Have I missed the boat? is 35 too old to conceive?

No 35 is not too old

We concieved @ 36.5

Had early miscarriage

But trying again @ 37 from march

Have u had any hormone and fertility testing ?

I highly recommend hertility health

150 gbp v well spent

And u can get results onto your NHS record

Have u asked NHS gp 2 do vitamins and hormones check? - that would be wise.
Some females need good feretin / iron to concieve.
Theres a vit d and miscarriage link - good to have good vit d

Good to take vit d supplement - esp in uk winter but also 4 good vit d levels b4 conception

My sister had her second at 40 hes now 2 her eldest is 19years old.
I said she was bloody mad.
I wish you all the best dont give up it can happen.

Hi would love to join. I'm 42 and I. Sure you have not missed boat at 35. I fell pregna t last year but MC in July at 7 weeks. I have 2 boys already from previous relationship however the you gest is 8. I been ttc for 2 years. Currently just started the tww.

You’ve got to take into account that most people don’t announce when they are ttc so it can seem sudden to you when they announce but can often have taken a while.

At 35 approximately half of our eggs are abnormal. This isn’t something to panic about but it means statistically it takes longer to get the right egg and sperm. There are also fertility treatments you can take to increase the number of eggs you release.

I’m 36 and currently pregnant after 11 months of trying and one miscarriage. We went for a fertility check privately after 6 months who CG I would recommend if you are able but if not, support from GPs is available.

I had my second at 36. It took us 13 months to get pregnant. My first was a first month deal!

I was mentally very stressed at work when trying for the second and I think worrying over getting pregnant was just making it all worse. I think your body actually resists pregnancy if you aren't in a good place for a long time. I think you should concentrate on keeping yourself healthy and happy and if you hit a year of trying you start going for tests- we were just starting these when i found out I was pregnant :)

It’s not too late. I’m 38 and pregnant for my first. It took around a year of trying. The NHS says with having sex every 2-3 days it can still take a year on average so try not to feel too disheartened.

I had mixed feelings about using ovulation tests, GP told me not to use them and I do think maybe the months I used them I was more anxious than usual. If you don’t use them and just have sex regularly you can just go with the flow and take the pressure off a little.

I’d agree with others that maybe go to your GP as they can do some blood tests and send your partner for tests aswell just to check all is okay. Good luck ❤️

Are you temping as well? You might have multiple LH surges in a month. But temping will tell you the right one!

I've had all mine in my thirties. It's very common to still be fertile in your late thirties, but does tend to take a little longer to conceive on average. So I would say you are still statistically likely to conceive naturally, but get the ball rolling with checks anyway because there may be quite a long wait depending on your area.

Practical tips - I agree with the suggestion to read It Starts with the Egg. I also recommend bbt. It won't predict ovulation, but it's invaluable in understanding your cycle, and crucially can confirm that you regularly ovulate, and that your progesterone rises sufficiently post ovulation. OPKs cannot confirm you are ovulating.

Other general advice is to focus on your health and your partner's. If you are not already a healthy weight and drinking in moderation, no drugs, smoking etc, start tackling that now.

Good luck.

Funnily enough I only heard of that on here, so at risk of teaching granny to suck eggs, I won't assume you know about it (as I didn't), it's when your cervical mucus is the consistency of egg whites and it is the best time for sperm to get where it's going.
Maybe I was particularly clueless. 🙃
But I heard about that on here, then DD was conceived following cycle. She's 11 now. 😁

Possible too much info, but I remember going to the loo before bed, ds was not yet 2 so sleep was always a welcome thing, I realised it was ewcm time and thought 'ah, here's my indication the time is right, but I'm tired...' however, I found the energy, jumped his bones and the rest is history.

Same here - I was 43.

Sorry not quite right acronym, should be ewcm = egg white cervical mucus.

