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BrandySnaps1 · 2024-01-11T10:44:50+00:00

Have been trying for 7 months, brought ovulation sticks, still nada. Last month period was 4 days late - i was elated especially as i have been tracking like clockwork since the summer. Period came and the cramps were the worst they have ever been and very heavy flow. Would have loved to have had 2/3 children, but am now worried as Im 35 and focused on my career all this time. Only to quit last year due to burn out and now focusing on mental and physical health. Seems like a catch 22 situation and now I feel stuck, anxious, worried, did i make the right decision with anything? No mat leave, no children. Could really use some helpful opinions please.

Racket81 · 27/01/2024 17:59

I'm on cycle day 3. Period came Thursday. 45th cycle of ttc here we go. Accupunture again Tuesday so I'm hoping this cycle it will help as I only had 1 session and that was a week before Af arrived.

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BrandySnaps1 · 27/01/2024 17:53

Racket81 · 27/01/2024 17:52

Congratulations to those BFPs.

How are you getting on?

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BrandySnaps1 · 27/01/2024 17:53

CoolSummer89 · 27/01/2024 15:44

Congratulations OP, was going to come on here and say I am a bit earlier on in my journey, same age, and wishing you the best - but I see you have had happy news! Delighted for you. Please sprinkle a bit of you lucky dust my way ✨

Good luck hun. All i can say is even though its cliche, once we stop stressing something seems to happen. In my case anyway.

Wishing you all the best. How long have you been trying?

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Racket81 · 27/01/2024 17:52

Congratulations to those BFPs.

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BrandySnaps1 · 27/01/2024 17:52

m00ngirl · 27/01/2024 08:25

@BrandySnaps1 such wonderful news!!! Have you told DP yet? What are your symptoms like?

@californiacooper congrats on your great news after such a long time trying!! What worked for you in the end?

Thank you girl! Ive been looking out for you on the thread as our story seems so similar.

So far I am SO bloated, really tired, and have slight lower back pain. My 2 pregnancy tests had a really strong test line and someone on another forum said the old wives tales says that could be twins!

I told DP over factime unfortuantely, hes away and said he might have to go away again end of february. My first midwife appointment is then, so before he booked anything in I showed him the positive test and he said he was so happy. I couldnt hold it in anymore!

Are you late on your period? How are you feeling?

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BrandySnaps1 · 27/01/2024 17:48

californiacooper · 27/01/2024 06:40

@BrandySnaps1 congratulations!!!!🥳
I think that 7 months is still considered pretty "normal"- I'm 36 and started trying at around 35, ended up looking into infertility after a year of trying. We got there in the end and I think I'm 6 weeks now! Just found out a week ago today and it's been a weeiiiereddd week I wake up not believing it! What's your estimated due date??

We sound pretty similar then! You may be just 6 months older than me. I think I am 6 weeks on monday but i cant be too sure. NHS due date calcualtor says end of Sept. What about you?

Hve you booked in for your first midwife appt yet?

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BrandySnaps1 · 27/01/2024 17:47

Thank you ladies all so much. I cant tell you how much this forum helped in making me feel less lonely. A lot of friends had kids in their 20s/early 30s and I was so worried Id left it too late.

Even though we did start having unprotected sex in the summer of 23, i didnt start tracking through ovulation sticks and my app until September. But after i ran out of the sticks after xmas i thought id go down the fertitlity/gp route because we were having sex at exactly the right time and still nothing. We DTD at the beginning of the year but I had no idea if it was the 'right' time because my period the month before was late. Lo and behold when i stopped stressing and being so obsessive about doing it, it happened.

My advice would be dnt be so regimented, and have a little fun with your other half. I think for DH it was pressure too, once we stopped thinking about it, it magically happened

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CoolSummer89 · 27/01/2024 15:44

Congratulations OP, was going to come on here and say I am a bit earlier on in my journey, same age, and wishing you the best - but I see you have had happy news! Delighted for you. Please sprinkle a bit of you lucky dust my way ✨

Dkerry · 27/01/2024 09:38

Had my first and only child at 42, now 47 with a 5 year old, I say he keeps me young.. its definitely not too late at 35.. but get checked out at the doctors, say you've been trying a year as you would still meet the criteria for help on the nhs x

m00ngirl · 27/01/2024 09:25

@californiacooper what a great way for it to work out! I'm now in dreaded TWW but if it doesn't work out this month I'm going to the GP... not sure what to expect

californiacooper · 27/01/2024 09:19

@m00ngirl thank you :)
Umm well a shit-ton of hormone injections (I went abroad for IVF stimulation for a freeze all cycle nov/dec and conceived while waiting to go back for my transfer! (The cycle after the stim so the hormones sorted out my ovaries I think)

m00ngirl · 27/01/2024 08:25

@BrandySnaps1 such wonderful news!!! Have you told DP yet? What are your symptoms like?

