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just "relax"

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Optimistic66 · 04/02/2024 18:03

Honestly i'm pissed of with people saying "don't think about it", "just relax" and whilst they mean well, it's hard when you've been trying for nearly 18m.

Also even if you mention you you've done sticks - all i hear is don't do any of that - just relax and it'll happen.

rolls eyes.

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Optimistic66 · 04/02/2024 18:08

TheShellBeach · 04/02/2024 18:06

Sorry OP- What do you mean by you've "done sticks"?

sorry ovulation sticks.

I use ovulation sticks and I don't ovulate. Lo' and behold i mention this and then i hear... "well that's it, your stressing too much, doing these sticks"

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Optimistic66 · 04/02/2024 18:07

GoldenTea · 04/02/2024 18:05

Ridiculous isn't it.
Relaxing didn't do it for me but 5 rounds of IVF did. Don't think I managed to relax my way out of the endometriosis.

I know and I feel like people who say it can't understand how infertility feels or ttc and not getting anywhere...

is it trying to be helpful?

if anything THIS is making me stressed.

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Sweden99 · 04/02/2024 18:07

Any advice with the word "just" in it is terrible advice.
It is typically given by people who have been lucky and are oblivious to it.
Good looking and high status, then you relate to people by "just be yourself".
Plenty of wealth, then "just save up"
In a secure situation, then tell others to "just relax"
It is worthless and is smug advice.

TheShellBeach · 04/02/2024 18:06

Sorry OP- What do you mean by you've "done sticks"?

GoldenTea · 04/02/2024 18:05

Ridiculous isn't it.
Relaxing didn't do it for me but 5 rounds of IVF did. Don't think I managed to relax my way out of the endometriosis.

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Optimistic66 · 04/02/2024 18:04

Optimistic66 · 04/02/2024 18:03

Honestly i'm pissed of with people saying "don't think about it", "just relax" and whilst they mean well, it's hard when you've been trying for nearly 18m.

Also even if you mention you you've done sticks - all i hear is don't do any of that - just relax and it'll happen.

rolls eyes.

Realise there is no real point to this thread but wondering if anyone else relates or am i just overly sensitive...

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