CD1 ttc after loss carry on thread #3

@moosey89 i’m so sorry about your bfn but your appointment sounds like it was helpful and productive. I’m sure I’ve read positive things about ttc after hycosy as it sort of flushes everything out?

Thanks for the support guys - appointment was moderately useful. I have to have a hycosy, but it's a 3 month wait apparently. Thankfully I'm due on tomorrow so at least I can start getting my way up the wait list immediately! Recurrent miscarriage wise, no cause found, "idiopathic recurring miscarriage" which basically just means bad luck/nothing they can do to prevent it. Sucks and means there's nothing to lessen the worry if I get pregnant again but at least it's not something really complicated that could mean I can't carry to term. And consultant has put the referral in for fertility clinic which will be an appointment after the hycosy. So I now have 3 months to lose 10kg ish to make sure I'm comfortably within BMI range for all treatments.

@jellyfish2 how confusing for you ❤️ it's so hard but you're best to wait a day or two and see what happens with the bleeding (also will give a chance to see line progression if it is a new pregnancy) x

@Bugdem123 yeah I've had lots of negatives I've been testing since about 10dpo and today is the first I've seen even a hint of a line.
@samilicious yeah there's two in a pack. I've now got some more bleeding so I can only assume it's failed implantation or something. It's just strange I got a negative yesterday and positive today but there's more bleeding. Wish I hadn't even tested but there was only light spotting when I did which was weird.

It really is. I hope its a good outcome for you. Did you test negative on a preg test a few weeks after the miscarriage? If there's low levels of hcg then as far as I know even with a miscarriage you should test in the morning. But someone else might correct me on that.

It's so hard working out what's going on with your body. I feel like a scientist when I'm doing opks and bbt and all that.

@jellyfish2 deffo retest - I got an evap on a frer well within the timeframe a few months ago while getting negative on cheapies. Is there two in the pack?

@moosey89 I'm so sorry about the BFN, it's so gutting every time. I hope your specialist appointment goes well and you get something out of it.

@jellyfish2 that definitely looks positive. Have you had a negative test since your loss? You're not wrong about it being a mind fuck!!

@Wise0wl I'm 13dpo and my period I was expecting on Wednesday but again because of the MC just assumed it was a bit early. I have another frer I'll keep it for tomorrow. Thank you. TTC is such a mind f* isn't it.

@jellyfish2 I can see a line, I would get another test and test tomorrow with FMU. What CD are you, and do you know when you ovulated? I’ve got my fingers crossed for you 🙂

Can anyone help or offer advice. So I said earlier on this thread that my period had arrived but it was light and thinking it was to do with my MC. I wiped again and a decent amount of blood when I wiped but mucusy and more like a pinky red colour. I had a frer which I hadn't used yet so decided to try it and this looks positive? It was in the timeframe so it can't be an evap? I had a negative on a cheapie only last night. I'm now wondering if this is a chemical or if it could be implantation bleeding. I think the frer is slightly more sensitive than the cheapie but I did the frer on a 2 hour hold. I feel so confused.

@13lucy I bet longer cycles are much harder with TTC / DTD. I was most fertile when mine were at my longest. Well, that's the only time
I've conceived and had a healthy pregnancy so not sure if there's anything in it or just coincidence

@moosey89 sorry you got BFN but hope the appointment gives you some clarity and hope

@jellyfish2 I think it's normal for the first period after to seem a bit different, everything is still settling down with the hormone changes. Fingers crossed it resets your body for a good chance this month

@moosey89 I'm so sorry lovely, I think your plan of trying until August and then having counselling is a really good one. If I ever get pregnant again I've decided it's the last shot (after two missed miscarriages) - like you I want to make sure I'm living life as opposed to just going through it

@jellyfish2 yes I know what you mean, I didn't either.

@moosey89 sorry you're feeling so miserable. That sounds like a really good idea with the counselling. We've had couples counselling before when we've disagreed about how we want to plan our future (not saying that you are) and it was very, very helpful in helping us make decisions and align what we both wanted more. August is still 5 months away so still time yet. I know what you mean about wanting to feel like you're living and got your life back.

