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Anyone ttc in 2024 after loss?

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janey125N · 30/12/2023 20:29

Lost my perfect little baby at the end of October. I was 15 weeks, baby was gone since 13 weeks. Planning to start ttc again in January. I am devastated and finding it hard to cope. Also extremely nervous about being pregnant again. Yet the need to have a living baby in my arms, outweighs the crippling fear. This little baby was my first too.

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Hopingrae · 18/01/2024 21:34

@Nic2908 well... you could be right?! Bloody well hope you are at least 🙏 I had sore boobs at my yoga class, wonder if being relaxed made me notice things more! 😄 Feel like I've felt a few pelvic twinges too...

Nic2908 · 18/01/2024 20:41

@Hopingrae absolutely convinced myself I’m pregnant!! 😂😂😂😂 your mind does such horrible things doesn’t it. I’m not sure how long I will wait until I test I’m going to try until at least Monday as that will be 10dpo. But we will see. What symptoms is everyone getting? I’m incredibly bloated, and I’ve got this really weird ache around my c section scar.

Gracie1825 · 18/01/2024 20:22

I'm confused. I had MMC in December and had erpc 19th December, was surprised when I had ewcm 14 days later but after reading boards etc thought great at least my cycle getting back in track and I'm going to ovulate soon, BD and been patiently waiting loads of symptoms been testing everyday and stark white if I ovulated when I think I did it's been at least 14 days so a test should show wish I'd just get AF so I can move on

Hopingrae · 18/01/2024 18:29

@mamataylor 11dpo is only 2 days before my AF is due so doesn't feel toooo early... that's how I justify it to myself!

@moosey89 @Nic2908 how are you guys doing in your TWW?

I've had a bit of a tricky week and been so up and down emotionally. Had some difficult family news and I had a panic attack at work which i managed to hide (bloody horrible, only started getting them after DS was born). I'm starting a yoga class tonight and I can't wait, feel like my body and mind needs it!

mamataylor · 18/01/2024 18:20

@Hopingrae oh no way! I can’t remember when I tested with my little girl and it was only 3 years ago 🙈 I didn’t know anything about EWCM, DPO or anything back then! This time is completely different!
Keep me posted!

Hopingrae · 18/01/2024 18:11

@mamataylor that will be good will power! I've always had my bfps at 11dpo... who knows, I might feel differently nearer the time and hold out to see if AF shows up! I'll keep you updated ;)

mamataylor · 18/01/2024 17:59

@Hopingrae aw yay! I’m definitely noticing every niggle too. I think we’re so hyper aware because we really want a bfp!
Last time I waited until the day after my period was due to test so I think I’ll try and do the same again … if I can wait that long!!
I have my fingers crossed for us both that this is our month🤞

Hopingrae · 18/01/2024 16:50

@mamataylor I'm 7dpo too! I've not really had any symptoms, definitely noticing every niggle in my body though! It's funny how we get so tuned in in the TWW! Are you planning on testing soon? I've got a load of Internet cheapies in the house (dangerous) so I'll probably try on Sunday i think if I can hold out till then!

worldwidetravel2017 · 18/01/2024 15:36

mamataylor · 18/01/2024 12:32

Hi ladies, how are we all doing?

im 7dpo (I think, I didn’t track this cycle - just going off my Flo app) and I’ve been getting a ‘heavy’ cramping feeling in my lower abdomen for the last few days and today I have a niggling back ache. I definitely feel like I’m visiting the loo more frequently too 🙈 all symptoms I had when I was pregnant before.

probably wishful thinking right?! 🙈

Sending all the luck

mamataylor · 18/01/2024 12:32

Hi ladies, how are we all doing?

im 7dpo (I think, I didn’t track this cycle - just going off my Flo app) and I’ve been getting a ‘heavy’ cramping feeling in my lower abdomen for the last few days and today I have a niggling back ache. I definitely feel like I’m visiting the loo more frequently too 🙈 all symptoms I had when I was pregnant before.

probably wishful thinking right?! 🙈

worldwidetravel2017 · 16/01/2024 11:58

Hopingrae · 16/01/2024 11:23

@worldwidetravel2017 it's the 2-4 cycle day blood tests which I think is AMH, FSH and thyroid function. DH also having semen analysis through his GP. My GP said she doesn't think tests will show anything as we have been able to conceive quite quickly each time, they're just not sticking. Each miscarriage has been different too, I've had anembryonic, early spontaneous and a missed miscarriage after we'd seen a heartbeat. So they're not following a pattern which makes GP think it's (hopefully, if that is the right word?!) just very bad luck. But I'm glad to be getting the tests done just to get a clearer picture and maybe a bit of control back?!

All makes sense
And so sorry to hear if your loses

Hopingrae · 16/01/2024 11:23

@worldwidetravel2017 it's the 2-4 cycle day blood tests which I think is AMH, FSH and thyroid function. DH also having semen analysis through his GP. My GP said she doesn't think tests will show anything as we have been able to conceive quite quickly each time, they're just not sticking. Each miscarriage has been different too, I've had anembryonic, early spontaneous and a missed miscarriage after we'd seen a heartbeat. So they're not following a pattern which makes GP think it's (hopefully, if that is the right word?!) just very bad luck. But I'm glad to be getting the tests done just to get a clearer picture and maybe a bit of control back?!

