CD1 ttc after loss carry on thread #3

@samilicious I can’t believe you’re 12 weeks already! I’ve not checked the grad thread in a while, hope you are doing ok, I can only imagine how difficult the screening must have been. I’m rooting for you xx

Also following still and wishing you all well! Do update when you can 💗

Hello! I'm still lurking too

Haven't been on MN much in general because the 12ww/screening stuff has been a bit of a mental rollercoaster 🥲 but still as invested in your journeys as ever

I am still very invested in your journeys and I'm so sure you will get your BFP's. Please when you do update this thread so we can congratulate you!

@Wise0wl @CluelessInLondon so glad you’re still lurking! I lurk on the grad thread too 😂 @moosey89 @Mummysparrow I will jump over now and see you there. @Ladyinpink1 this one I think: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/conception/5134669-ttc-after-loss-part-5

I think I am already on the other TTC group as well 😂

@HerbaceousPerennial @Ladyinpink1 I joined the TTC after loss thread, think it's ok no5 now! Come on over, there's lots more people there. Unfortunately we do seem to be some of those who are still here longest after loss but we can will each other on xx

I'm still reading and willing you all on too, I so want to see some more BFPs and have you all join us over on the grads thread. ❤️

@Ladyinpink1 @HerbaceousPerennial I still lurk and keep up to date on here, I’m so invested in your journeys, so let me know where you end up! X

I think there’s another TTC after loss thread, I wonder if we all just jump on that one? I’m really glad there are so few of us left but it does make me a bit sad!

Today doesn't make anything any clearer. My cheap tests are negative and I have a very light pink tinge when I wipe so I am wondering if I am out and period is on its way.
I have been in and out of the chat and it looks thin on the ground now. Have most people got their positives?

Hi ladies I hope everyone is ok.
I had blood test done by my GP and everything came back as fine so I have no issues there thankfully so no idea why I had a week long LH peak. I am potentially 11dpo (going by the highest peak) and I have serious line eyes going on. I did a LH strip this morning due to have no cheap tests left and I have a high level on the strip so I did a FRER and I am now seriously confused as I think I see something.

@Ladyinpink1 I did a couple and they were coming back high but not ‘peak’ - but then I get that fairly often anyway. I get a lot of EWCM and DH is back now so keeping my fingers crossed. I’m ovulation symptom spotting like a crazy lady, boobs are a bit sore but then that could also be PMS. Who knows?! I do actually feel really hopeful at the moment, it’s a bit scary but I just feel really ok and it’s lovely. I don’t feel necessarily that I’ll be pregnant very soon, but one day. I think maybe my dad’s wise words have sunk in and given me the perspective shift that I needed. I’m glad you’re feeling hopeful too. Did you get any responses to your 12m+ thread?

@13lucy I’ve signed up for fertility acupuncture, I feel weirdly nervous about it! Hope you are doing ok

@Ladyinpink1 if it makes you feel any better I’m 37! My mum was trying to be comforting telling me about all the people who’ve got pregnant in their forties so I’ve plenty of time, she meant well but I did snap and point out I don’t want to have my next baby at 43, I want to have it now. Or well preferably several months ago but there we are. My spotting has finally stopped which is making me feel a lot better - however DH is away and I’ve therefore convinced myself I’m ovulating. Glad you’ve got your peak, how are you feeling?

@ExTriTrying I’m 100% with you on the age gap thing, I’m constantly imagining how old DS will be if I get pregnant now, I was so smug thinking I’d timed my perfect age gap before my first loss. But I do see friends with a variety of age gaps and they seem to make no difference at all to how well the kids do or don’t get on. I’m trying to focus on how much I get to enjoy time with him 1:1 still. Fingers crossed we don’t have much longer to wait

Thanks @Ladyinpink1 . Also, I realised I muddled this thread up with another, so my apols for radio silence makes little sense! I think I'm just putting a lot of pressure on myself because I really wanted the age gap between DD and "imagined no2" to be smaller, so every month is just one month greater age gap, but I realise there are positives to that, too. DD was conceived first cycle trying as was the baby we miscarried (first cycle after 3 years due to pregnancy/breastfeeding), so I guess I've also been quite naive about how long it can take, and painfully aware I'm a few years older than I was with DD.

Still, of course, obsessing over dates. LH rise started on PM of Aug 1 (DTD), peaked on AM of Aug 2 (DTD), and EWCM CM was lots on Aug 1 and 2nd, and basically gone by Aug 3 (didn't DTD), all suggesting ovulation was either late Aug 2 or early Aug 3. But BBT didn't go up until Aug 5. I have read it can take 2 days though, which would make sense with an ovulation date of Aug 3.

Who knows... hopefully next cycle (3rd post D&C) will be more normal, and can make sure to DTD on surge day and the day after, so I don't spend 2 weeks fretting.

@Ladyinpink1 ah I’m sorry, a new baby in the family is really difficult. Glad you’re doing ok. It’s so frustrating essentially just being able to do nothing but wait. This is about when I conceived my first loss so been trying over a year now and further back than when we started. My tests are all clear too, again good but means I just need to wait too! Still very very faint spotting and so completely at sea cycle wise. Sticking firmly to testing once a week and DTD just whenever we feel like it, it is strangely liberating.

@ExTriTrying it sounds to me like you’ve got a good chance! I’m afraid I’m hopeless on the ovulation vs DTD timing as I only ever have the vaguest idea at the best of times so no useful insights but fingers crossed

Hello!

I hope everyone is doing ok, some good news stories and some struggles.. love to all.

Sorry I've been radio silence. It took my 37 days after D&C to ovulate, didn't fall pregnant, and I was feeling a bit low. This cycle it took 30 days... so hopefully on the way to being more normal but it was till a very frustrating 15 or so extra days.

I have a question which probably sounds stupidly obsessive, but I can't stop Googling, so I'm asking.

Usually, my LH surge starts around 10am and peaks about 4pm. This cycle, it started some time around 4pm Thurs (estimate, was "high" by 8pm), and peaked about 7am Friday. I had a lot of EWCM on Weds, Thurs and Fri, it stopped by Sat AM. I also had a series of really sharp twinges approx 9pm on Fri night. Temp has risen a bit, but it always takes a few days, I expect it will go up more tomorrow.

We DTD on Tues, Thurs and Fri, but not Sat, by Sat EWCM was all gone and we were kind of tired having had sex every other day from CD12 (I expected to ovulate around CD17).

Imagine you can see where this is going... was ovulation likely Fri night, or some time Sat?

I see a lot of conflicting info around if conception chance on ovulation day, some seem to say it's low, others say it's the best day.. thoughts, for an obsessive Googler driving herself crazy?

@HerbaceousPerennial that's good she didn't think it looked like there was anything wrong, and that you have a plan going forward. After my MC I thought it would go back to normal straight away, I didn't realise it could take so long. It's so frustrating that it can have such a long lasting effect on our cycles.

@Ladyinpink1 sorry to hear about that, it must have been very difficult. Will you have to see them very often? I definitely think it's worth your DH getting checked out. It takes 2 to tango and if there is something amiss then at least they can try and address it, rather than not knowing. And if everything is fine with both of you then at least you know it will happen at some point. I know I will log on here one day and you will be sharing your BFP, I'm sure of it and I'm holding that hope for you, even if you can't hold it for yourself sometimes.