9dpo opinions please!

@MissEmily5 thank you 💜 I am not particularly hopeful for the embryo we are about to transfer but you never know, but feeling more hopeful for our second round which we would go for if this last embryo doesn’t stick.

I am so so happy to read your news though! Congratulations, it’s lovely to hear, I hope you and your little girl are doing well 💜

Oh @jenkh91 , I'm sorry to hear that you've continued to have troubles. I read the thread and was rooting for you both.

I'm on cycle 3 of attempt 2 for baby 4. I have PCOS and hadn't had a period for over a year, along with mostly anovulatory cycles prior to the past 3 cycles. But my last 'period' was in fact a proper one, so I'm hoping to have some luck soon, but again, aren't we all.

I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I hope your embryo is a sticky one for your next attempt 🫶🏻

Hi @TTCbaby4 ☺️ I’m afraid no happy ending for me yet! I started ivf in January last year, first transfer failed, second one worked but miscarried at 7 weeks and the 3rd failed. The last one was back in September and since then we’ve done some extra tests (but found nothing) which took foreverrrr because we are with NHS. We have one embryo left from this cycle so actually will be starting meds for that in a couple of weeks, not holding out too much hope but you never know!
where are you in your journey?

@jenkh91 and @MissEmily5 .. Did either of you ever conceive naturally or at all? I'd love to know there was a happy ending to this for you both.

Hey @MissEmily5 also still on this shitty journey sadly.

just started tww but tbh I have totally given up hope that it will happen naturally.

last cycle was the first month taking the progesterone pessaries from ovulation, it totally stopped any spotting so I just had to take a test on the day AF was due and it was negative (of course) so stopped taking it and AF came a couple of days later. Although I have to say I felt absolutely awful for about a week, not sure if it was a coincidence and I was just ill, but guess I will see again this cycle.

any news on your appointment yet?

last week I still hadn't heard so I followed up and they called me and we had an appointment last week, so it all happened very suddenly - so defo give it a chase if you haven’t heard?

But the Dr was so lovely and it seems we are in a good trust so that is lucky. I have to have a few more tests when my next cycle starts but so long as everything is ok with that it would be moving forward with IVF since they said they wouldn’t recommend anything else. Not sure how I feel about it, in a way it’s totally overwhelming and I can’t believe it’s coming to this, but on the other hand I feel good that we can sort of relax for the rest of the year knowing that we have this plan in place for the new year - so just got to wait and see now and pray that it maybe happens naturally in the meantime!

Hope you are doing ok all things considered

Hey @MissEmily5 sorry you are feeling overwhelmed by it all, it is exhausting and a lot mentally.

i think not using opks and staying off here more is definitely a good shout, i am trying to do the same but failing!

oh ffs that’s so annoying, hopefully it suddenly picks up for you.

i had an email from the referral asking for some info and availability in October/november so hoping to get an appointment through for then.

i also went to private clinic when AF arrived last time, had a hycosy today which I found so painful!! But glad it’s done. I’ve also been given progesterone pessaries to take from after ovulation so happy to give them a try.

Did you still ttc the month you had your hycosy? On the form I read today said they advise to not try to conceive this cycle - but I have friends who had a hycosy and where told they could, so a bit confused!

omg sorry 😂 I think my brain just malfunctioned - thought I saw a notification and so responded to your message only to post it and see I already responded! Please ignore me!

Hope you’re doing ok!

Hey @MissEmily5 sorry to hear AF came, how you feeling about it all?

can’t believe they hadn’t even made the referral, I know they are only human but why is it always so hard and such a fight?! It’s exhausting. Has it all gone through now?

well the GP hasn’t specifically said that but I guess so since they have found nothing wrong with either of us! Although wondering / hoping the clinic will do more investigations. Still haven’t received any call from the clinic yet, but the referral says to call them directly if I haven’t heard by 2nd October, so not long to wait.

I have no idea why but this month I have been feeling really positive, and over the past few days I’ve just had a ‘feeling’ but then today the usual cramps have started so I am back down to earth just waiting for AF to coming in a few day 😫

Hey @MissEmily5 sorry to hear period arrived for you, hope you are taking it easy.

