CD1 ttc after loss carry on thread #3

@Ladyinpink1 sorry about the BFN, it's difficult when we've had positives early before but 9DPO definitely still gives you a chance so fingers crossed for you still

@Wise0wl I also can't decide re scans if we got pregnant again. On the one hand early scans means early intervention if it is bad news, on the other hand I'd quite like none at all - but as someone with two MMCs and no spotting that's probably a bad idea

@Ladyinpink1 it has been really helpful, I would definitely recommend it! Fingers crossed for tomorrow, keep us posted?

Although I wouldn’t wish it on anyone else I so grateful for this group to not feel so alone in all this. @jellyfish2 how are you doing? I know what you mean about constant scans. I keep thinking maybe I’d have a viability one at like 7 weeks and then hold off until 10 (as I’ve not got to 10 weeks before with either of my MMCs) Otherwise could see me wanting them at least weekly!

@Wise0wl completely relate to the feeling of desperately wanting to be pregnant but terrified at the same time. I don't think I'd be able to cope with another miscarriage, especially finding out at the 12 week scan. Next time I worry I'll be going for scans constantly for reassurance but I really don't want to be like that.

@Ladyinpink1 it’s our second appointment, I found the first really helpful at helping me accept the ugly feelings and since then have met a couple of the babies I would have been sharing a mat leave with had our first loss worked out. So some things to process! How are you feeling about testing tomorrow, and how many DPO would that make you? Fingers crossed!

I’m really under the weather and feeling pretty rubbish. I know also that if AF isn’t here in the next two days I should test, but part of me doesn’t want to. Can anyone relate? Like I desperately want to be pregnant but am so scared of that at the same time.

@UrsulaSings123 have a wonderful few days in Paris! And look forward to hearing whether you’ve had signs of ovulation when you’re back. You’re right, based on AF timings it seems possible ovulation could be soon.

Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences. It seems like it wouldnt be unusual to ovulate 2 weeks after then (I.e. this week) if people have had periods 4 weeks later. My cycle is usually pretty clockwork. My partner and I are going to Paris tomorrow for a few days. Was booked a while ago but couldn't have come at a better time so we can have a change of scenery and quality time together. I'm actually taking my bbt thermometer with me 😂but won't be taking my ovulation tests 😂so will carry on testing when we get back Fri evening. Hope you all have a good few days and good luck to those testing.

Hope you’re keeping well @CluelessInLondon and thank you ♥️

@UrsulaSings123 my period also came back 4 weeks after each MC (one natural, one surgical) so things can get back to normal pretty quick but don't be concerned if it takes a bit longer, there's quite a breadth of experiences with this. It should be back within 8 weeks x

@UrsulaSings123 @Prettypennies I'm sorry to hear about your losses - you are in good hands on this thread. I've been very lucky to have fallen pregnant again but am still dipping in here with the odd update and to keep an eye on how everyone is getting on, and it's really the most amazing source of support and kindness. The only bad thing about it is that it has to exist at all.

@UrsulaSings123 Thought I'd share my experience post-surgery with you - everyone's body responds differently but I remember finding it really helpful to read about what different people had experienced when I was waiting impatiently for everything to return to normal as it helped me not to panic so much that maybe things weren't going as they should. I had surgery in September for my MC, I got a negative pregnancy test 3 weeks later. I hadn't previously tracked ovulation but decided to track after the MC to have a better idea of what was going on, and I was already tracking while I waited for my negative test - my LH surge actually came the day after the negative pregnancy test, so things started to happen quickly after all of the HCG was out of my system. We decided to wait a cycle before starting TTC again, and my period then came back two weeks after my positive OPK, so just over 5 weeks after the surgery. Cycles returned to normal straight away after that, although in January when I conceived I randomly ovulated earlier than normal.

@moosey89 Good luck with the job situation, I have something similar going on at the moment so know how stressful it is. Glad your work trip felt like a nice break from the norm though.

@Wise0wl @Ladyinpink1 Good luck for the Thursday testing, I am keeping everything crossed that this is the cycle for both of you. ❤

@UrsulaSings123 I’m TTC #2 with a 3 yr old (so recognise your worries about age gap). I had a MMC in July, and got pregnant again in September, and had a second MMC in December. Both times I waited for the month afterwards to allow my body time to heal for a cycle (still dtd when we wanted just not tracking ovulation etc), my period came back about 4 weeks after both times

Thank you so much for the welcome. It's always a bit difficult joining a thread that is already well established.

How long did you all take to get your period and ovulate (if you were tracking) after your loss? If you don't mind me asking. I have no idea what to expect.

@Prettypennies sorry to hear about your recent MC. I have also started tracking BBT so that has given me something else to obsess over. My son would have been just 4 when baby was due. I'm worrying about the age gap now but there is nothing I can do about it..

@Ladyinpink1 1 thank you. It sounds like I'm in good company! I have been making my partner have a handful of walnuts a day as I read they can help 😂

@ThelastRolo20 20 that sounds awful, I'm so sorry. What a roller coaster. Good luck for next month.

