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9dpo opinions please!

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MissEmily5 · 18/12/2023 19:30

Hello!
I’m currently 9dpo and having a bit a wobble- I keep flitting between hopeful to sad very quickly today. I think I just need some opinions from people who don’t know me and who aren’t just going to say ‘Hopefully’ or ‘fingers crossed’ (which is very sweet but I just need something more than that.

I’m 28, and me and my husband are on cycle 5 of TTC. This month I’ve been using OPKs and BBT. Currently on CD24 which is 9dpo for me- got my static smiley with my ovulation test on CD15 in the morning. We DTD every other day from CD6 up to CD19 so should be plenty of sperm up there to meet the egg!
I was concerned that I wasn’t actually ovulating despite getting a positive OPK so that’s why I started BBT (at first this was a bit of a struggle but I think I’ve got the hang of it now). My ovulation was confirmed on CD6 (one day I had to disregard my temp as I woke up slightly but didn’t temp straight away and temped an hour later when my alarm went off). My BBT has only had one dip on CD2 under the base line but have been quite zig zag like and not showing that upward curve that I would like to indicate pregnancy- I’ll attach a photo below incase we have the BBT experts out there!

My CM has been a mixture of watery and creamy, but I’ve really noticed the watery CM when I actively check and only the creamy CM once it has dried in my pants (often a cream/yellow colour). However, today on CD9 I have started to spot- it mainly is watery CM with a pink tinge- happened this morning with my first morning wee, then had a small amount mid day but my pants had creamy discharge with a slight browny colouring and then tonight I had the same watery discharge with a pink tinge. I have attached some pictures- sorry in advance for TMI or if it’s too graphic.
Picture info-

  • up close image on toilet paper was taken AM on CD9
  • picture of pants was taken mid day
  • toilet paper further away was taken PM on CD9

I would have been excited for this as it could possibly be implantation bleeding but last month I had a very similar experience (spotting started with a mixture of watery and creamy CM from CD23 and continued until CD27 to which it ended in my period).

I did also test this morning and received a BFN. I guess I’m just looking for any happily ever after who had similar situations to me or anyone with experience similar to mine. I think with the mixture of BBT and CM checking I already feel out at just 9dpo which I know is still early.

Might be worth mentioning that When I started to bleed today I thought it was game over so tried to put it out of my mind but me and my OH had sex and no trace of spotting on him or me afterwards. Plus cramps, if that’s what you can even call them has been minimal.

This TTC m’larky is so exhausting, you think it’ll be easy (I always said to people it could take a long while but I hoped deep down it would be super easy) and it’s like one thing after the next in terms of worry. First it’s the worry that you’ll get that positive OPK, then it’s the worry that if you’ll actually ovulate and get the temps to confirm it, not to mention having enough sex (whilst trying not to put too much pressure on you or your OH) and then it’s checking if your CM is right and so on and so on.
My Nan, who knows we’re TTC, said it’s any wonder anyone got pregnant back when she had her babies 😂
Just hope everyone is taking care of themselves whilst on this should be magical journey and wishing baby dust to you all!

Also, thank you for reading my long ramble and taking the time to reply! X

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MissEmily5 · 21/12/2023 17:39

@jenkh91 I really hope it’s just the finishing up of implantation bleeding for you. I think I’m in a similar situation- had a bit of brown spotting again but mixed with creamy CM this morning but nothing since. Some twinges again, feel quite odd really- very tired, got a headache and very sore boobs! But I really do think AF is on her way 😔

Yes I agree, plus gives us a bit of chance to save up for it!

Aye, I would- you never know it could give you that extra something to get that BFP😌

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jenkh91 · 21/12/2023 13:59

@MissEmily5 not much at all and it’s still only a tiny amount, not even enough for a pad, but think it’s slowly getting a little bit more.

I Feel like this is sounding really promising on your side right now, really crossing everything you succeed this month!

yep I think it’s a sensible idea, even just knowing there’s a plan in place might make you feel more relaxed.

oh this is good to hear, we’ll defo have to try it next month!

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MissEmily5 · 20/12/2023 15:25

@4LeafCloverBaby thank you my dear! What point are you at now and how you feeling about it all? 😌

@jenkh91 sounds like we’re having pretty identical journeys at this point 😂 how much blood did you have last night?

Ive just checked and nothing in my pants but when I get a tissue and wipe around a bit I’ve now got more browny coloured watery discharge (sorry probably TMI), only thing that has confused me if that I don’t have any cramps just very bloated and feel full/gassy and every now and again a twinge🤔 trying to think back/look back at my apps for the symptoms if this is my average at this point because of course I can’t remember now I’m having them 😂

I’m the same as you in terms of not being able to face going to the GP at the year mark, seems far too daunting and almost like too little too late in my mind. I’ll have to have a chat with OH tonight about a time frame for us to take the plunge.

I actually started using conceive plus lube this cycle and we love it! You hardly need anything and I think it can’t be doing any harm, in fact it could be helping. It’s not too expensive either- we did get pressed last month off Amazon, much more fiddly and also, after a couple of uses I realised it was out of date!! Not happy at all and worried a lot if it affected our chances that month.

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jenkh91 · 20/12/2023 13:18

@MissEmily5 its defo the hope that’s a killer! Because once AF starts I feel disappointed but then ok and ready to start the next month!

