hope you've all had a lovely weekend in the sun, we went to a food festival today and I'm shattered, feeling a bit more achey/heaviness now. X

That’s good that your bloods have come back @Paws4thought and that everything seems to be ok. I don’t know anything about thyroid perioxidase antibodies but good to have an idea of what ‘normal’ is and where you sit within that.

I’m so impressed at your diy efforts @Westy22 , I need some of that in my life! Do you have much to do before little one arrives?
I know what you mean about people commenting on your bump. I was never triggered by it as I was naive to loss in my pregnancies but I didn’t like how freely people commented on it. Not so much friends or family but when total strangers felt the need to give me their opinion it did rattle me.
Hope all goes well in your appointment tomorrow x

@SnookyPook they seem to be monitoring you well and I'm sure your instincts will kick in if needed, exciting that he'll soon be here! :)
@Westy22 when is your 20week scan? Thats great that your friends baby made you excited for your own.
@xxcxdonxx I really hope the consultant speaks to you and offers more tests, there must be more they can offer than just bloods!
@Sez281 you must be so happy your 20week scan went well :) have you got anymore booked?
@Jadeypie sorry to see AF has arrived, but glad your little boy is on the mend, must have been scary.
@Supertrooper101 how are you getting on?

Sorry if I've missed anyone, seems to be loads since I last checked 🙈
I had my bloods results back last week, all normal except they've found thyroid perioxidase antibodies, which increase risk of hypothyroidism in future, the letter doesn't sound like theyre concerned, no treatment, just recommends checking blood again when I'm pregnant but google seems to suggest there's a higher chance of miscarriage. They've not actually sent me numbers just said the rest is normal so I'll call gp to ask for the figures tomorrow and speak to them about thyroid.

Ahh it's exciting @SnookyPook ❤️ but imagine as its come round quicker than you expected it's a bit overwhelming. My friend had a little 5lb6 baby girl whos absolutely perfect💓 it was bizarre when she sent me a pic as for the first time I felt so excited to experience that for myself. Just need to get through this 20 week scan as that still makes me nervous 😱 X

Thanks guys! And I know @xxcxdonxx - madness!! Just realised I probably need to change my mat leave dates for work and with using up AL too it means really not long to go now 😯 I can't believe I'll be back in the throws of newborn life very soon. Suddenly quite daunting - although simultaneously what I've been longing for for ages..! So many mixed thoughts going on! X

@SnookyPook , this little one has certainly kept you on your toes!
Totally understand why that would feel overwhelming but you are being well monitored and I’ve no doubt that your mum instincts will keep you right.
I know your little one may come a bit earlier but I cannot believe that you have got to that point already!

Morning,

Just catching up,

Totally get why you would be anxious @SnookyPook but as others have said they are really looking after you so fingers crossed everything will be OK, glad baby is helping reassure with movements though ❤️ a friend has been having regular scans for her Baby's growth as they were measuring small, they've waited till 37 weeks and she was induced on Wednesday but had her waters broke on thursday eve as nothing was happening so expecting some news at any moment x

Glad your little boy is on the mend @Jadeypie ❤️

Definitely push for more support and testing @xxcxdonxx I can't believe there saying that's it.

17+5 today, think I'm getting some round ligament aches now, getting some weird twinges either side when I move certain ways...could well be all my fault as I was decorating all last weekend and spend alot on time on my hands and knees painting skirting boards 🤣 My 16 week midwife app is Monday morning (at 18 weeks lol) then scan on the 17th, hopefully the next few weeks go fast 🙏 Anyone else not appreciate people commenting on your bump, some days it's like "ohh you've popped" then the next it's like you don't look very big today...I hate it...it's so triggering and I start to think omg is something not right. X