TTC after ectopic/after loss/older age etc ALL WELCOME 🙂

Hey guys, hoping I can join!

Here's my story:

Started trying in Aug and got pregnant straight away. Found out it was ectopic at 6 weeks (although nothing could be found in my tubes). Treated with expectant management.

Around 5 weeks later I had a long heavy period & started tracking from then.

I'm now 2 days late but had a negative test. I've had persistent dull cramping on my left side for 4 days and feeling nauseous which I assumed was PMS but it hasn't turned up.

Were everyone's cycles messed up after ectopic? I never tracked ovulation but I had all the major symptoms and we we've pretty much baby danced every day for the last two weeks (honeymoon!) which would be the middle two of my cycle.

Any ideas?

To top things off my best friend is pregnant and my sister in law announced she's is too and is due two weeks after what I would have been. Really struggling to watch her go through everything I thought I would get to at the same time. 🥺
Thanks xx

@Sealover123 thanks for your good news story, and wishing you all the best!

@SnookyPook very sorry to hear of all your struggles. Fingers crossed they can find a cause.

Hi OP I'm not TTC (currently 10 weeks pg with twins) but this was my story:

38 - TTC for 5 months, ectopic and right tube removal

39 - TTC for 4 months and pregnant with twins. Praying for healthy pregnancy and babies🙏🏻

Hope this gives hope to you all! 💓

@SnookyPook what a year you have had. Fully feel you on the imaginary family photos. It’s a tough one isn’t it.

@SnookyPook What a year you have had 😔 Please be gentle to yourself, you have been through a lot. Hopefully your appointment can give you some answers and they can do something to help you

@YellowZ
😂 you will only know with time. 😉

@SnookyPook I am so sorry you had to go through all this. I hope they are able to find the cause after investigations.
And your MH is definitely top most priority you have to think of yourself first I am saying this as i had really bad Posnatal with my last dc and nobody in the family seemed to understand how difficult things were. Take the time to heal my love and I hope the very best for you.

Hello everyone - may I join the gang please? My history:

Pregnancy 1: conceived cycle 4 aged 35 and gave birth to gorgeous DS in Jan '21.

Pregnancy 2: conceived cycle 3 aged 37 but had a MMC in April this year at 11+4 (baby had stopped developing at 7+5)

Pregnancy 3: CP in Sept, lost at 4+5

Pregnancy 4: MC at 7 weeks on Halloween... Knew for a while it was looking bad as the HCG was awful and they suspected ectopic but in the end they didn't see conclusive evidence of that and my HCG started dropping and I started bleeding before any methotrexate was given.

Currently feeling a bit battered and bruised. It's been a draining year. Have given myself a month or two off TTC as I'm now awaiting an appointment with a fertility consultant at my local hospital. I don't seem to have a problem conceiving... It's just keeping them! So don't really want to risk getting pregnant again before I've spoken to someone. However, think I'm just ovulating now and it's weird feeling like I'm 'wasting' a cycle, especially as I'll be 38 at the end of next month. But needs must... My MH has to be the priority right now I think.

Really resonate with the comments from those of you who are a bit older, and also those who were hoping for a smaller age-gap with your existing DC. I'm having to make peace with some of my imagined family pictures ATM. Given the year I've had, I'll just take a healthy baby right now and everything else will fall into place I'm sure 💕

@YellowZ I’ll be using OPKs but not temping. I don’t want to stress myself out with it too much. Fingers crossed it’ll be first cycle for you again! 🤞Totally know where you’re coming from with nursery bugs, I feel like I just pay them to bring viruses home 😵

@Nic2908 thank you just great to have ppl that understand to talk to. And share experiences.

@YellowZ
Oh Dear fingers crossed you and ur dp are well. If it is the same as last 2 times we might be buddies 😉 It will be good to have cycle buddies .

@YellowZ yes it was incredibly rough and almost still feels like it was a nightmare. But I am ok, and it feels like the right time to try.

