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Desperate for baby but wedding in 8 months!! Advice please…

29 replies

stickytoffee95 · 18/12/2023 19:24

Hi ladies! Me and my fiancé are desperate for a baby and have been for a while, we are getting married in August next year. We have been waiting due to the wedding but would literally try now if that wasn’t the case! If we waited until the wedding to TTC it could be another 2 years until we have a baby! I wouldn’t want to be too far on at the wedding (due to my dress) - ideally between 12-16 weeks so that hopefully I’m not showing TOO much to be able to fit in my dress. I am currently on the IUD Mirena so was thinking of taking it out end of March/beginning of April. Not drinking at the wedding not an issue for me but I am worrying about being in the first trimester at the wedding and having lots of symptoms or potentially miscarrying in weeks leading up to it and how that could emotionally affect me. My Mum and a couple of cousins have had miscarriages. Do you have any advice? Xxx

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heldinadream · 18/12/2023 19:30

How old are you? Because if you're 22 and desperate you can wait, but if you're 38 and desperate you should crack on.

Whataretheodds · 18/12/2023 19:30

What's more important to you, a baby or a dress?

I had 2 MCs and am now halfway through 3rd trimester. I would struggled to do a wedding in the 1st trimester, bee. Fine if the 2nd, and been OK but a bit more tired in the 3rd. Boobs got massive early, quickly followed by bloating so I would have struggled fitting into something in the 1st tri, never mind 2nd and 3rd.
1st MC involved a hospital stay. 2nd I bled for a couple of weeks after MVA.

How old are you both? You can't know how long it will take or whether it will be successful first time. Why wait?

inomniaparatis · 18/12/2023 19:30

How old are you OP? Are there any issues like PCOS that might make TTC trickier? Assuming you're relatively young and no other issues, I'd probably just wait the 8 months but start taking folic acid and be ready to ttc straight after the wedding. If other factors are at play however, you might want to start sooner. What does your DP think?

kimchio · 18/12/2023 19:26

Have a small wedding at the registry office as soon as possible and crack on

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