Broody at 43--am I bonkers?

Cor, that was quick! Congratulations decafArabica!

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Arabica ... you're pregnant ????

are you??? or am I misreading???

As you can see, I have had to change my name!!! Yippeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Well, naturally people had babies in their forties in the past - we haven't changed our essential biology and lots of people are naturally fertile into their forties (like me!) - in fact one study showed that 70% of women are still fertile at 40. Before reliable contraception having 'late' babies would have been unavoidable for many whether they wanted it or not. BTW Susan Sarandon had her two sons at 43 and 46.

Have just found out (as MIL is here for Christmas and we got talking about families, as you do) that my DH's maternal grandmother had his mother (my MIL - still with me?!) at 38 then her sister (my DH's aunt) at 41 - and this was back in the late 1930s!!!!!

There's hope for us all!!!

got ds, 4 y, to count to 9; jan,feb, march....september...
anyway, let's see whether it happenes this year or next...

Is it,as mentioned before, we also only just made the decision to have a go at it...., but I was still thinking august??? Have also been thinking about school etc,....

I opted to have all my antenatal care at Kings, not at my GP's surgery and it's all gone swimmingly so far.

At my antenatal appointments I'm the only one who has mentioned my age! I say things like, 'well, at my age...' and they look baffled and startled and riffle at my notes and say, 'How old are you anyway?" I told the obstetrician that I wasn't likely to have any more children as this was my second and I was 41 blah blah, and she laughed and said something like, "Oh, you say that now, but you'd be surprised how many people change their minds" as if I had all the time in the world. It really has NOT been an issue at all.
As for lack of money etc, well, we're like you, always likely to be skint. Dh's job is badly paid and we have no savings etc, but things tend to be OK in the end. Teaching is a great career and as secure as you like - plus you have holidays (OK teachers, not saying it's easy just secure!)

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I'm 40 in 6 weeks (aaaagh!) and have been ttc no. 3 for 6 months. We are hopeful of success eventually and our ages (dh is almost 42) do not put us off at all. We're both fit-ish and healthy and can afford it and would love a little playmate for our gorgeous ds and dd.

Wishing you all the best,

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(and a Happy White Christmas!)

I find this thread truly inspiring. I'm 39 and hoping for one more. Would really like another 3 but that's unlikely unless I can turn back time. Need IVF for male factor reasons which makes it a bit limiting but fingers crossed that we'll have another one. I have a very good friend who had her first baby at 45 and a trouble free pregnancy and birth. So I don't think 43 is bonkers at all. Dh's great aunt had 3 children when aged 41 - 46 and that was back in the 1940s. And she lived to be 100.

As an aside, I had my scans at King's too and can't praise them enough. Nothing was mentioned about my age at all. I would go into debt to have scans at King's privately or at the Fetal Medicine Centre. It is a great shame that all pregnant women do not receive the same level of service.

Do you know until I read this I really thought around 40 was the upper limit. I'm gonna breed like mad now. Reckon I've got time for about 6 with a few rests in between.

Was Cherie really 46? And a QC too, makes you feel such a failure doesn't it.

Congratulations Teatime and good luck Arabica! Frosty, I'm at Kings and I think older mothers are pretty common in my patch of SE London. Can't remember my actual 'risk factor' but do know that the nuchal fold measurement put me at the bottom end of risk. I think after the 20 week scan I was given something like 1 in 800andsomething and the professor said that if there was a problem with my baby, it was more likely to be something they couldn't diagnose than Downs Syndrome, and that wasn't likely either.

Ditto! You go for it, Arabica! - for your own sake and for mine

well, good to hear about the experiences of others, feel a bit less mad...anyway, if it happens soon will still be only41....

Arabica - I'm sorry if I've worried you about the testing, it sounds like what I was told isn't necessarily the case.

I'm in the same boat as you - house and income too small to have another, the thought of weeks of throwing up with a toddler to contend with, all sorts of reasons not to really - but some days I would like another (other days definitely not). If I was much younger I would probably leave it until dd is older then have another, but time is against us.

Discussed it with dh yesterday and put it to him that if there were no reasons against what would he think - he announces that he would like a son!

Absolutely arabica. Have a robusta good time. Am another Mner who REFUSES to believe that 43 is your real age. I had you down for 10 years younger tops!
Hoped TeaTime would spot your thread. Congratulations Teatime!

Well, all that remains is to wish you a very happy (fnar fnar) Christmas