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*TW* Getting pregnant again after miscarriage

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Bb542 · 02/03/2024 21:20

Hi ladies,

I'm looking to see if anyone has recently had a MC and is trying to conceive again? Or if you had a MC and are pregnant/got pregnant again after.

How long did it take for your period to come back after the bleeding from the miscarriage stopped? How long did it take you to conceive again? When did you start trying again? Is there anything we should be doing?

We've just had a loss at 7 weeks. It was our first time being pregnant. I know we've to wait until we get a period before trying again, but just looking to talk to people who have been through this.

Thanks ❤️

OP posts:
RainbowHoping · 02/03/2024 21:42

@Bb542 thank you. Me too! October 4th or 5th I think. Have you got older children or are you trying for your first? It will be our first.

So, technically yes I’m counting the start of the miscarriage bleeding as CD1 as if it were my period. However, because I ovulated a week later than usual you would adjust this. The way you’d date a pregnancy would be from 14 days prior to ovulation, if that makes sense? Thank you for your kind words they really mean so much. It can be so lonely when you feel like nobody understands. Tommy’s website and several medical journals say there is no risk with not waiting. I suppose just do your own research.

We didn’t wait very long to DTD because I really wanted to and the bleeding did stop quite quickly. It is such a personal thing though. I wouldn’t let the Christmas week put you off. I was born near then and love it. Plus, they could be 3 weeks early or 10 days late! You never know. I really hope you conceive quickly - it’s a good sign that you did so fast and I’m sure you will again. You’re supposed to be more fertile in the months after a loss.

Did you have much time off work? X

Figtree11 · 02/03/2024 21:40

Hi OP, I’m so sorry to hear of your MC. It’s just the worst.
I had a MC in November - 10wks but measuring 8wks. I would have been due in June.

Everyone’s experience is so vastly different, but it took me 8wks to get a period. And it has made my cycles go haywire. It’s now been 6wks since that period, and still waiting for the next one.

It really is a horrible journey, and I’m desperate to be pregnant again, but have realised that it can happen quickly again for some people, but others it can be longer.

I hope things settle down for you soon

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Bb542 · 02/03/2024 21:33

RainbowHoping · 02/03/2024 21:25

Hello lovely, sorry this happened to you. It’s truly the worst isn’t it. I miscarried 3 weeks ago at 5+5. I’m guessing you were due around October time?

The bleeding stopped for me personally after 5 or 6 days. It was like a very heavy period for three days then subsided to normal flow then stopped on day 6.

I have been using OPKs and I got my peak on CD20 ovulated on day 21, so a week later than usual. I am now in the TWW at 4dpo. Like you, I just want to be pregnant again. It feels like that’s the only thing that will make it better. And we will be - and there’s every chance next time it will be successful, for both of us. Miscarriages are a horrible blip in the journey and is unfortunately just nature. It is really hard not to worry though, isn’t it? Glad to be able to chat to someone else in this situation as it can be so lonely. Thank you for making the thread xx

Hi @RainbowHoping ❤️ thanks so much for replying and I'm so sorry that you've had a loss too. I was due early October. Were you due in October too? I found out 2 weeks ago that the pregnancy had stopped progressing. It was one of the most difficult things I've been through 😫 but it's nice to talk to people who understand on this app.

That's great that you're TTC again. Do you mind me asking... since you didn't wait before getting a period to try again, what did you count as cycle day 1? Was it the first day of your bleeding from miscarriage? I know they recommend waiting one cycle before trying again, but I also know lots of people don't wait and I totally understand why. I really hope you fall pregnant again so soon and it sticks ❤️

I'm still having a tiny bit of brown bleeding from the MC. We're a bit unsure on what to do now. We got pregnant really quickly first time, but trying again straight away could mean having a Christmas week baby, which I always thought I'd try and avoid. However I've now learned the hard way that these things cannot be planned. I'd be grateful now to have a baby at any time.

Would be nice to have a little group here for anyone who is in a similar position, so feel free to join if you're reading this 🥰

OP posts:
RainbowHoping · 02/03/2024 21:26

Also there is no medical reason to wait for a period, just use OPKs. Dating can be worked out at scans anyway. There are loads of threads on here where many posters say they had successful pregnancies conceiving before their first period after miscarriage.

RainbowHoping · 02/03/2024 21:25

Hello lovely, sorry this happened to you. It’s truly the worst isn’t it. I miscarried 3 weeks ago at 5+5. I’m guessing you were due around October time?

The bleeding stopped for me personally after 5 or 6 days. It was like a very heavy period for three days then subsided to normal flow then stopped on day 6.

I have been using OPKs and I got my peak on CD20 ovulated on day 21, so a week later than usual. I am now in the TWW at 4dpo. Like you, I just want to be pregnant again. It feels like that’s the only thing that will make it better. And we will be - and there’s every chance next time it will be successful, for both of us. Miscarriages are a horrible blip in the journey and is unfortunately just nature. It is really hard not to worry though, isn’t it? Glad to be able to chat to someone else in this situation as it can be so lonely. Thank you for making the thread xx

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