CD1 ttc after loss carry on thread #3

My period returned 4 weeks post surgery so I hope that happens for you too 🤞🏻

I'm doing okay thank you, just taking it one day at a time, being back in the first trimester feels like groundhog day to be honest...not sure I'll ever get out of it but I can only hope

Hi @Figtree11, welcome from the miscarriage board. Like @moosey89 as you know I’m another repeat board cycler. It’s crap - but I live in hope, a few folk from these boards now are progressing well in their pregnancies and no reason why we won’t be in that boat one day. In the meantime, always an ear open.

@Ladyinpink1 where did you get your inositol? I’m holding off for now until I’ve spoken to the GP on the PCOS front as don’t know what tests they may do. But DH is very twitchy about buying supplements off the internet so trying to find somewhere reputable in case I am left to my own devices!

@samilicious sounds like my kind of run! I walked up a hill with the buggy the other day and trying to tell myself that’s basically the equivalent to a run as I was sweating, so definitely counts as more than walking surely? I’m not even fooling myself here… I hate running but not sure how else to fit any exercise in on a regular basis - DH is encouraging me to take up yoga again but I don’t know if I can be bothered actually getting myself out to a class. I have ordered a load of plants so I will be doing lots of gardening again at least which will be good for body and mind I hope.

Oh @moosey89 i am so sorry. It’s just the worst feeling in the world. I’m so very sorry you find yourself in this position again x

Hi again @ThelastRolo20 😊. Physically I’m doing well, spotting after surgery has stopped in the past couple of days so now it’s just a waiting game. Last time after medical it took me 5wks for a negative. And 8wks in total for a period. So I’m concerned I’m in for a long wait again. But don’t know if it will be different after surgical. How are you doing?

Hi lovely, I understand the board rotation a bit too much as well! I joined in advance of trying again too for support ❤️ how's your recovery going?

@Figtree11 I'm so sorry sorry 😞 I know the feeling of going round and round in the same cycles. I'm back here even though my miscarriage has to be confirmed next week, don't worry xx

Hi all, I’m back on this thread again. I was last on in Jan/Feb time following a MC in November & then got pregnant in March.

I went to my 12wk scan 2wks ago where there was no heartbeat & had surgery almost 2wks ago. Not trying again just yet as waiting for my test to go negative.

I can’t believe I keep going through the different boards on here - conception, then pregnancy, then miscarriage board. Then back to the start again.

Have a phone call with my GP tomorrow & hoping I am able to be referred to tommys miscarriage clinic due to being in area & being able to be referred after 2 MCs. But who knows.

Hope you don’t mind me joining even though I’m not actively trying just yet, I could just do with some support as struggling with the overwhelming idea of TTC again and worried I’ll never get my dream of being a mum.

Hope you are all as well as can be x

An utterly shit week 💔💔

@moosey89 I'm so sorry to read this. It's just so unfair. Sending you love 🩷

@moosey89 what an absolute nightmare. Work has so much power to make this so much easier or so much worse, I’m sorry yours are in the latter camp. Can you work from home at all so you can at least take it a bit easier? Do you get paid for medical appointments? I know it’s bad to say that but if you can find ways to bend the rules a bit to buy yourself a bit of breathing space then I think that would be wholly justified given your company are pretty unsympathetic policy wise

@ThelastRolo20 unfortunately not - it's an American company so I'm always having to explain UK policies to them (it's a UK contract so I know I'm protected). But I only get 2 weeks paid sick leave at full pay and my boyfriend found out that he's being let go this week too so I can't afford to be without my usual salary unfortunately. It's been a shit week.

@moosey89 so sorry to hear this, I really feel for you.

Your friend sounds lovely ❤️ remember, if you have time tomorrow I'd argue it's pregnancy related so protected in law - does your company have any policies around this type of leave payment wise? Xx

@moosey89 oh I'm so sorry :( hope you get some answers with the same thing happening again. Sucks that your friend is so far away but lovely gesture

@Ladyinpink1 that's a good idea about the treat days! I'm just trying to eat healthy meals and snack on fruit. I find it takes a few weeks to get down to it properly, start with meals then the snacking catches up. Making my steps up on the treadmill every night is helping me not snack in the evening! On CD 11 today, lots of CM so going to DTD later. Will use OPKs next month I think

@HerbaceousPerennial totally makes sense with your friend and needing each other. I say run, there was a lot more walking than running 😅

@moosey89 I am so sorry to hear this, it's so completely unfair and cruel that anybody should have to suffer multiple losses - one is bad enough. I will hold onto some hope for you that you get better news in a week's time. Look after yourself. ❤

Oh @moosey89 I’m so sorry. You have me complete sympathy, the week wait is hideous

@ThelastRolo20 thank you - I have my boyfriend, and my best friend (who inconveniently lives 400 odd miles away in Glasgow) knows and sent a care package through Deliveroo which was very sweet of her. I've taken today off work and will probably go back to work tomorrow as I want to keep my sick days for if I have to have surgery again/time after the miscarriage itself.
And you're right - it's so shit. I don't know anyone who's gone through recurrent loss personally either so no one gets it on the same level. Especially when the average time it has taken me to conceive each time is headed towards 12 months.

I'm so sorry, it's utter shit and it's so so unfair that this happens. Do you have people around you today? X

@ThelastRolo20 from my reading on the subject last loss, more than 99% certain to end in miscarriage unfortunately and the sonographer agreed it's very unlikely to be a viable pregnancy.

I'm so sorry lovely, how certain was the scan? Xx

Looks like I'll be joining you all again soon - had a bad scan today at what should be 7 weeks and it's basically certain I'll miscarry (exactly the same scenario as my last loss). I'm devastated 😔 have to go back in a week.

@Ladyinpink1 he’s 2 and a half, honestly he’s an absolute riot a lot of the time, he dropped something earlier and just muttered ‘ruddy Nora’ to himself, I’m guessing he’s picked that up from my mum! Consultant appointment tomorrow so hopefully we’ll get some answers. I just know he’s going to lose it when they come anywhere near him so dreading that. On my appointments I’m slightly perplexed as to why the fertility clinic want to run all these tests, I’m guessing to check it is definitely the PCOS causing the miscarriages but who knows. I really just wanted to chat to the endocrinologist based on existing diagnosis but there we are! I’m booked in with a really good GP, she looked after me after I had my son, so hopefully she’ll be able to provide more useful guidance. I suspect you’re right and I’m not totally physically over the miscarriage yet, and definitely not emotionally - B6 is a good shout. I just checked my vitamins and it’s in there but might top up a bit. B vitamins in general I think are very important for conception, folic acid is a B vitamin too. You made me laugh with the pineapple, I’d forgotten about that!

@samilicious thanks, I actually had a really good day today with a mutual friend, she helped me so much to work out what to do. She had two MMC before her son so she really understands what it’s like. Everyone in the friendship group would understand if I distanced myself but I really, really don’t want to do that - I think I really need this friend who’s just had the baby and she needs me just as much right now. We’ll see how we get on! Good work on the run, I am deeply in awe. I’ve started the vitamins, plus some nutritious food and light exercise so a good beginning. But I am still deep in the carb/booze pit, one step at a time!