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Gwat · Today 21:05
Hi. This is my first post here. I have joined tonight because I am in need of advice.
A few weeks ago, my son met a girl on Tinder. They had a few dates and on Saturday 4th November he stayed at her home for 2 nights.
On 18th November, the girl called my son and told him she was pregnant. She showed him a test that showed 2 (very dark) lines.
He told me on Monday 20th. Believe me, I fully expressed my disappointment and tbh, disgust at him having unprotected sex. I have raised him better than that and always tried to drum it into him.
I was shocked that this has all happened so quickly and couldn’t wrap my head around it. Obviously I know that you can get a positive result after 2 weeks and from the first day of your missed period but something felt off. Maybe I was being hopeful that it wasn’t my sons… I don’t know. I don’t know how to react in this situation.
I thought it would be the right thing to do, to meet with the girl and her mum. I didn’t want them thinking that I wasn’t bothering and of course, I had questions of my own to ask.
So we met yesterday (Thursday 23rd November). I really wanted to create a civil friendship as conflict is the last thing I need or want. After this past year, and what we’ve been through as a family, peace is the only thing I welcome.
The first thing the mother said to me was “when I found out, I was fuming with your son. FUMING!!” I had to bite my lip with that line!
I went on to ask the girl how far along she thinks she is then… She looked at me dead in the eye and said “I done a clearblue test and it said pregnant - 3+ weeks.”
When I left, I spoke to my friends and said to them. I don’t get this. How can she be 3+ weeks when the 4th November was only 2 weeks and 5 days ago? 3+ weeks means more than 3 weeks.
My friend said “yes but when you find out your pregnant and go to the doctor you’re considered 4 weeks pregnant as obviously it starts from the first day of your last period.”
My head was such a mess I just accepted it and went to bed.
My cousin who is a midwife called me today and we chatted about the same thing. She told me to google for myself what the clearblue result means. So I did, and it’s as follows:
If the test result is 'Pregnant 3+", this indicates that conception occurred more than 3 weeks ago.
They hadn’t slept together over 3 weeks ago?! The weekend they spent together was 18/19 days ago. Thats not even 3 weeks let alone more than 3 weeks. I checked on clearblue and it only goes up to 3+ weeks. That means it could be 4 right?
I’m very confused here. Please help. 🙏🏻