CD1 ttc after loss carry on thread #3

@Ladyinpink1 it's so hard - keeping everything crossed that this current cycle surprises you xx

I'm so sorry, I have seen encouraging stories on Mumsnet for people in similar situations ❤️ x

@Ladyinpink1 sorry to hear that. How long have you been trying since your most recent loss?x

@HerbaceousPerennial not at all! If I hadn’t seen a negative test I’d think it was the hCG too.

Ahh it feels kind of scary to be back on the TTC train so quickly. I’d intended to wait after I’d had my first period. I could have sworn I would have ovulated when I was away last week, but must have taken 3 weeks for ovulation after my D&C as it turns out.

Anyone else currently in the TWW?

@purplecolouroffunk oh good, sorry I think I got a bit muddled up there! Hooray for ovulation!

@Ladyinpink1 thanks, I’m just going to cut myself plenty of slack I think and try and get into a decent headspace. I was thinking three weeks so we’ll see. That will give me a couple of days once my son’s back in nursery etc to just focus on myself, I’ve not had that yet with his operation. I pushed through a reasonable level of sickness etc so plenty of pregnancy related sick leave I think is justified. I really want a bit of time to reconnect with DH too, we’ve been like ships in the night to be honest

@HerbaceousPerennial yes was tracking hCG with tests and definitely got a stark white test. Thankfully!

@purplecolouroffunk if you have leftover hCG in your system it can give you a false positive on OPKs. Is your pregnancy test totally negative? If not that could be it (sorry, don’t mean to bring you down).

@Jellybelly888 that is so helpful, thank you so much. I’ll book in with the GP. I’ve always been slightly wary of starting on anything because even though my cycles have been long (around 6-8 weeks but varies) since I stopped breastfeeding, I’ve always fallen pregnant without too much trouble. So I really want to ask them whether it will help with the miscarriages. To complicate things further my ovaries have looked normal on scans since I had my son - obviously no idea what my hormone levels are like now, I was diagnosed about 7 years ago now and my periods now are far more ‘regular’ than they used to be which suggests things are better than they were. It’s all so confusing. I was a bit over confident TTC number 2, because with my son I was pregnant within 6 months (only second cycle though) and my pregnancy was completely uncomplicated. I was so prepared for it to be a nightmare conceiving my first, it never occurred to me once that was relatively straightforward I’d have problems second time round. Do you mind me asking, what was your experience like on metformin with your first, and then trying again now? Don’t feel you have to answer, aware it’s very personal

@emmatcc1 just retested and have a solid smiley on CB and a peak on easy@home. Yay!!

@emmatcc1 oh okay that's really useful to know - thank you. I only have one digital stick left so will need to use it wisely 😂

@purplecolouroffunk A new digital will always read blank on the first test.

@emmatcc1 ohh it's the first time I've used a digital one this cycle, so could be that?

@purplecolouroffunk That’s odd. Is the digital maybe new?

Thanks everyone. You’ve definitely made me feel better about things. My dr also said there’s no reason to wait and that she’d only recommend it for timing. I just got into a hole where I was reading about a lot of women having a second MC after falling before a period. But I guess that’s always just going to be down to chance.

So this afternoon I’m getting a ‘high’ (1.28) reading on an easy@home OPK but an empty circle on Clearblue. Any ideas?! They’ve always timed up correctly for me in the past. Could it mean LH is detected but no estrogen? Or maybe an anovulatory cycle? I’m confused 😂

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@HerbaceousPerennial the guidelines have changed now with Metformin and GPs are allowed to prescribe it now for PCOS if it’s been officially diagnosed by the hospital. When I was TTC my DS 8 years ago, you could only get it via the consultant in the hospital but now I needed it for another baby with my new partner, the GP told me they can prescribe it now.

My body responds well to metformin and 8 years ago it took 1500mg per day to shorten my cycles, but this time it’s taken 2000mg dose per day to do it, however I’m in my mid 30s now which I think makes a difference.

If you have an official PCOS diagnosis then it’s worth chatting to your GP to save time and energy going down the fertility clinic route!

@samilicious this is really helpful, thanks! I have heard of it, a friend of mine had IVF and she told me a fair bit about it. The carbs are my killer, I just love them so much 😭 everything else I’m pretty good on. I’ve been reading Miscarriage: what every woman needs to know, it’s by a professor who runs one of the biggest fertility clinics in the uk and as it’s heavily science based it’s right up my street. There’s a lot in there about PCOS but long story short it’s still a bit of a mystery and they don’t really know how to fix most of the issues it causes 😂 metformin is the big thing I need to ask the doctors about (and inositol as a natural alternative). @Ladyinpink1 I’m going to call the consultant secretary and see if I can go direct but I suspect I’ll have to go via the GP to discuss. It feels good to have a plan so I know I’ve explored every option of nothing else, for my own peace of mind. I’m probably taking the mickey a bit work wise as I’m physically well now, but I feel like the stress they put me under didn’t help my chances with this pregnancy, and because my son’s been in and out of hospital I’ve not had much time to process this loss, so I am going to take a fair bit of time off until I feel properly able to cope with the pressure again. They are very understanding of my situation to be fair so it won’t be a problem.

@purplecolouroffunk my cycles are mental and the EPU said just to crack on once bleeding had stopped etc if I felt ready, as the only problem it causes is with dating if you fall straight away, and I have that problem regardless. It doesn’t make any difference to your chances of miscarriage they said to me, it’s purely when it feels right for you. My friend had her son directly after a miscarriage (her second MMC in a row), no period in between. Good luck!

Hey @purplecolouroffunk - I'm also team go for it with similar sentiments to Lady. I had fertile signs I ignored when I wasn't ready to try again, now on cycle 9/10 since properly trying again with no EWCM in those quantities since and regret not trying. My friend got pregnant on the next cycle after a loss and had a very healthy baby no issues, dating only tricky first few weeks until she had 12w scan

@Ladyinpink1 it says very dark chocolate is ok after healthy meals because it doesn't spike blood sugar. For apple cider vinegar, it suggested it as a benefit only diluted and before you have a high glucose meal - so maybe before a takeaway or big dessert or sweet breakfast. Not sure if you follow glucose goddess, I followed her on my old account but off socials now. Vitex was on the avoid list too, but can't remember why. Will re-listen to that bit and post what it says

I think the avoid list is also because the other stuff mentioned has more evidence of improving chances right now

@purplecolouroffunk If you feel ready there’s no need to wait. Looks like you’ll ovulate soon. I also had a bunch of EWCM along with ovulation pains on the first cycle, and from what I heard it’s pretty common.