Bey · 16/01/2024 11:15

Hopingrae · 16/01/2024 07:29

@bey sorry that you're feeling like this. You're definitely not alone and I'll definitely stick around. I'm currently 5DPO. I don't think we're in with a great shot this month due to timings either.

I spoke to my GP yesterday hoping to get a referral to recurrent miscarriage clinic, she said she can't refer me as my 3 miscarriages are not consecutive (has to be 3 in a row!). But she may be able to refer me to the fertility clinic?! Which is a bit strange, but she said it might be a way in to the miscarriage clinic through the back door!! She is going to do all the bloodtests for me and I've got them booked in for next Friday which feels like something to focus on through the TWW!

You're still in with a chance at 5dpo good luck with the referrals I hope they help

Bey · 16/01/2024 11:14

Thank you @Nic2908 @worldwidetravel2017 and @Hopingrae

i will stick around, as AF has come to an end we will start trying again and I'll enter another TWW from around the 24th January

worldwidetravel2017 · 16/01/2024 10:38

Hopingrae · 16/01/2024 07:29

@bey sorry that you're feeling like this. You're definitely not alone and I'll definitely stick around. I'm currently 5DPO. I don't think we're in with a great shot this month due to timings either.

I spoke to my GP yesterday hoping to get a referral to recurrent miscarriage clinic, she said she can't refer me as my 3 miscarriages are not consecutive (has to be 3 in a row!). But she may be able to refer me to the fertility clinic?! Which is a bit strange, but she said it might be a way in to the miscarriage clinic through the back door!! She is going to do all the bloodtests for me and I've got them booked in for next Friday which feels like something to focus on through the TWW!

Which blood tests are you having ?

Hopingrae · 16/01/2024 07:29

@bey sorry that you're feeling like this. You're definitely not alone and I'll definitely stick around. I'm currently 5DPO. I don't think we're in with a great shot this month due to timings either.

I spoke to my GP yesterday hoping to get a referral to recurrent miscarriage clinic, she said she can't refer me as my 3 miscarriages are not consecutive (has to be 3 in a row!). But she may be able to refer me to the fertility clinic?! Which is a bit strange, but she said it might be a way in to the miscarriage clinic through the back door!! She is going to do all the bloodtests for me and I've got them booked in for next Friday which feels like something to focus on through the TWW!

Nic2908 · 15/01/2024 22:01

@Bey im trying to focus on what my future could be not what it should be if that makes any sense. Im trying to be positive because the alternative wouldn’t hurt anyone but me. Does that make any sense?

Nic2908 · 15/01/2024 21:59

I’m still here. I’m currently 2dpo. I’m already going crazy.

worldwidetravel2017 · 15/01/2024 21:58

Bey · 15/01/2024 21:48

Anyone sticking around this thread for the next cycle? I'm coming towards the end of AF. Anyone else? I'm feeling really low, I just want to be pregnant my heart aches for the little bean we lost and thinking about how they would have been coming this spring/summer.

I just wish I could wave a magic wand and we could all be pregnant, it's so frustrating that it's one thing that we have no control over at all.

My periods just ending
We cant try til march
As i have to have another colonoscopy.
Pregnancy after loss is hard..
Our early miscarriage was 4 months ago

Bey · 15/01/2024 21:48

Anyone sticking around this thread for the next cycle? I'm coming towards the end of AF. Anyone else? I'm feeling really low, I just want to be pregnant my heart aches for the little bean we lost and thinking about how they would have been coming this spring/summer.

I just wish I could wave a magic wand and we could all be pregnant, it's so frustrating that it's one thing that we have no control over at all.

christmasmistletoe · 14/01/2024 18:01

Thank you think the shock of it is still here. Want to be happy and positive but also don’t want to get my hopes up. Fingers crossed for everyone else.

Bey · 14/01/2024 17:47

Congratulations @christmasmistletoe that's incredible. Understand you both feeling nervous. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy

Nic2908 · 14/01/2024 14:38

@christmasmistletoe whooopppeeeee. Congratulations. I can imagine it’s normal to feel how you are. Find the joy and concentrate on that. X

Hopingrae · 14/01/2024 14:15

@christmasmistletoe oh wow, congratulations! Wishing you a healthy and safe early start to your pregnancy! Very understandable that you're feeling nervous, take it one day at a time!

@DiaryOfaTTCer when is your AF due? Not much to report here, I'm 3DPO so just waiting it out for another week!

christmasmistletoe · 14/01/2024 13:34

3 weeks after my miscarriage ended I’m pregnant again. Had been getting very faint lines all week and then did a clear blue digital today. Very excited but nervous after last time. My partner is trying to be excited but he’s also worried and I think wants me to calm down a little as he’s worried.

Anyone ttc in 2024 after loss?