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TTC after ectopic/after loss/older age etc ALL WELCOME 🙂

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YellowZ · 11/11/2023 17:25

Hello,

Would anyone like to join a thread for TTC after ectopic/miscarriage, or when facing other challenges eg age, PCOS etc? DP and I have just decided to try again for no2, and I'm going to come off the pill. It would be nice to have some buddies to share experiences and support each other 🙂

About me:

Pregnancy 1: conceived first cycle age 35, healthy pregnancy, DS born summer 2021 (now age 2)

Pregnancy 2: conceived first cycle age 37, ectopic, surgery November 2022

My plan is to eat well, exercise, cut out alcohol, and generally look after myself.

Because I got pregnant quickly both times, I'm hoping our chances are still good...no idea how only having the one fallopian tube is going to affect things 😬

I think I'll do OPKs but not sure about temping yet.

Would love to hear from others!

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MrsB2019x · 17/02/2024 15:53

Tentative congratulations @Bumblesbee84 🩷 are you under any care for multiple miscarriages? Hopefully someone will be able to help you. Praying this little one sticks!
I’m doing okay thank you, 11+3 today and have my dating scan next Thursday. Feeling very un-pregnant at the moment which is making me feel a bit anxious but trying to be rational!

Bumblesbee84 · 17/02/2024 15:36

@CurlyWurly1991 funnily enough I've actually had awful headaches around 8 and 9dpo this cycle. How are you getting on?

Bumblesbee84 · 17/02/2024 15:34

@MrsB2019x how are you doing? Hope everything still progressing well for you?
I've been having a break from MN for a little while. Hopefully some positive news from me, I'm 11dpo today and got a faint positive on IC yesterday and bfp 1-2 weeks on digital today. This will be my 5th pregnancy (with one gorgeous DS to show for them), I'm feeling fairly terrified overall. I'm not even sure about early scans as don't think I can face them again after MMC last time. I know I can only go one day at a time so will see how I feel in a few weeks if pregnancy continues.

MrsB2019x · 17/02/2024 13:18

How’s everyone doing? 🧡

CurlyWurly1991 · 15/02/2024 11:14

Hey has anyone else had different TWW symptoms following a MC? I’m about 8dpo and have had a banging headache for the last couple of days and light spotting since 6dpo. Under no illusions that I’m pregnant as only dtd onxe and have had AF cramps. The headache is unusual for me and usually don’t spot until closer to AF. I temp so I’m fairly sure of my ovulation date. Anyone experienced something similar?

MyselfWho · 12/02/2024 23:03

Hi can I join too please!
I'm 35 and have been TTC for about 9 months. Had an early miscarriage the first cycle then nothing til last month where I had another loss at 5-6 weeks.

It's hard not to feel absolutely gutted. My little boy is 6 and was a first time lucky pregnancy. I didn't expect to be so lucky again but to keep seeing negative tests, or to watch the positives get fainter and disappear is really rubbish. AF due tomorrow and I'm testing negative so looks like another month gone 😭

Ella31 · 12/02/2024 18:51

YellowZ · 12/02/2024 17:18

That's really good about your luteal phase @Ella31 hopefully that will help next month.

@MrsB2019x mine is at 11.30am. Counting down the days now...

That's fab, ladies. Looking forward to your updates.

YellowZ · 12/02/2024 17:18

That's really good about your luteal phase @Ella31 hopefully that will help next month.

@MrsB2019x mine is at 11.30am. Counting down the days now...

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Room4onemore · 12/02/2024 13:43

Hi everyone, hope you’re all doing ok. I will catch up on the posts later. I would be due my depo injection on Friday so I hope it doesn’t take too long for my periods to return so I can use my ovulation tests 😊

Ella31 · 11/02/2024 22:13

MrsB2019x · 11/02/2024 21:54

@YellowZ Omg no way, what time is yours? Mine is at 3:40. Can’t wait to see your update!

@Ella31 So sorry AF arrived, I definitely think being stuck in a rut of negative thinking doesn’t help but equally it’s so hard not to! Hope you’re doing okay x

I am. I'm weirdly ok with it not happening this month as my lutral phase increased back up from 9 days to 12 so I'm really happy with that. That's what I was before my boys.

But I feel exhausted about trying again this month. Like we did smep and all around and including ovulation. Its awful when it doesn't come to plan after that. It's like what more could we have done?

MrsB2019x · 11/02/2024 21:54

@YellowZ Omg no way, what time is yours? Mine is at 3:40. Can’t wait to see your update!

@Ella31 So sorry AF arrived, I definitely think being stuck in a rut of negative thinking doesn’t help but equally it’s so hard not to! Hope you’re doing okay x

Ella31 · 11/02/2024 21:44

Nic2908 · 11/02/2024 20:46

How is every doing?

