Not pregnant after chemical

@Millie1501 I hope your hubby feels better soon!! You never know it might just take one try! Whats really throwing me off was getting my BFP on basically the first real attempt and now 5 months on nothing. I know I'm not out this month yet but its so hard to be optimistic with AF cramping haha!! Did anyone else find they felt they were getting AF before BFP?

@Millie1501 12/13 dpo today serious mood swings and continued cramping but its hard to know if its just AF on the way. When I got my BFP in August before the chemical I was convinced I was getting my period. I'm too afraid to test cus if its negative I'll be so disappointed! How are u?

Yes , You'll read lots of ladies posting about how easy it was the month after , but there's also alot of women like myself who didn't get pregnant immediately after a chemical. Don't put so much pressure on yourself

Thank you everyone currently 12 DPO I wont test early just due to worry from previous chemical but very much feel AF coming (usual cramps etc) altho when I got my BFP in August I was convinced AF was coming too... the ttw is torture! x

It took me 4 cycles after a miscarriage, which I fully expected. There’s only something like a 25% chance each cycle so it’s very normal to take a few months. There’s no rush, make sure you are feeling physically and emotionally ready to try again. We waited a few months after MC before trying again, glad we did. Let yourself feel sad, don’t avoid the feelings.

I was the same after my chemical I just wanted to conceive asap to help with the sadness but now 5 months on I’m in a much better head space and now really hoping for my bfp I’m so delighted for the ladies who conceive quickly after; and those that are still waiting we’ll get there. 9/10 dpo and lots of fluttery cramping in lower stomach and extremely tired… but I know I’m also symptom spotting so taking it all with a pinch of salt x

I had a chemical December 2021, I fell pregnant my second cycle after it. I was devastated that first month when i got AF I'd been pinning all my hopes on getting pregnant again straight away and I think it was delayed grief as I cried every day of that second cycle until I got my bfp... then of course was the weeks of torture worrying if the chemical would happen again! Thankfully that pregnancy went to full term and he's 1 now!

I had a chemical in the November, didn't get pregnant the next month (I was absolutely gutted/convinced almost everyone conceived the month after a chemical) but I did get pregnant the month following. Wishing you all the best. TTC is hard

I'm now around 8/9 dpo and fear i'm convincing myself I feel twinges in my lower belly altho my breasts are quite heavy but I don't think that's pregnancy as I've felt this since 6/7 dpo. This is the first month since the chemical that I've allowed myself to get my hopes up so fingers crossed and how you are all doing well x

I would usually text from 10 dpo but I found I was spending a fortune and in a bad mood every time it was negetive so I’m trying to wait till at least 14 dpo when I got my BFP last august. what stage are you at this month? I’ve a good feeling about early 2024 hopefully !! I’ll keep my optimism until AF arrives

Thank you for getting back I’ve wanted to join a chat for a while but was just really disheartened 5 cycles on after the chemical and no success. I currently 6/7 dpo and hopefully optimistic be afraid to get my hopes up :) doctor said chemical means u can get pregnant which is a good sign…

I hope you don’t mind me joining the chat ladies just hoping for some support on the journey. I had a chemical in august just before 5 weeks conceived on 2nd try was delighted and now another 5 months of trying again nothing… any advice or good news stories x

@Haylsttc reading comments like yours really give me home. Like you, I had unrealistic hopes that I'd be pregnant straight after our CP but unfortunately I didn't either. That was April of last year, we're now on cycle 10 since then and total cycle 12 so I just hope it happens for us soon

I agree with @Endomummy I think it is just a myth that you’re more fertile after a chemical or miscarriage and it can sadly set a lot of people up for disappointment and putting unnecessary pressure on themselves, me being one of those people!

I had a missed miscarriage last year, it only took us two cycles to conceive that pregnancy. However six cycles of trying again after the missed miscarriage and I’m still not pregnant. In the first few months I really beat myself up about it. However I’ve since done a lot of research, read a lot of forum threads and realised a lot of people take closer to 12 cycles to fall pregnant after loss. Weirdly knowing this has made me feel a lot more positive about the situation as it’s not abnormal to take longer and our time will come soon.

I just wanted to share a very realistic story to help others also getting themselves down about this. Wishing you the best of luck and I hope you get your bfp soon ❤️

I had a chemical December 2022 and I’m still ttc :( it’s a myth that you’re more fertile afterwards. I did have private and nhs tests done and both consultants said it’s normal to take 12 months (or more). I am just beyond that now but had a few months of bad timing in FW so telling myself I have a few more attempts…. I’m saying this because I found it so hard not conceiving quickly when all I saw online was people saying they conceived fast after, it makes an already shit situation so much worse.

@Millie1501 fingers crossed, I'm due to O today or tomorrow. I've got my nhs referral appointment next month so this is the final cycle before they do further investigations!