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Broody at 43--am I bonkers?

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Arabica · 19/12/2004 13:48

I had DS when I was 39 (no problems conceiving--got pregnant second month we tried). Until recently, I've felt ambivalent about a second child. But right now am feeling mega-broody!

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jeddah · 21/03/2005 16:49

marinda I have posted you on the ttc thread!

iota · 21/03/2005 12:30

Oh very sorry - posted this on the wrong one

iota · 21/03/2005 12:29

and another thread here

kama · 25/02/2005 19:52

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DecafArabica · 25/02/2005 13:57

Would you mind if I asked you not to use this thread any more? I was broody, I got pg, I had a miscarriage, the memories are too raw. Please, please, please don't feel bad, you weren't to know...
Here's a recent thread about being an older mother

kama · 25/02/2005 13:30

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jabberwocky · 16/01/2005 00:23

Just found this thread - Congrats Arabica! I'm 40 in March so that should qualify me for the club, yes? I've been broody the last few months but am soooo worried about getting Bell's Palsy again with another pregnancy. Anyone had any experience with that?

DecafArabica · 15/01/2005 23:46

Yes, let's have an older mums club, aka 'old up the duff-ers'

marinda · 15/01/2005 20:59

Right that's two votes - so will do it - watch this space !

romilly · 15/01/2005 17:05

marinda - u've got my vote - but only if u dont call it old duffers or crusties - call it something cool

JanH · 14/01/2005 14:43
Smile
Tinker · 14/01/2005 14:39

Why, thank you Mrs H. You've made my day now

JanH · 14/01/2005 14:18

Tinker!

You may be an up the duffer but you are not old!

Tinker · 14/01/2005 13:55

I'm an old up the duffer.

hester · 14/01/2005 13:54

Go for it, marinda!

marinda · 13/01/2005 21:05

Decaf - where are you any new !!!!!
I am happy to start an old duffers thread like someone suggested if I can get a few votes !

aloha · 11/01/2005 17:16

At 39 if you wanted a cvs or amnio you would almost certainly be offered them without a second thought. I think CVS is preferable simply because it is earlier.

noddyholder · 11/01/2005 16:50

thanks both of you this has helped a lot so if the nuchal fold test lowers my risk then i wouldn't be offered further tests and if it raised it I would I am terrified of coming across as a terrible person on here but just feel i couldn't cope with a special needs child although who knows?

aloha · 11/01/2005 16:40

BTW, at Kings they don't offer blood tests anymore, just the nuchal as they believe it to be more reliable.

aloha · 11/01/2005 16:39

You can have the nuchal fold at 11weeks and/or go straight to cvs if you are worried by the results and have results in 72 hours, certainly at Kings.
No, not long now. Feeling large and baby very wriggly!

Eulalia · 11/01/2005 16:37

Posts crossed. Not long for you aloha....

Eulalia · 11/01/2005 16:36

noddy - you get a screening test which is a blood test done at 15/16 weeks and tells you your chances of having a Down's baby. Depending on the results you can have a further scan and/or amniocentisis which has a 1% chance of miscarriage although my midwife told me it was more like 0.5%. It is all explained v carefully and you get a leaflet. The thing that I'd find hard is that by the time all the results of these tests come through you'd be about 20 weeks, awfully late to consider a termination (in my opinion anyway). But, no need to assume that because you are older that your chances of Down's are going to be significantly higher. Good luck.

aloha · 11/01/2005 16:34

Congratulations Eulalia!

Noddy, it is very normal for your risk to be adjusted downwards quite dramatically after your nuchal fold test.

aloha · 11/01/2005 16:33

Noddy, your statistical risk is about one in 135 - ie you have a less than 1% chance of your baby having Down Syndrome, and more than a 99% chance of a baby without it. Depending on where you are you will probably be offered a nuchal fold test, which measures a small area of fat at the back of the foetus's neck, which can be a marker for DS. This happens between 10 and 14 weeks-ish. If the risk is increased and this worries you then you will be offered a cvs - similar to an amnio - at this stage or an amnio later on. According to the consultants I saw at Kings, they both carry the same risk of causing miscarriage - around 1% - though the more experienced and practised the person carrying it out, the less likely a m/c is. And remember, although the chance of DS rises with age, 70% of all babies with DS are born to younger women - it's not exclusive to us older mothers by any means. Having a baby at any age involves a gamble.
My baby is due 7 Feb. I have not been treated any differently either, I'm glad to say. And I've been very healthy throughout.

Eulalia · 11/01/2005 16:27

noddy - I am 39 and 11 weeks pregnant. At the midwives appointment I wasn't treated any differently to earlier pregnancies. No extra tests. Just told that Downs was a higher risk as aloha says. When is your baby due aloha?

I didn't know that about miscarriage though. What is worrying me is twins but will find out on Friday at the scan.