CD1 ttc after loss carry on thread #3

@GoldDustWoman90 I'm so sorry 😔

@GoldDustWoman90 sorry that you're experiencing this and to see you back here 😢

Back here again ladies. Just woken up to bleeding at 4+3.

God I hate this.

@samilicious I'd never heard of SMEP until you just mentioned it. Might try that this month. We get so worn out DTD all the time during the fertile period. Gone are the days when we used to DTD every day because we wanted to haha. Although actually my partner still wants to for the rest of the month as well usually, but I often can't be bothered! Just so tired all the time!

@samilicious not in full flow still just browny / pink on wiping. I’ve never had this before but the fact that it’s been going on for so long makes me think that if anything it’s a chemical? I wish there was a magic button that could just tell you the day after ovulation whether it’s going to work that month or not!

TTC after loss is even more maddening cos I feel like you second guess yourself and symptom watch even harder.

i definitely crave sweeter things around ovulation. Weirdly for me I think it’s something that’s happened post MC. So many things have changed since then with my cycle!

@ThelastRolo20 I'm actually doing ok thanks. I spoke with my DP about everything and he's in agreement we should wait for my period as my body maybe just isn't quite ready yet. We've been lucky that falling pregnant doesn't seem to be the issue so hopefully after another month things will sort itself out ☝️

@samilicious I'm sorry you had a TFMR that must've been such a difficult thing to go through. My DS is almost 3 aswell so had my pregnancy progressed there would've been just over 3 years of an age difference which is what I'd hoped for. It just wasn't meant to be sadly.

@UrsulaSings123 hahaha! Oh nooo! We've all been there xD

@Confusedandtired90 it was so similar to implantation for me before which is what made me excited, then deflated. Did you say AF is in full swing now or still a chance?

@jellyfish2 that's so annoying they won't even count it. Sooo many women have MCs without contacting anyone. Rolo's idea about contacting your gp is a good shout for support.

I know what you guys mean about the age gap. How old is your other DC @jellyfish2 ? My DD is almost 3. My TFMR would have meant me having a 9 month old by now. It's so distant in my mind it doesn't seem like it ever really happened

@ThelastRolo20 chilling and getting ready for some serious action xD what is your usual schedule like for previous conceptions? Do you do SMEP or more relaxed?

My DH is getting ready for those sperm tests, so has to basically do SMEP until then although I'm still actively "trying not trying". Trying not to work out / remember my CD but deffo in the fertile bit now 😬 body's going crazy, noticing way more stuff. Does anyone else crave choc a lil bit around ovulation time? New thing for me last 5 months or so

It's going to be the most chilled fallopian tube 😂 loungers and sunglasses for all.

How are you doing? It's been quite the week for you x

I just had a vision of a little egg with sunglasses on patiently waiting for the sperm 😂

@jellyfish2 I hope so too 🤞🏻🤞🏻 hoping I have a nice relaxed egg after holiday 😂

@UrsulaSings123 it probably seems trivial to others not in our position but I suppose that's in an ideal world we'd like set age gaps. I just want a healthy baby now but kind of wish we'd just gone for it sooner. Didn't take into account the possibility of miscarriages. It's rubbish.

@jellyfish2 this is how I feel about the age gap. My son is 3 1/2 now. Really didn't want a big age gap.

@ThelastRolo20 ahh I see that makes sense. I hope you feel more ready to start again when you do.

@ThelastRolo20 so you'll be in the May TWW 😊 hopefully that's our month!

@jellyfish2 It is tough having a break but I do think after back to back miscarriages it's been the right thing to do ❤️

My period will start mid April (16-18th) so my first ovulation will be around 1st May or so - not sure if it therefore counts as an April or may cycle? 🤷🏻

@ThelastRolo20 thanks. Are you TTC April or may? I might skip April to give my body a rest.

@UrsulaSings123 not an ideal break. Miscarriage was late Jan and we're on hols in April so figured it was best to wait - I wanted to give the next chance as good a chance as possible so taking vitamins, exercising again, and I figured a rest was well deserved. But it has been hard I won't lie! Counting down the days 😂😂

@jellyfish2 I'm so sorry it's a fainter line/ CP - maybe register it with your GP so you can get the support you need x

@samilicious epu phoned me back, she said it did sound like a chemical pregnancy but she couldn't give me any more than that and thought it was a strange I hadn't bled for very long. I asked if the surgery will have affected things but she said no. They don't count it as a MC as I haven't been seen for it to be confirmed. I might wait until my next period comes before TTC again. So frustrating as thatll be almost 6 months since I got my first positive with my MMC pregnancy. Id hoped for a closer age gap and it's getting further and further away.

:@samilicious that's good to know - it doesn't feel like it's a pregnancy. All v strange! Suspect that AF will come in a few days and put me out of my misery

@jellyfish2 don't worry, not rambling! It's a confusing one to have to muddle through.
Maybe give them a call just to see? Another thing on your record to give you more reassurance support in future if nothing else. And might make you feel better now

@samilicious it's funny you say that as I wondered if it could be false. The night before I used a cheapie which was negative yet the following morning when I started spotting I used the frer which gave that line, surely the cheapie would've picked it up too especially since it was before the bleeding?

Just did another frer there to check and it was negative although after 8 mins it looked as though there was maybe vvvfl but the cheapie again was negative. I assume there's no way to know now if it really always a CP? Bleeding has almost stopped and it only lasted two days.

Does epu even count CPs a thing? I'm not sure if I should be contacting anyone or just write it off as unknown. I'm just worried it could happen again. I always thought that chemical pregnancies gave a positive result and then it would be a week later or so you'd start bleeding but that doesn't seem to have happened at all with me which is why I'm really confused. Sorry about the rambling.

@Ladyinpink1 wow that sounds lovely! Very relaxing! I went to France last week so not got anything planned for a while now.

@samilicious thank you I hope so too. I did a test this morning at 7dpo 🙄 we all know how that turned out 😂

@ThelastRolo20 have you been advised to have a break from TTC or is it something you decided for yourself? Must be very hard to wait if you don't want to!

@samilicious thank you - it's stopped now so after my normal period I had two days of very small spotting (none even on a pad just on wiping) so chalking it up to one of those things/ my body just settling down.

Entering last fertile period of not trying! Getting there 😂

@ThelastRolo20 sorry you're having a weird time with AF - I don't know if there is a normal after MC, especially surgery. Seems like one extreme or the other. I think as long as they're staying the same and getting slightly better after a few months. Worth getting checked out to ease your mind though just in case. My friend just had MVA and still had some retained tissues after. That was immediately after the MVA though, not as part of a later period.

@Confusedandtired90 I had that a few cycles ago - must have been some sort of failed implantation because not had anything like it before or since, and had other weird symptoms too. Hope you're ok!

@Ladyinpink1 sorry just me fretting over nothing! Your cabin break sounds lovely @Bugdem123 took me a few cycles to get out of the trying mentality last time, thinking it will be the same for me this time. On my second since and much better already in myself and body feels better too with less worrying / checking everything

@UrsulaSings123 don't be mad at yourself for hoping, hard as it is. Need a bit of hope, just without the pressure on yourself. Hope it feels less intense soon

@jellyfish2 I had a false positive on a FRER two cycles ago. Used them for year no problem but will avoid in future. So sorry, it absolutely wrecked me at the time. Your line was stronger than mine though so more likely yours is CP

@Ladyinpink1 are you going somewhere nice? 3 nights is lovely, good to have 2 whole days.