@Wise0wl 0wl thank you. I have been on a miscarriage thread and its been so helpful speaking with others in the same situation. There were 3 of us having surgical management on the same day and it helped me to feel less alone. Oh my goodness, that other life 😢hopefully it will be a reality one day for all of us. Good luck for Thurs and hope counselling goes OK

@Ladyinpink1 Thursday testing it is! I actually have a counselling appointment first thing so might wee in a cup and have the appointment first, then test. Keen to separate how I’m processing my losses separately to the possibility of a new pregnancy. If not a positive sign, that’s a compliment from your DH! My spotting is a mystery, it’s gone for now but I’ve had so much spotting generally I struggle to work out what’s normal for me. Time will tell!

Lovely to hear from you @moosey89 and although your job situation sounds very stressful, some work trips sound like great opportunities to take your mind off TTC (though appreciate your frustration with ovulation!)

Welcome @Prettypennies and @UrsulaSings123, I’m so sorry for your losses. This group has been a real support to me, especially as you mentioned about planning ahead and feeling like things are working out. I really struggled to let go of the ‘other life’ that pregnancy gave me a window to, and accept that pregnancy loss was part of my life story. I hope you both have support IRL too.

@Bugdem123 they're great ones! It can feel a bit woo but there's quite a bit of psychology behind positive affirmations and it won't exactly hurt to do them!

@Ladyinpink1 ah well compliments are lovely but like you say we then obsess over it as a symptom 😂 can't win with us can they

@Prettypennies @UrsulaSings123 welcome both! It's a wonderful group here. I have a 2 year and I've had two back to back MMC in the last 6 months (the joys). I'm kick starting again from my April cycle which will start mid month so about a month's wait for me

@UrsulaSings123 my dd is also 3 and a half and I felt the same after my MC in Jan. I was obsessed with trying again but ended up waiting for my period to come ts I could track ovulation. Sorry about your loss & I hope you get a bfp soon!

Hi all, please can I join too? I had a loss at 8 weeks in January and I think I am now finally ovulating? This is the first time tracking ovulation so I’m a bit clueless!

Hi everyone, I was wondering if I'd be able to join you? I had surgical management for a missed miscarriage last Thursday. I am TTC my second, my son is 3 1/2. I was so excited when I was pregnant as it felt everything was working out, the come down from that has been extremely difficult.

I am throwing myself into focusing on TTC even though its not been long at all. I am still testing v v faint positive on hcg, and my lh is raised but not positive, which is usually where it is about this time in a normal cycle (CD11). I'm wondering if I'm going to ovulate like normal or if the faint hcg levels are influencing the lh. We decided to TTC straight away without waiting as my partner is 51 so dont feel time is on our side. I hope we don't end up regretting that decision... if it all goes wrong I.e. I end up pregnant and miscarrying again then I think I would probably blame myself. Probably wishful thinking that I could be pregnant again so soon afterwards.

Hope all you ladies are OK. I saw someone mention the trigger warning for dune. Glad I saw that as am seeing it soon and it's obviously still very raw.

@Ladyinpink1 sorry I misunderstood what you were saying 😅 this would be my second pregnancy with my first ending in the MMC. I tell myself that too - that I'm going to enjoy all the tough bits just as much as the rest as I've fought so hard to meet them. Fingers crossed the big boobs are a good sign, not too long until Thursday.

@13lucy sorry you've been having a hard time too. That's good your doctor is making investigations! I'm hoping I can convince mine to do the same on Thursday. I'm now trying to stop myself googling.

@moosey89 that sounds like such a cool job but really stressful with the uncertainty. I so relate to the struggling with the lack of control and unknowns. I wish I could know it would all work out as I know I'm not making the most of what I currently have with the fear of what I might not get!

@ThelastRolo20 I really like them! Especially the April one 😂. Mine are "I am brave, I am strong, I am resilient" and "My body is fertile and doing its best until I'm told otherwise". I've also started telling my body I love it and I'm proud of it every night. This is very "woo" for me but actually seems to be making me feel better about it.

I'm CD8 today so going to try DTD every other day from tomorrow. I'm not sure how we'll manage as my husband has a really busy week at work. I'd almost be relieved to miss it as I think getting a BFN just before my due date would just about push me over the edge but I also don't want to miss a chance in case this is the one!

@Ladyinpink1 yeah I'm job hunting currently - it's almost certain my job won't exist after the summer so want to get ahead of it as I can't afford not to have a job (and because it's an American company the redundancy is minimum statutory so it's like 2 weeks pay only!). I'm somewhere mid cycle haha, af should be due around the 27th. X

@Ladyinpink1 haha don't worry I know what you mean - I find myself wondering about how people on here are doing too 😊 I work in marketing for a small US sports broadcaster, unfortunately it's run by an egotistical maniac (hence my job is unfortunately under threat) otherwise it would be brilliant!

@Ladyinpink1 early April so not too long! Annoyingly it's likely to fall during my period which isn't great. I thought it would be ideal to have just before ovulation as you can see the follicles growing which would have been reassuring, but beggars can't be choosers! 😂

@moosey89 glad you have a good time away, even if it was for work purposes! I'm with you on struggling with a lack of control right now. I'm sure there will be better days for us ahead.

@ThelastRolo20 April isn't that far away at all now, you've done well to wait it out!