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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC in 30s

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Mummysparrow · 01/02/2024 21:06

Who else is trying to conceive in their 30s? I am trying to conceive number 2 and I am rapidly approaching 35. Had my first at 31 who I conceived easily but since having her my cycles vary from 28 to 34 days and I now get spotting a few days before my period. I am about to start the 3 month of trying and I am starting to get in my own head that my hormones are not where they need to be

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Mummysparrow · 05/03/2024 09:37

@Kaleidoscope2 it sounds like a positive step to me so enjoy the positive and try not to worry. Any pregnancy symptoms?

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Kaleidoscope2 · 05/03/2024 09:29

Mummysparrow · 05/03/2024 08:51

It looks like I have got my BFP. I woke up with horrendous indigestion so decided to test again and there it is at 11dpo.

Massive congratulations on your BFP!

Kaleidoscope2 · 05/03/2024 09:29

Hi everyone, hope you don't mind if I join in. I'm 34 and TTC no 2. We fell pregnant easily with our first and didn't really put any thought into it. This time round I've had to put in steps to get my periods more regular and stimulate ovulation again, I have PCOS and was having periods without ovulation for some time. The last few months I increased my daily exercise, started taking supplements to manage my insulin resistance in PCOS and other symptoms and reliably had 2 periods in Jan and Feb with ovulation. This ovulation window romance was out the window and we DTD several times (every other day then on ovulation day and one before and after everyday) and I've just taken an early detection test which is positive. I'm not getting my hopes up too much yet in case it's a false positive but this is the closest we have been. We started properly trying Jan this year and the few months tail end of 23 I spent getting myself healthier as id got into bad habits with stress and not taking care of myself. Wishing you all the best in your journey!

ToeBeans24 · 05/03/2024 09:17

Yaaay congrats @Mummysparrow !!

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Mummysparrow · 05/03/2024 08:51

It looks like I have got my BFP. I woke up with horrendous indigestion so decided to test again and there it is at 11dpo.

TTC in 30s
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Mummysparrow · 04/03/2024 06:37

@m00ngirl you never know, it might be him or you may both be fine and it's one of those things.
10dpo today and did a clearblue digital and it says not pregnant. I got a positive at 10dpo with my daughter so looks like I am out this month. On to month 4

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m00ngirl · 03/03/2024 21:42

@Mummysparrow 8 months TTC, and haven't been on the pill for over ten years so fair few occasions I could have gotten pregnant before actively TTC. DH is getting tests now too but I don't think it's him, it's me. Still good to put them on a bit of a health kick though ☺️

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Mummysparrow · 03/03/2024 20:15

@m00ngirl oh no. How long have you been trying for? Have your partner had any tests done as it may not be you?
I have told my husband if we don't conceive this month I am cleaning his diet up and putting him on fertility vitamins 🤣

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m00ngirl · 03/03/2024 20:08

@Mummysparrow I feel for you - 9dpo is early though, there's still hope! I'm about to come on my period and am also feeling sad about another month with no pregnancy. Starting to think something is seriously wrong as I've never conceived. I don't even feel positive about the idea of getting pregnant now whereas I was so excited and even fulfilled at just the idea of it when we started actively TTC. It's just all a source of stress and worry now. Fingers crossed for you.

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Mummysparrow · 03/03/2024 16:26

9dpo and I caved and did a cheapie pregnancy test which was negative. I am starting to feel less optimistic

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AAlly23 · 27/02/2024 21:05

I'm 40 and conceived my first at 39. I tracked my periods/ovulation on 'Pink Pad' it's a great app, it told me the low, medium and high chance days of conceiving. We were pregnant after only 3 months ! Hope it all goes well x

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Mummysparrow · 27/02/2024 20:59

I conceived 2nd month of trying with my daughter after stopping the pill 6 months previously and I had been on it 12 years. I was expecting the pill to have ruined things and take ages to conceive. I knew it may take time now I am 34 (approaching 35) but at the same time I hoped it wouldn't take long. I have told hubby that if I don't conceive this month then I will be changing his diet and we will be having more sex and that saying he is tired is not an excuse 🤣
Congratulations @lpylu that's amazing

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AliceMcK · 27/02/2024 20:39

I had my first at 36, conceived within 3 months, 2nd at 38 conceived in 2 months and third at 42 I think it happened the first time we had sex haha

Id always been irregular with periods. My GP at the time told me the best way to conceive was to have sex daily, so we did. I think the first time we had a break because we were knackered and that’s why it was longer to conceive.