@californiacooper congrats on your great news after such a long time trying!! What worked for you in the end?

californiacooper · 27/01/2024 06:40

@BrandySnaps1 congratulations!!!!🥳
I think that 7 months is still considered pretty "normal"- I'm 36 and started trying at around 35, ended up looking into infertility after a year of trying. We got there in the end and I think I'm 6 weeks now! Just found out a week ago today and it's been a weeiiiereddd week I wake up not believing it! What's your estimated due date??

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BrandySnaps1 · 27/01/2024 00:05

Bex4567 · 26/01/2024 08:48

Did u get ya bfp ok

I did. And Im now 5 weeks :) thankyou

Have a midwife episode booked in. Had a rollercoaster of emotions this week but finally it all seems real

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NightSkyWanderer · 26/01/2024 17:57

38 pregnant with number 1

Bex4567 · 26/01/2024 08:48

Did u get ya bfp ok

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BrandySnaps1 · 24/01/2024 14:16

m00ngirl · 24/01/2024 12:50

@BrandySnaps1 keep us posted! 🤞

My clearblue advanced ovulation test was a blank circle Monday morning and then a solid smiley i.e. peak by midnight that day... so it has messed my ovulation prediction a bit? Flo now says I'm ovulating tomorrow whereas before it said it should have been on Monday ie day 14. Who knows. Not sure I rate these tests! Regretting not starting BBT now. Will keep DTD this week just in case.

But essentially I should now be in my dreaded two week wait.

Everything crossed for you. Im about to head out and get a test because still no AF, 5 days late.

All of this is so expensive though. ANyone got any favourite tests? Will a boots own brand one do?

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m00ngirl · 24/01/2024 12:50

@BrandySnaps1 keep us posted! 🤞

My clearblue advanced ovulation test was a blank circle Monday morning and then a solid smiley i.e. peak by midnight that day... so it has messed my ovulation prediction a bit? Flo now says I'm ovulating tomorrow whereas before it said it should have been on Monday ie day 14. Who knows. Not sure I rate these tests! Regretting not starting BBT now. Will keep DTD this week just in case.

But essentially I should now be in my dreaded two week wait.

Wooloohooloo · 24/01/2024 12:29

I conceived as easily at 25 as I did at 35 (very quickly) but everyone is different

Racket81 · 24/01/2024 06:47

Took me 9 months to conceive 1st at 32 and 8 months for 2nd at but different partner then. no surprise it took 1.5 years to fall at 41 when I misscarried. I'm still hoping at 42 for my third.

Racket81 · 24/01/2024 06:44

5 days late is good enough to test but I get why you want to wait I'm also waiting till weekend when be 5 days late by Sunday

Racket81 · 24/01/2024 06:41

I'm gonna wait till weekend give it a few days as I just don't want the testing dissapiontmemt.

elliejjtiny · 24/01/2024 01:17

I took a year to conceive dc1 in my early 20's. Which is still very average and normal but it felt like forever at the time.

Canthave2manycats · 24/01/2024 01:10

Oh no my dear, it is so not too late!!

Go and see your GP - tell him/her how long you have been trying exaggerate if need be!)

It took 3+ years trying for our first, starting at 30. The others came much more quickly but I did have two miscarriages along the way.

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BrandySnaps1 · 24/01/2024 01:04

m00ngirl · 23/01/2024 21:45

@BrandySnaps1 I'd test now if I were you as you're late on and have been TTC this month!

@MattieandmummyandIs this is so good to hear, gives me hope! I'm TTC for first time and am mid 30s, and would like 3-4 if possible... never had a pregnancy before, only 6m of actively TTC, but will keep trying and hoping x

Ah girl! Im nervous, i still feel like AF could come any day now as I am bloated but everytime i go to the bathroom expecting my period to start, theres nothing, tomorrow will be 5 days late. Saw something on google that said to wait 7 days or longer to make sure. If im late i think its down to stress of TTC.
How are you getting on?

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