@Ella31 how are you? You have been very quiet since ovulation?

@YellowZ @MrsB2019x how exciting for your 12 week scans!! How are you both feeling?

Hey @Nic2908 thanks for thinking of me. AF arrived two days ago sadly but it was after an awful stressful week, I got very down about the whole trying to conceive again. I got very caught up in negative thinking. Not sure if stress plays a factor in this but I'm trying to remain calm this new cycle. How are you?

YellowZ · 11/02/2024 21:13

@MrsB2019x my scan is on the 22nd too! Yes, DS was almost a week ahead at 12wks. Definitely better to rearrange.

@Stategigi the measurement they take helps predict the risk of chromosomal problems including Downs

Are you doing ok @Nic2908 ? I'm feeling fine physically. Been... disconcertingly easy so far. I hope everything is ok, the baby is growing, and I'm just lucky with symptoms. It doesn't feel real yet.

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MrsB2019x · 11/02/2024 20:51

@Stategigi Yeah ideally your 12 week scan needs to be before 14 weeks as that’s when the fluid on the back of the neck begins to absorb so they can’t measure it accurately. I was moved 5 days ahead with DD so was quite anxious we wouldn’t be able to have the tests done properly!

@Nic2908 I’m actually feeling pretty good! So, so tired still but other than that everything else seems to have subsided for now. How are you doing?

Nic2908 · 11/02/2024 20:46

How is every doing?

@Ella31 how are you? You have been very quiet since ovulation?

@YellowZ @MrsB2019x how exciting for your 12 week scans!! How are you both feeling?

Stategigi · 11/02/2024 19:48

@MrsB2019x great news! When you say 'cut off', what do you mean? Is there a date they need to scan buy to date the baby's gestation accurately? All new to me.

@YellowZ thanks, all good. Waiting to TTC after next period to give internal time to heal and get body moving a bit! Good luck at 12 week scan

Gracie1825 · 11/02/2024 19:35

@YellowZ thanks ill see if I can TRY and wait until Wednesday .I'll be 12dpo then and I don't generally test positive until AF anyway so thats still early for me.
@MrsB2019x glad you got your date changed 😊

MrsB2019x · 11/02/2024 19:27

@YellowZ I ended up calling them because I was worried it was quite close to the cut off, and because I measured big with DD, so they have moved it to 22nd when I’ll be 12+1 😆 so excited!

Best of luck this cycle @Gracie1825 @CurlyWurly1991 ! 🤞

YellowZ · 11/02/2024 19:16

@MrsB2019x 13+5 seems late 😬sorry you have to wait so long! I think I got lucky with mine because I was invited to take part in a research study where they're taking extra measurements at the 12wk scan, they just booked me in over the phone for almost 12wks exactly.

Good luck @Gracie1825 when will you start testing, do you think? If you haven't already.

How are you getting on @Stategigi ? Hope you are doing OK

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Gracie1825 · 11/02/2024 18:53

CurlyWurly1991 · 11/02/2024 18:07

I think I’m the the TWW, about 4dpo. This is first cycle following MMC in Jan and I haven’t had a period yet. Low chance of conception this cycle but there is a chance so fingers crossed to us! @Gracie1825

Similar to me. this is my first post period cycle for me after MMC in December. Definitely a chance 🤞 this one was odd for me..as I ovulated early enough according to OPK and never really got EWCM so think my body is still getting back on track but trying to stay positive at the same time.. baby dust to us both

CurlyWurly1991 · 11/02/2024 18:07

I think I’m the the TWW, about 4dpo. This is first cycle following MMC in Jan and I haven’t had a period yet. Low chance of conception this cycle but there is a chance so fingers crossed to us! @Gracie1825

Gracie1825 · 10/02/2024 20:55

Anyone still.in TWW?
I'm 8dpo haven't been going too insane as I was sick with some virus the last few days but now I'm feeling better and starting to symptom spot again

MrsB2019x · 09/02/2024 07:04

@Joonbug23 That’s the best news! Congratulations! There’s no relief like it

@YellowZ Eek how exciting! 2 weeks will fly by. I got my date through yesterday, 4th March, when I’ll be 13+5 😩

Stategigi · 08/02/2024 21:28

@Joonbug23 aw I’m so happy for you - great news!

@YellowZ two weeks will be here before you know it.

@Room4onemore and @CurlyWurly1991 im sorry you’ve been through your trials, hopefully brighter days lie ahead x

Joonbug23 · 08/02/2024 19:56

@Stategigi thanks for checking in! Been a whirlwind week with all sorts of tests but I had a scan today at 5+1 and saw a gestational sac and yolk sac in the correct place! 100% not having another ectopic and everything’s looking great so I’m over the moon!!

hope all is okay with you?x