Have I missed the boat? is 35 too old to conceive?

Anyone tested this morning?? I'm 8dpo and want to wait see if AF turns up as don't want to stress or waste money. Had accupuncture yesterday was very relaxing and based on all info I gave her she said I have just as much chance of conceiving a successful pregnancy as anyone else despite my age so hopefully it will happen gave me possative vibes anyway.

Fertility starts to decline around 30 and most women are more or less infertile by 45. But the rate at which that happens varies hugely from person to person, as you might expect. 35 isn't that old. Kept trying til a year is up and then seek help.

My DC were conceived when I was 35 and 37.

Thanks ladies great to hear so many same age bracket and in the same boat. Give me possative vibes. X good luck everyone.

I had my first at almost 36 and my second I was nearly 40. Took 7 months first time and just over a year the second. I had a very early loss / chemical the month before my second stuck.

So I don't think you are too late, obviously we're all different but I'd carry on a bit longer before worrying and having tests.

My friend, who has PCOS, had her first at 42 and second at 43 (12.5 months apart!). Natural conceptions.

Don't believe all the negativity around being older and getting pregnant. I had my first with my hubby at age 40. I think women just need to be more in tune with their own bodies to determine when you're ovulating and such. I know infertility is an issue for some but their are so so Many stories of perfectly fertile women of all different age groups not being able to get pregnant and I firmly believe alot has to do with the modern "tools" getting in the way. Your body knows what to do and when you just need to listen to the cues and trust nature to do her job.

@BrandySnaps1 Sis I am in exactly the same boat, reading your post is like reading my own thoughts/situation (except I kept the stressful job, and turned down the job of my dreams because it had only statutory mat leave and knew I wanted to TTC...). But. Likewise, same age and have now been trying for first pregnancy 6-7mths, twice had periods 1-2 weeks late, I don't test obsessively but did get a BFN when late on so prob never even conceived.

This month I'm absolutely going for it, just finished a brutal (and late) AF, like you I use the advanced clearblue OPK but might even start BBT after reading the posts here.

And if it doesn't work out this month I'm doing the fertility tests and GP. Feels like no time to waste. So just to say I know how you feel, I do think our age makes it harder, and hope we get there soon ❤️

Stop trying would be my advice. Throw away the sticks and tracking calendar. Just have sex a few times a week, without thinking you might be making a baby. Try and enjoy yourself! If no success in a year, see your GP.

Aww don’t lose hope, had friends that tried for 2 years and then it just happened, I’m 44 and recently found out pregnant, natural conception

@BrandySnaps1 keep going! Speak to your GP.

I’m 38. Nothing had happened in a year of trying so my GP referred me for investigations. To cut a long story short: work stress was impacting me more than I realised as it had sent one of my key hormones plummeting. Decided to continue with investigations but mentally prepared myself to leave the job and start looking elsewhere.

Now in a new job… and at 20wks!

I only met my husband at 37 and had our first child at 41, second at 43. You've not missed the boat x

My mum had my brother at 42. Don't give up hope.

Good luck x

It's definitely all about the relaxing!

Thank you yes we actually conceived when we relaxed when I had the miscarraige so maybe just need to relax relax relax.

Definitely not too old! I conceived my 3rd child at age 38 after 3 months of trying, I'm now 39 and 23 weeks gone!

I'd start by booking a GP appointment to make sure there's no issue with either you or your DP, if that comes back clear then I'd monitor your body's signs of ovulation, you don't need ovulation sticks. Sorry if it's graphic, but you will have egg white consistency discharge when you're ovulating (clear). Once your period has finished I would have sex every few days until you finish ovulating.

I know it's easier said that done, but if all tests come back clear then you need to RELAX, as I swear stress stops you from conceiving. I swear we did because we actually thought We had missed the boat that month, but nope lol.

Thank you I saw gp last year and had bloods tested all was ok. The fact I had a Mc in July I guess is a positive I can still conceive just need that good egg and for it to stick I hope.

I had a baby at 37 (conceived 36) and a baby at 40 (conceived 40) and it took me at least a year to get pregnant both times. I wouldn’t assume it won’t happen and I would see your GP for advice. I think some women do struggle to conceive in their late 30s, but not necessarily as many as the media/society would have you believe.

Had you been trying long?

I was 38.....

We fell pregnant in May last year for 1st time but I had MC in July. So I know we can get pregnant I guess my age makes the process longer and more stressful. I have accupuncture tomorrow for first time to see if it helps.

Trying for my 3rd. I have 2 sons 10 amd 8 from previous marriage. Ttc 1st and last with partner of 4 years I'm 42 years old he is 39.we just desperately want one together. Good luck for end of week. Your strong not testing before a week late. I'd be caving I think.