I can’t believe the referral hadnt been made! That happened with my scan actually, but I can see in my NHS app that my referral is there and ‘pending’ so think it might be a long wait.

Have you been given any indication of how long the wait might be?

i can imagine it being overwhelming, I’m at the point where I’m trying to ignore everything for a little while and just focus on looking after myself (which includes booking a holiday!) but it helps that I’m in the middle of my cycle, by the time we reach the last week of cycle it will be a different story I’m sure 😂

well she didn’t say the words unexplained infertility, I am guessing she is maybe leaving that for the fertility clinic to say? Not really sure what to expect from the referral, wondering if they will just do a load of tests again!

Hey @MissEmily5!
I don’t blame you at all, it’s a lot isn’t it!
no good news from my side either, I was originally a cycle or so behind you but think I must have caught up as I’ve also officially hit month 12. I actually found it really hard hitting 12 months and felt so down about it all, but weirdly now I feel much more relaxed and positive about it!

even though you haven’t had your BFP yet, it’s still really great news that your lining and husbands SA is much better! It’s scary but also good you’re on the list, and hopefully you will fall into the trend of couples who get pregnant naturally just before they are about to start IVF! But either way, at least you are making progress.

i managed to have my scan eventually and had follow up with GP a couple of weeks ago - everything looks normal apparently, so she referred me to infertility clinic, so now is just a waiting game!

@MissEmily5 oh ouch! But at least it’s done now. Great news about your lining! Must be nice to at least feel like there’s some progress there! How you getting on this month?

AF turned up 2 days late for me, so on to next month and just approaching fertile window again now.

still no news on my scan, I did follow up and they said it might just take some time so I guess I need to be patient.

already feeling like it’s not going to happen this month, another friend has announced she is pregnant and I feel like announcements are everywhere at the minute!

@MissEmily5 i think even just not being so religious with it helps doesn’t it. When is your hycosy? Wishing you all the best for it!

I’ve definitely felt more relaxed this month up until yesterday, think AF is due Thursday, so far no spotting YET but I stupidly did a test this morning and was negative, I knew I shouldn’t do it because I didn’t test so don’t even know how many dpo I am but I couldn’t resist.

i was supposed to also have a scan but haven’t had a phone call to book that in yet, so chased the GP and hoping she will come back to me this week and will also be able to let me know about bloods. Yh I know what you mean, you want there to be a reason why it’s not happened that can be easily fixed but also you don’t want anything to be wrong.

@MissEmily5 keeping everything crossed the hycosy helps, like you say, at least you can feel like you are doing something!

Yh I’m the same, felt good not to test but also means I have no idea if we missed the peak time, especially since I was away for a few days. But I’ve already resigned myself to this month not being the one and think next month I won’t test either but will just dtd every other day for a couple of weeks.

I also have blood tests tomorrow so hoping maybe something comes of that!

im just tired of feeling like I’m living month to month!

Hey@MissEmily5 how are you getting on?

i knowww, really hoping we get our BFPs soon, i really can’t believe it’s pretty much been a year already, i really didn’t think it would take this long!

think the hycosy sounds like a great idea, at least it will make you feel proactive, and fingers crossed it might help!

I haven’t done any testing this month, so not sure exactly but think I’m a couple days post ovulation. Didnt get to dtd as much as would have liked but never mind!

@MissEmily5 yes defo a relief!

no sadly AF came! Was spotting for like 4 days before it this month so I’m interested to see what bloods say.

got them booked for day 21 which is still couple of weeks away so just a waiting game.

also think this month won’t happen for us because I’m away for a the few days leading up to ovulation which is annoying, but I’m not going to do any testing and just go for it the few days before I go away and then when I’m back and keep fingers crossed!

Even though it’s good to hear that things are normal, it’s also a little frustrating isn’t it because it doesn’t give you answers. That’s very frustrating to not hear anything from docs, I feel it’s a total lottery on who your GP is and what they are like.

thats good news about the hycosy, is that through NHS or private? I’ve heard a lot of good things about it! It’s at least another step forward isn’t it