I’ve often wondered if I conceived easy because I hadn’t been on the pill or any other contraceptives other than condoms since my early 20s.

m00ngirl · 27/02/2024 20:33

@Mummysparrow I don't know what the blood test is for exactly, I'll let you know if I find out, but because I've never conceived it's the first step in checking it out. Yes SO difficult when you don't know when you've ovulated and tricky when it moves, as yours did!

@lpylu that's incredible and may give some of us here hope (though some of us might wonder why it's not so easy for us!). Congratulations 🥂

lpylu · 27/02/2024 19:06

Conceived at 34 first time, we used fertility lube ovulation sticks, Flo app and had sex a lot. Second time we fell pregnant first time, just used Flo again to know the window and I had some lube leftover from last time, had sex once. Couldn't believe it. I'm 36, DH 39.

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Mummysparrow · 27/02/2024 18:59

Just found out my sister in law is 2 months pregnant. We were pregnant at the same time with our daughters and I have no idea how long she has been trying for. I am so happy for her but also makes me feel sad that I didn't know she was pregnant and that I am not pregnant (or at least not knowingly). I wouldn't say I was jealous though.
I have heard beetroot juice helps implantation so I am off to buy some 🤣🤣

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Mummysparrow · 27/02/2024 14:02

Ooohhh what are your doctor's testing for? I haven't bothered going to my GP as I know they will just tell me that I am early on in my TTC and to have patience.
Its really annoying not knowing when you ovulated isn't it. I thought I had missed it this month and I randomly did a LH strip on Thursday and it was positive and then I got ovulation pains on Friday. I just use the easy@home ones.
I would say if you have only just ovulated then the dates will be off as it is a bit early to have implantation bleeds. Is it possible you ovulated before cd16? I got a LH positive cd18 this month but last month it was on cd14.

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m00ngirl · 27/02/2024 13:53

My Hertility was all ok too @Mummysparrow , now waiting for GP fertility blood test results too.

I've had spotting since CD 21 and still going on now (I'm on CD24) with light cramp... was getting a bit excited about the possibility of implantation bleeding but are the dates off? We DTD CD 12, 14,15,16, 20, 22.

Not sure if/when I ovulated this month as clearblue digital only gave me a negative on CD 15 and flashing smiley for five days CD16-21 and I ran out of strips! I think I'm going to bin that bloody thing.

My boobs normally swell before my period but nothing yet... v confused.. I live in hope but it actually sounds like my hormones are just totally off balance. Will be furious if this is the start of a period just three weeks after my last one.

Sorry for the overshare. Fed up of this tbh!

Christmas202 · 27/02/2024 11:50

Currently 30 ttc baby 3 which will be our last . I had my first at 19. Second at 24 and will be 31 with the last. My eldest will be 12 🫣

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Mummysparrow · 27/02/2024 10:47

Thankfully my Hertility results have shown hormones to be normal, but my AMH is high which could be a sign of PCOS but I have no symptoms so should be ok.
4dpo and I have a metallic taste in my mouth today which I had at a couple dpo with my daughter however I did see the dental hygienist yesterday so not sure if it is to do with that so I am trying not to get excited.
Sorry to hear that @ToeBeans24 @Ncl31 😞 hopefully this is your month
@BeWiseZebra I have come to the conclusion that although I should be wary about some things in the 2ww, I am not prepared to build myself up and cut things out when I may not even be pregnant. So I still had a glass of wine at the weekend and will stop once I get my BFP. I don't drink loads but look forward to wine on the weekend. I am so going to miss wine and gin when pregnant 🤣

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LiIacMoon · 26/02/2024 19:06

@Mummysparrow don't feel discouraged.

I have pcos so know all about whacky hormones out of sync with the body.im 38 and currently expecting my first

Ncl31 · 26/02/2024 16:00

@ToeBeans24 oh yes very cruel indeed.
fingers crossed for you too.

ToeBeans24 · 26/02/2024 15:56

@Ncl31 Oh my goodness Christmas Day 🥺. Mother Nature can be amazing and so cruel.

im keeping everything crossed for you. Please keep me updated !

Ncl31 · 26/02/2024 15:49

I had an early miscarriage on Christmas Day. We had 2.5 weeks of talking about it and getting used to the idea. Then it was suddenly taken away. I know exactly how you feel.
life had one period since then and I’ve just got my peak today on my OPK with EWCM yesterday so I’m hoping a little eggy makes its way out over the next 24 hours

ToeBeans24 · 26/02/2024 15:34

Thank you @Ncl31 ! It was honestly awful. Physically it was just like a regular period but for a week thinking I was pregnant and both OH and I getting used to the idea and chatting about it to then it all going away so quickly was emotionally very traumatic.

im now full of anxiety like will I get pregnant again. If I do will it happen again. Really feel the innocence and excitement of it all has been tarnished 😞