Thanks @UrsulaSings123 - I'm at a point now where I can't even imagine getting a positive test, let alone being pregnant with a bump. I'm so fed up. We're trying until August (one full year since most recent loss) and then going to counselling as a couple to figure out what we want to do as we can't keep trying indefinitely. It's taken over my life and it's emotionally exhausting. I want to feel like I'm living again not just surviving.

@UrsulaSings123 yes I had surgery 7 weeks ago this week and that's me just got a period. I only ovulated after 6 weeks, didn't realise how long it would take. It probably is better I agree but didn't want to miss an opportunity!

@moosey89 sorry your test was negative... I guess at least now you know what to focus on with the specialist. I hope they are able to help.

@jellyfish2 I didn't realise you'd had a miscarriage so recently. Was your cycle quite short this time then? If my opks were correct then I ovulated day 13 which is v early for me. I'm normally a day 16 kind a gal. Which says to me my cycle will be shorter this month. I was reading a post someone did the other day about retained products and they had a negative preg test and no signs of it, only found out as they were having scans as part of fertility treatment. Kind of scared me a bit so I think having a period after is probably a good thing to make sure everything is properly cleared out. Onwards and upwards and I hope this cycle is better for you.

Well, I'm out this month. First period arrived this morning after my MC which is a couple of days earlier than expected. Assuming because of the MC. It also seems really watery blood which is different to how my normal period would be. What was everyone else's first period like after MC? I have mixed emotions about it and think maybe it's a good thing for dating purposes, hopefully my body just wasn't ready yet.

I tested - negative as negative can be, as expected 😞 on to the next month.

Just realised I meant to tag @moosey89 in that bit! Sorry!

Thank you for your lovely messages yesterday. I had a bit of a cry to myself and I feel slightly better today. I just want to say how grateful I am for the support I've received on this thread and I've only been here a short time. The experiences we have as women really do bind you together doesn't it. Thank you so much, they genuinely helped.

I made the decision to stop checking BBT. I was sooo close to putting my thermometer back by my bedside last night and resisted and I'm so glad I did. The reason I started measuring it was to check if my temp rose after ovulation, and it did, so there's no need to carry on tracking. I just know if I saw a drop in temp over the next week I would feel so disappointed because apparently your temp stays raised if you're pregnant, and I didn't want to base my feelings off a 0.2 degree change in temperature! I am going to test from 10 dpo (next saturday) because that's when I've had positives before and I'm going out that evening. But once I've done that I'm just going to test once each day until my period. If by some miracle its positive then I'm not going to test again. Last time I did about 18 pregnancy tests and was tracking 'progression'. Just sort of 'saying it out loud' so I stick to it! 😂

@13lucy sorry you're feeling so rotten. This is the only month I have tested for BBT and if its worth anything it rose 2 days after ovulation. I read online it can rise 1 - 2 days post ovulation so maybe that's what will happen for you. Its horrible having a looming date. I fell pregnant with my son about 6 weeks after my first baby was due and having that date go by with no baby was very difficult. I had to go home from work as I couldn't stop crying. It was just before Christmas. I hope it happens for you soon. And sorry your illness happened while you were on holiday - sounds miserable!

@Wise0wl I hope the spotting calms down and EPU are able to offer support when you call them.

@Bugdem123 personally if it was me I would be testing as that would help inform me about what I wanted to discuss with the specialist. That and I'm a serial tester so there's no way I'd be able to wait until CD27 anyway 😂 hope it's good news for you.

@moosey89 I would just in case. Could you write down the pros and cons of each option to think it through? If you get any useful information you'll have to let us know!

@ThelastRolo20 I hope so. Problem is that this makes me feel like I need the BBT testing more as I don't trust my body. Just can't win!

@moosey89 peeing in a cup to delay decision-making has been a very frequent part of my TTC journey 😂

Thanks @Wise0wl - I'm the same as you and wait for af to arrive (as she so annoyingly always does!). I'm 99% sure I'm out but could be worth knowing for sure.... Pee in a cup is always an option 😂

Hey @moosey89, I would test. If it’s positive or negative I would feel it’s worth being able to discuss the outcome of this cycle with the specialist personally, but I know it’s easier said than done, and generally have always waited for AF as I find a bfn so hard. Could you pee in a cup so you can postpone the decision and see how you’re feeling a bit later on?!