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Anyone ttc in 2024 after loss?

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janey125N · 30/12/2023 20:29

Lost my perfect little baby at the end of October. I was 15 weeks, baby was gone since 13 weeks. Planning to start ttc again in January. I am devastated and finding it hard to cope. Also extremely nervous about being pregnant again. Yet the need to have a living baby in my arms, outweighs the crippling fear. This little baby was my first too.

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Chaz693 · 03/02/2024 15:12

@Gracie1825 oh that's a good idea! I'll do that thank you! X

Gracie1825 · 03/02/2024 15:11

@Chaz693 have you another one and maybe test with water and compare?

Chaz693 · 03/02/2024 14:28

Those that have used easy at home tests. I had to take a pregnancy test yesterday to confirm that I had no more hcg in my body after my miscarriage. I took it and I don't know if I have line eyes but I still feel like there's a very faint line but no colour. Do these test always have a line? Just want to be aware of it for when we actually start trying my next cycle.

Just want to know if I'm going crazy or not lol!

Gracie1825 · 03/02/2024 11:33

Just starting my TWW. Easy@home and clearblue both confirmed LH surge cd 12.but I didn't have ewcm which I normally have so unsure...maybe it's different post miscarriage 🤷

Bey · 02/02/2024 20:32

Thank you @mamataylor so kind of you xx

mamataylor · 02/02/2024 20:30

@Bey You’re absolutely not being stupid! It’s hard to not let ttc consume you, especially when you’re nearing when your period would be due. There’s still time to get a positive test. Keeping everything crossed for you x

Bey · 02/02/2024 20:07

mamataylor · 02/02/2024 16:58

@Bey 9dpo is still sooooo early! You’re not out until af arrives so don’t lose hope yet! I never tested with both my pregnancies until af was late. When are you due? X

Due on the 8th so 6 days early which is what the early detection test says. I know you're right I just want this so desperately (as we all do) that I can't stop testing I know I'm being stupid but it's like a compulsion

mamataylor · 02/02/2024 16:58

@Bey 9dpo is still sooooo early! You’re not out until af arrives so don’t lose hope yet! I never tested with both my pregnancies until af was late. When are you due? X

Bey · 02/02/2024 15:48

9 dpo and BFN 😢 I think that's me out this cycle and honestly devastated I really thought we'd catch this month 😢

mamataylor · 01/02/2024 19:24

@Retailchick neither had I until someone else suggested it on another thread! Fingers crossed for us both. Keep me posted ☺️

I definitely think you should have a couple if it’s something you do socially normally! I’m trying to not let this TTC journey consume every part of my life right now 🙈 it’s hard I know but definitely try and enjoy yourself as you have some lovely events planned by the sounds of it!

Retailchick · 01/02/2024 18:49

@NphysT sorry for your loss. It’s such a rollercoaster…

@mamataylor I’ve never heard of this before but going to give it a go too this month and am at the same point in my cycle as you… 🤞🏼for everyone.

Has everyone stopped drinking alcohol? I have a few big events planned this month (hen party, brunch and a friend’s big birthday) and wondering if I should stop drinking again or enjoy myself and just think what will be will be… not that I won’t enjoy myself if I don’t drink, but i would prefer it if I could just have a few socially because then I don’t feel like I have missed out quite as much if it’s another unsuccessful month - as in I don’t feel like I’ve made a big sacrifice so the disappointment feels a little less prominent if that makes sense?

mamataylor · 01/02/2024 17:36

@worldwidetravel2017 i did think this! I usually get EWCM around that time too but i guess I can’t be sure without ovulation sticks or temping.

worldwidetravel2017 · 01/02/2024 17:24

mamataylor · 01/02/2024 15:56

Hey everyone! I’ve just finished my second period since my miscarriage in November. My cycle was 28 days again so it’s good to know it’s regular like it was before my miscarriage. On CD7 now, due to ovulate on CD14 according to my Flo app. Planning to do ‘The Sperm meets the Egg’ plan this month so will see how we go!

My fingers are crossed for you ladies currently in the TWW 🤞♥️

Flo app isnt always correct

Often good to consider bbt

mamataylor · 01/02/2024 15:56

Hey everyone! I’ve just finished my second period since my miscarriage in November. My cycle was 28 days again so it’s good to know it’s regular like it was before my miscarriage. On CD7 now, due to ovulate on CD14 according to my Flo app. Planning to do ‘The Sperm meets the Egg’ plan this month so will see how we go!