@lucie1987 i am almost 37 and so I definitely feel your worry regarding age. Although my mum was 45 when she had me so there is some hope!

welcome to everyone else!! Really looking forward to our journey together xx

@YellowZ
Fingers crossed we all get our BFP soon.
My fertile week shows next week going to try with the OPKs this time with my fingers crossed 🤞. I say to myself I am going to be chill about it and if it happens it happens if it doesn’t it doesn’t its like I am prepping my mind lol which will not happen. But feels good to be able to talk about it to ppl that are in the similar situation.

Hi, yeah I didn't know there was a PCO without the S either. Doc originally thought I had PCOS because I have high AMH for my age, longer than normal cycles, and higher number of follicles visible on ultrasound than normal. However she does think I regularly ovulate, and they way she put it is PCOS without the syndrome 🤔.

Yes, having a blocked tube is the same as having just one, though they haven't confirmed that it's blocked, may need to have another scan.

Hiya, would love to join too if that’s okay!

Our journey:
April 2020 - Pregnant after 5 months of trying, ended in ectopic pregnancy but was treated with methotrexate so both tubes are intact
December 2020: BFP after 5 months of trying
August 2021: Our DD was born

CD1 today and it’s our first month trying so we’re right at the start. Wondering if it’ll be 5 months again like the last 2 times! I do worry it’s going to be longer as I’m a bit older now (32) and carrying a lot more weight than a few years ago 🙈 but we’ll see!

I have been told it doesn’t have much impact but then some say it does as you are not producing much hormones so you need to be at a certain range with your thyroid level but was told it can definitely make it more difficult ttc and easily miscarry by the Gp but theres nothing much they can do until 1 yr of ttc.

Tbh im just soo confused and scared 😱 as ttc is one stress and then after conceiving risk of miscarrying I don’t think am strong enough to go through it.
But I know im thinking way ahead.
I really didnt think it was this difficult ttc as I got pregnant twice accidentally its like and emotional rollercoaster I have no idea how people go through this for 1/2 years maybe longer 1 month has made me go mental.🤯

Hi
Mind if I join?

First pregnancy suspected ectopic had a laparoscopy and swipe of uterus so termination 😔

Second surprise pregnancy at 20 dc is 8 and healthy

Third pregnancy again surprise at 22 Dc is 6

recently been diagnosed with underactive thyroid condition and Ttc baby no 3 at age 28 so fingers crossed all goes well only been actively trying for 1 month.

Hi, maybe I could join in?

TTC #1, been trying since April. Turning 38 in 9 days.

Have PCO (PCOS without the syndrome, is what I was told, which apparently means I am regularly ovulating). OPK show positive for 2 days then go back to negative.

Had SIS, which showed that one tube may be blocked, and the presence of a polyp, which was removed by hysteroscopy a month ago.

Currently on CD1 😔

I'd love to join as also trying for #2 and have had an ectopic.

Pregancy 1 conceived after 6 cycles/5 months. Straightforward pregnancy and birth. I had a lot of risk factors piled on in the pregnancy though: prolactinoma, high bmi, family history of clots and known beforehand. Then during pregnancy they added: low Papp-A, endometriosis and a 10 cm cyst - I was told it would have been difficult for me to conceive, however pregnancy was very straightforward.

Pregnancy 2: accident but ended up in ruptured ectopic. I didn't know i was pregnant until almost 7weeks as I had a normal period just a few days early. I had my 10cm cyst removed during the op - they don't know what it is, I was told endometrioma as they what it looked like I had on scans, but biopsy said it was a benign functional cyst, which consultant said she was a bit stumped by as they don't grow that big or last that long.

We've now been trying 4 cycles since the ectopic, I had a BFP (I think - may have been an evap) yesterday and this morning but was accompanied by painful cramping and heavy bleeding (period 3 days early). I'll test again once this period is over in case I'm having a repeat ectopic but I'm fairly sure today is CD1 for me!

Thanks @YellowZ. The hycosy was fine, I thought they hadn't even started yet and they said "all done" no pain or anything at all. My little one is 3, I ideally only wanted 3 years between them and the next baby but life hasn't worked out that way. If we're lucky to have another then I suppose a silver lining is less pressure of two nursery fees at the same time!

Should also add that in currently 7dpo of the first cycle of trying!