AF started a bit for me last night, it’s gone again but cramps still here so I’m certain it’s coming. Fingers crossed for you this month though!

@4LeafCloverBaby I think that’s a good idea, more for peace of mind than anything, and then like you say, if they find something wrong then it can be sorted asap! I think I will give it another 2 months, so I’m at the 6 month mark and then do the same, not sure I could wait a whole year and then have to deal with the process of going through the GP.

Even though I know 4 or 5 months is not a long time at all, it feels like a lifetime doesn’t it!

Have either of you tried the conception proof lube? My SIL recommended it, said they were trying for a year and then the month they used it they got pregnant, so thinking of giving it a go…although not sure if it’s just a scam to sell expensive lube 😂

4LeafCloverBaby · 20/12/2023 12:13

Oh hunny, I have everything crossed for you! 🍀🤞🏼 I would defo do it as soon as possible? That way if they find something that can be improved you can crack on with it 😊 x

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MissEmily5 · 20/12/2023 11:36

@4LeafCloverBaby thank you for the information. Definitely something to consider for the new year.
I started spotting again this morning- more bright red in colour, once I saw it in the toilet and then only when I wiped. But no more since and hopefully no more anymore! Trying to stay positive but it’s very highly doubtful and I’m 99.9% sure we’ll be entering into month 6.
I think me and my OH will need to probably set ourselves a time in which we’ll consider going for a fertility MOT. I don’t really want to wait another 6months to hit the year mark before checking- don’t think it’ll help either of our sanity's😂 x

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4LeafCloverBaby · 19/12/2023 19:07

@MissEmily5 yes I went private as I hadn’t started trying yet. I paid £395 to have the fertility MOT, didn’t get my partner done as he already has children. But if you get it done as a couple it’s not too much more. They did an internal ultrasound to see what the condition of the uterus walls are like & also to count your follicles & they can tell you if there are any cysts or abnormalities. Then the do your bloods & will tell you your levels which gives an indication of how good your egg reserve is for your age. It really put my mind at ease that there was nothing wrong & if I didn’t fall it was just the fact that I wasn’t lucky that cycle. Would definitely recommend 👌🏼

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MissEmily5 · 19/12/2023 18:02

@4LeafCloverBaby hi again!
hope you’re well :)
we haven’t yet no, I said to my OH that if we’re not lucky this month I’ll be contacting doctors. Just don’t want them to completely disregard us because we’ve only been trying what will be 6 months and we’re both under the age of 35.
Did you go private for this? :)

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4LeafCloverBaby · 19/12/2023 17:40

@MissEmily5 hey 👋🏼 have you been & had a fertility MOT to make sure their aren’t any issues. Definitely helped me 😊 x

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MissEmily5 · 19/12/2023 15:28

@jenkh91 It’s that little bit of hope that is the kicker every time- even now for me I can’t help that small glimmer of what if, which I know is going to definitely kick my arse with AF comes… what’s worst is I’m hosting on Christmas Eve (the date of my expected period) and then Boxing day I’m seeing my cousins, one of which got pregnant first time trying and it’ll be all anyone can talk about- not sure how to keep a happy face when the idea of month 6 of TTC will be looming large!

God it’s annoying isn’t it! I’m sick of googling every little thing, like you said it’s probably very normal/average to have these ‘symptoms’, wish I kept a detailed record of how I felt before starting TTC.

Well here’s hoping it’s our month truly and we go to into 2024 with a little extra something 👶

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jenkh91 · 19/12/2023 10:49

@MissEmily5 i know, when we first started this I was under no illusion that it would happen right away, but you still have a little hope that you’ll be lucky don’t you! It’s mentally draining, I don’t know how people do it!

Yh, it also is showing me that I really do have sore boobs and cramps on and off basically from ovulation until AF, I guess when we aren’t thinking about it we just get on with it and ignore 😂

Yh I was thinking the same, would be a nice little Christmas pressie but never mind. I think I’m same as you, I’m being pessimistic so I don’t get my hopes up

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MissEmily5 · 18/12/2023 20:51

@jenkh91 sorry to hear you’re going through a similar experience- although both of us aren’t on particularly long TTC journeys it really takes it a toll doesn’t it!

I really know what you mean by your cycles/periods are tricking you- I’ve never really noticed/recorded the spotting before TTC, but like you said it’s probably because we just haven’t noticed it 🙈😂

I’m not sure if I’d say you’re out as I think a lot of women get period like cramps before getting their BFP which I really is the case for you!
Although, I’m now at the stage when I’m just going to think as though it’s another negative cycle just so I don’t get my hopes up! Would have been nice to get a BFP in time for Christmas- I’m due on Christmas Eve!

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jenkh91 · 18/12/2023 20:11

Hey @MissEmily5 sorry I can’t give you the answer you are hoping for as I am clueless, but just reading your post I felt like I could have written it (only difference is I am 32 and on cycle 4). The fact it has gone away again does sound promising though, when is AF due?

Since we started ttc I really think my periods are playing tricks on me, I know we are more likely to notice symptoms when we are looking out for them, but last couple of months I have had spotting up to 5/6 days before my period and I’ve never had that before.

im currently 9 or 10 DPO too but this afternoon have started getting usual period cramps so I think I’m out! 😩

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