My fingers are crossed for you ladies currently in the TWW 🤞♥️

Figtree11 · 01/02/2024 15:31

@Bey thank you. Fingers crossed for you

Bey · 01/02/2024 15:15

@Figtree11 I just did a cheapy Amazon test it was BFN obviously 🙄 I'm going to try an early response tomorrow at 9dpo

sorry for your loss I hope ovulation arrives soon for you

Figtree11 · 01/02/2024 15:13

Hi everyone, still waiting for ovulation here.
Only had 1 period since my MMC in November, and if I had a normal cycle I would be ovulating around now. But the MC has obviously messed things up a bit, as my ovulation tests aren’t yet showing a peak.
Trying to not stress & obsess over it but it’s proving difficult!

@Bey i can relate to the urge to test. I think once I do ovulate I’m going to try wait til AF is due, as I found that early testing really messed with my head & wasn’t good for me

Bey · 01/02/2024 14:23

Welcome @NphysT so sorry for your loss.

i was getting really obsessed so had some time away from mumsnet. I'm 8dpo now and desperate to test. Anyone know how early a test can detect, I should probably wait until AF is due but I'm desperate to know.

id have been about 4 month along now it hurts, my friend is pregnant and due the same date I was I'm thrilled for her but its a constant reminder of my loss.

how's everyone doing?

NphysT · 28/01/2024 11:00

Hi all, I'd like to join. I was told I had a missed miscarriage last month 2 days after when I had my scan my 12 week scan where baby was moving and had a heartbeat. Miscarriage itself didn't happen until 2 weeks ago so 3 weeks after I was told baby no longer had a heartbeat so when I would have been 15 weeks. This was my 1st pregnancy.

We're not planning to try again till July because of my SIL wedding abroad and not wanting to risk another miscarriage abroad. Although part of me does want to try now but husband is worried about me going through this again before or during the wedding.

Have started taking the following vitamins as I have pcos: myoinositol, vitamin d high strength, coq10, n-acetylcysteine, alpha lipoic acid, folic acid and a pre-natal vitamin.
About 3 months before we start ttc husband will be taking the coq10 and n-acetylcysteine too.

mamataylor · 26/01/2024 19:21

@worldwidetravel2017 good to know! Thank you x

worldwidetravel2017 · 26/01/2024 18:46

Figtree11 · 24/01/2024 14:17

I’m in my first cycle of trying to conceive since my MMC. Currently tracking when I will ovulate, and taking seven seas trying for a baby vitamin, along with some extra vitamin D. Wondering if I need to start cutting back on caffeine too

Def good to cut back of caffeine

They do caffeine free coke

worldwidetravel2017 · 26/01/2024 18:45

DiaryOfaTTCer · 25/01/2024 22:18

I've just started taking coq10 (expensive) plus a seven seas pre pregnancy multi vitamin and vitamin c

The coq10 is meant to help with egg quality I believe

Yep coq10 does

worldwidetravel2017 · 26/01/2024 18:45

mamataylor · 26/01/2024 15:41

AF has arrived this afternoon right on time 🙃 I’m grateful that my cycles are so regular but I’m absolutely gutted. This is the first month I’ve really let it affect me.
Moving into next month I’m thinking I may start using Ovulation Sticks.. do you ladies recommend a particular brand & how do you use them? This is new to me!! Previously we just DTD every 2-3 days!

The 4 gbp ish ones off Amazon do the trick - green Pack

Use them am and pm straight after your period

mamataylor · 26/01/2024 15:41

AF has arrived this afternoon right on time 🙃 I’m grateful that my cycles are so regular but I’m absolutely gutted. This is the first month I’ve really let it affect me.
Moving into next month I’m thinking I may start using Ovulation Sticks.. do you ladies recommend a particular brand & how do you use them? This is new to me!! Previously we just DTD every 2-3 days!

DiaryOfaTTCer · 25/01/2024 22:18

Chaz693 · 22/01/2024 21:01

Ladies what vitamins or prenatals are you taking to help you conceive? I'm a little lost been 5 years since I was last ttcing so alot has changed.

I've just started taking coq10 (expensive) plus a seven seas pre pregnancy multi vitamin and vitamin c

The coq10 is meant to help with egg quality I believe

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