Conceived at 37. Started casually trying at 35-36 (when in same country as DP) but didn't do any research so wasn't doing at right times- took 2 months from buying ovulation tracker.
But also had polyp that was right at entrance of womb removed just before- worth getting things like that checked.
Planning on one more. Surprisingly I was not the granny at antenatal class. Very much average age!

It took us 3 years and I fell pregnant just before my 40th. Don't give up hope OP x

i tried for 4 years and finally conceived earlier this year age 36. My baby is due in 2 months! I had almost given up and spent my 35th birthday sobbing my eyes out. Was told I had few viable eggs and if I was going to got ivf not to delay. Decided against ivf route for personal reasons, but did seriously consider it and think it's right for some people. Can highly recommend a book called It starts with the egg by Rebecca Fett / I implemented some things from there. Game changer in my opinion for me was supplementing with 400 – 600 milligrams of coenzyme q10 every day. Also know that it takes three months for an egg follicle to mature so that gives you three months to focus on doing everything you can to improve egg quality too, diet wise and also moderate daily exercise helps too. The book is way more detailed.

There is always hope 💐

I was 35 when I conceived DD, she took 7 months of trying. I found putting it to the back of my mind as best as possible was helpful as it is so easy to become fixated and that's such a turn off, doing the deed when you have ewm is a must.

I was 37 with my last. Everyone is different though

Lilacdream you talk about biology like it's a fashion. It is lovely you have your baby but you are twisting words. Your midwife said you were young compared to other pregnant women she sees, and even that as an average is hard to believe, but in the kindest possible way you are not a young mother. Biology can't change over 50 years. There are outliers as you mention, very fertile women in their 40's , women with low egg reserve in their 20's but actually fertility does fall off a cliff, it's a very steep decline between 30 and 35. We will all know lots of couples who conceive quickly after this age but statistically before 35 is more successful. OP I'm sorry you are feeling stressed, as others have said 7 months isn't really long, make a GP appointment and hopefully all will come back within normal range, and you will have a positive result within 18 months. I do think women/ men/ couples are given such mixed messages about fertility. Many will find they can't start a family younger due to not meeting a partner, place in career, housing etc and all of these are valid reasons but to say 38 is young is disingenuous and doesn't help people make informed choices.

35 is young nowadays. You'll actually find many women are now having their first late 30s, 40s.
Your not going to wake up overnight and your fertility has fell off a cliff. Its a gradual decline and the whole over 35 shit is based on a very old study.
The only way you can assess your own fertility is to do the tests. Some women are incredibly fertile in their 40s and some women have a diminished egg resevere even by the time they are 30. Its individual. Don't judge yourself based on an ancient study.
I'm 38 with my first. Midwife told me I'm young.
My amh is still very high
The average age of having first children is now in 30s.

@BrandySnaps1 Get some cheap ovulation strips to use alongside the digital ones - you can get a big box of those for a lot less than the digital tests, and you can use those every day/more than once a day and just use the digital ones when you start to see your LH levels rising and you know you're getting closer to ovulation. I started ovulation tracking after a loss last September (I'm 37) and I find now that I have a reasonable understanding of my cycle I can use the cheap strips for about a week each month and only need to use 3 digital tests before I find peak. Hopefully that might save you a bit of money!

As you're over 35 and have been trying for more than 6 months, definitely get an appointment with your GP for some fertility tests (or get a private fertility check-up if you can afford it) - even if it doesn't show anything is wrong it might give you some peace of mind and reduce your stress levels a bit.

You should read It Starts With the Egg by Rebecca Fett, and do the Day 3 Fertility Blood Test fertility test by Medi Checks - your husband can also do the Male Fertility Test by Medi Checks - you will get a comprehensive idea of how it all works, and what you can do to increase your odds.

My first pregnancy was age 26.
Second age 35.
Miscarriage and ectopic in between. Bad endometriosis.. but it happened. Please don't give up.
My best friend had her first child age 38 and second age 41.

Lots get pregnant at that age or older. For me it didn't happen.